hey,
Im 18 and im a virgin... i have never really bin the 1 night stand kinda guy.. i just dont feel gud in me self afta. I now have a Gf who i really love.. and we have bin together for a while. She is also 18 and the problem is she isnt a virgin... i asked her how many people she has slept with and she said 3. The thing is i can't get the other people out of my head... she is really beautiful and she is an ex-model and the number really isnt that high but this is because of somthing that happend to her one night when she was 12 by a poor excuse of a man. i really do care for her so much and i just dont know how to get the problem out of my head, in a way i wish i lost it years ago because i doubt this would be an issue but on the other hand i think lossing it to someone who i love would be a great experience. I know this must sound stupid but i just dont know what to do. I know she really loves me too and that this is going to be a serious relationship. I just need to get this issue out of my head.
P.s one other thing that i cant get out of my head is that i wont be as good as her other sexual partners..
please give me some advice..
thanks.
u need to forget her past..bcoz thats what it is- THE PAST! if shes love u like u say, she won't be conparing u to her past sexual partners. i don't really understand what u need the advice about:confused: but anywaysssssss, read the boards, u might pick up a few tricks on how to please her! practise makes perfect..so start experimenting!
Plus, the older you get... everyone you meet will have a sexual past and have slept w/ more and more people.... its something you can't avoid. We ALL have a sexual past once we have sex that first time.
There are several threads on this subject. Like Sexy said.. its her PAST... can't live there!
I recently responded to a woman with a similar issue. As Demon says, beyond a certain age, everyone you meet will have a sexual history. That is her histiry and not yours. Once you get the information, the problem is yours. You are doing a job on yourself based on partial information that you should not have in the first place.
Beyond the broadest terms, I have never know the sexual history of my partners and they no little of my background. In other words, you asked an inappropriate question and got an honest, presumably, reply. Now you have to live with that. For what it is worth, women are not nearly as interested in the mechanics of being good as they are in the romance and emotions.
See "past Life Jealousy" in Married and Long Term.
Cheers guys, your right its the past and she is with me now and that is all that matters... thanks for your advice... its one of those things where it just kept buging me and couldnt get it out of my head. Any ways all gud now cheers xx:)