Ok, so ive been with this girl now for almost 6 months, we have had sex and at first i needed to work lasting longer, then maybe a month into it i gave her a first vaginal orgasm, with more work on lasting longer it seemed i was able to give her an orgasm at least everytime. now the past 2 weeks it seems much more difficult to give her an orgasm, we've tried various positions and oral, nothing seems to be helping.
my time has increased dramatically with the lasting longer but it seems after an hour or so it doesn't want to stay up.
thanks
Please find and read the sticky post entitled The Program and then go and do what it says.
Stop focusing on her vagina and pounding away unceasingly at it in the hopes of getting her off - mainly because it won't work and that method bores her tears and makes her sore. Sex isn't how long you can last, it is about what you do with sex. If you can last 15 minutes then 15 minutes it is - and then repeat the entire process. No one said you do this only once and then you're done.
ok firstly sex isnt about just sticking it in and job done so maybe the best thing for you is to encourage a bit of communication about what pleases her and what doesnt. i appriciate that your concerned on how long you last but evilC is right it really desnt matter the length of your session but the things you do within it. Read her body language when you visit her breasts with teeth and tongue kissing and caressing is always a good way to start. speed is not of the essence in sex so take you time. glide you hands from thigh to her clit and away, for a bit of teasing pleasure. it may be that she needs turned on in order to get and orgasm when intercourse takes place. also look into what you doing on the net and take advise from what you see , there is no doubt if you learn the techniques before you get in the sack then she will be riggling about before you know it and once the 1st orgasm has passed then im sure the flood gate will open.This however does not mean you are to stop!!!!!! On that note try and find her G spot ( generally insert finger palm up and arc your finger just as you go in and there it will be, some are more prominant than others so dont be afrais to apply pressure a bit to find it. this is a good way to bring to multi orgasm. On a different note i think you two are getting to worried about getting there so havea night in chill out cook dinner and wine and dine her and just let it happen. you are both in the same boat so there shouldnt be any embarassment hear. Hope it goes well m8 and remember TAKE YOUR TIME!!!!!! Andy
The majority of women don't have vaginal orgasms on a regular basis. A large percentage of us get off better on clitoral stimulation instead. Personally I prefer it when my husband gives me an orgasm from oral or manual stimulation before intercourse. He frequently gives me multiples that have me begging him to get inside me.
Sometimes I will touch myself while he's inside me and I love to cum that way but only 3 times have I ever reached orgasm from penetration alone.
Oh also about the g-spot. You should certainly try to find hers but it isn't always going to happen. My husband and I have tried and tried and tried again to find mine but apparently it's in hiding. I really don't feel cheated tho. I have no complaints.
some times its not the sex its the mood. try using candles to light the room dont us to many five to ten, the bigger the candly the sell u need smaller more, and u dont have to us high dollar candles . we use $1.00 candles from dollar genral. then give her a nice long back rub then work ur way down to her legs bypass the the pucy as tempting as it may be it will drive her up the wall the longer u dont touch her. and just take ur time with her please her first then she'll take care of u. at lease i know this is what helped my slow down and learn how to please my wife to the fullest. oh and all the positions in the world want help u be great in bed if u cant read ur lovers body langauge. well best of luck and have fun know matter what.:):rolleyes::cool:
Foreplay First and then:
The G-Spot is about 1 inch inside on the roof of the vagina and feels like a squashed grape with goosebumps on it. Stimulate by using a palm-up 'come hither' motion while gently pressing upward then augment by moving your entire hand in and out. If he's especially 'clever', he can stimulate her G-Spot using the head of his penis. He has to be upright, the glans should be just inside of her, and the motion is more a flexing of his lower back than a thrust.
The Anterior fornix is further back behnd the G-Spot and feels like a washboard. Stimulate as for the G-Spot above. Hands only here.
You will know when you've fuond it because she will go off like a rocket. Yes, it is exactly that dramatic and unmistakable. The hotter she's been primed by foreplay the more radical her 'positive response'.
The Posterior fornix should only be attempted after she's had one orgasm, allowing the vagina to relax into its 'coital' state. To access, 'go deep' below her cervix, lean over her at about a 45 degree angle (depending upon the angle of your penis) and press the head of your penis down while moving back and forth. Once you've gotten there, you will (again) know by her 'positive response' which will include things like being noisy, clawing your back, flushing - all of those good things. Then you can happily thrust away.
For those of you who are male: the real trick is to rotate through all 4 of her hotspots (clitoris included): one orgasm each which should send her into a sexual state of Nirvana having just one rolling orgasm that lasts for centuries.
(Yes, I miss him.)
For those of you who are female: Relax, breathe, focus and let the orgasms roll on through. Now is NOT the time to be shy, coy or holding onto control; just be honest and enjoy!