I've been going out with my boyfriend for ober 2 years now. All of a sudden he tells me that he doesn't like how I give him a bj. since then, I've read books articles, this site, watched movies and it seems like I'm doing nothing different as anybody else. Please help me. This is driving me insane and I'm really embarassed to talk to him about it. No one has ever told me that I give bad blowjobs. Appreciate any advice.
Thu, 07/13/2006 - 00:25
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Help on Blowjobs - URGENT
my bf had said sthing abit similar...maybe not so harsh.... in that he said that what i would be doing (the few occasions i actually do) wasn't THAT arousing...it had room for improvement....so i the next time i was doing it again we kind of talked each other through it....i would try something and ask him if that was good or not and we would tell me what was good and what wasn't. i also got a lot of good tips off this site which really impressed him haha
when i tried them out he was blown away... he was like 'wow what happened that was amazing'!!
this site is so cool! :)
but the best way as others said is to ask him to 'talk u through it' when you're doing things ask for his approval...if he doesn't like sthing you're doing ask him what he would prefer.
To me there no such thing as a bad BJ. Maybe if you use a lot of teeth but sometime's that help's even more.He's just being difficult.
Hmmm
so he didn't give any other advice other than he doesn't like it?
it would help to know EXACTLY what it is about them he doesn't like?
you know?
him being vague doesn't help you out.
thank you, I guess my problem is that now I'm really embarassed to even bring it up
As a guy..I've never heard of a BAD BJ ??? LOL....there are varying degrees of good,better,best...but NEVER bad!!...and I'll take "bad" over NONE!!..so tell him to p_i_s_s off !! before he gets kicked out of the MENS CLUB !! LOL
just ask him. my boyfriend and i are open about everything. if you're doing anything sexual you need to be able to talk things out sometimes. and maybe you should just act what it is he wants you to do to make it better.
if he's going to be an ASS and tell you that you suck and then give you no reason why, no feedback, no anything, then i just say screw him. if he's not going to help you, why whould you help him.
that was a little harsh. i guess he may just be shy or something. well, like the other said, just talk to him.
Maybe he's like my husband, who doesn't like them AT ALL (no matter what you do)....:mad:
First ask him what your doing wrongg. I mean maybe your using your teeth or something. Then ask him what he likes. And when you start giving him head put your lips like over your teeth so they dont scrape. When you go down on the shaft suckk in and slowly move your head back and forth. Or some guys like it when you go fast. Also when your movin your head up and down hold the bottom of his dick and like give him a hand job at the same time. Guys also love when you do like a figure 8 on the tip of their dick.
The best advice has been said...ask him what makes him feel good.
The first time I gave my bf a bj he told me I was too rough..lol. Now I know to be more gentle.
Now he can't get enough!
[QUOTE=mojocapelli;148440]I've been going out with my boyfriend for ober 2 years now. All of a sudden he tells me that he doesn't like how I give him a bj. since then, I've read books articles, this site, watched movies and it seems like I'm doing nothing different as anybody else. Please help me. This is driving me insane and I'm really embarassed to talk to him about it. No one has ever told me that I give bad blowjobs. Appreciate any advice.[/QUOTE]
Forget BJ's - that's not your problem.
If he can't tell you anymore about why he doesn't like your BJ's and if you don't feel comfortable asking him, then you two are in a dead end relationship. This has NOTHING to do with sex and everything to do with "communication" and "love".