my girlfriend has very little sexual experience and has a hard time pleasing me. i'm afraid to say she is very bad at trying to masterbate me or perform oral, and during intercourse i am often bored and lose my erection because although i give her multiple orgasms and she ejaculates, her wetness drops my sensation and i am unable to ejaculate myself. i have tried extra sensitive condoms and a few positions that make it a little better, but i still have only ejaculated 2 times out of the 30+ times we've had intercourse. does anyone have any ideas? we communicate very well and are open to suggestions. we are both frustrated by this problem.
Mon, 02/05/2007 - 21:34
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help!!!
* Try using a natural skin condom.
+ Apply some lube to just the Glans of your penis before rolling on the condom.
* Do not begin intercourse until you are at the brink of a climax, yet far enough away that you can maintain control and not coast beyond the point of no return when you move into position.
* Try different positions as each has a somewhat different feel and degree of friction.
"my girlfriend has very little sexual experience and has a hard time pleasing me"
SHOW her what pleases you. DEMONSTRATE if you have to. Tell her good, bad, left, right, try doing this, try that, rotate a bit, firmer, faster, slower, softer - jeez man - she's not a mind-reader!
You might, since you are so easily bored, try changing your mindset a bit as well. It isn't just her job to please you - you should work on being easier to please.
your double standards with regards to which partner should take the lead in pleasing is quite tiring actually,you seem to practice double speak
How the question is phrased reveals their mindset. BOTH partners are in on thihs but each has to participate. If he's thinking that it is only up to her to discover what she has to do to please him, well - he needs to put more effort into communication.
Do you think you cold focus more upon answering the questions rather than wasting everyone's time by attacking me in the threads? Take it outside, bud.
thanks for coming down on me, but we have both researched this and are BOTH frustrated by it thank you. plus with "little experience" that means although i can tell her what works it doesn't necessarily mean that she ill either do it or know what to do. anyways thanks at least to dancingdoc. i'll try that. sorry if i'm not an english teacher and find it difficult to say...this is quite embarrassing for me to write here you know?