I've been dating my fiance for about 6 years. Tonight, while drinking a few martini's, she just told me that she's had 1 female ejaculation orgasm in the past, but was to embarrised to do it again. She says that I have brought her to this point many times since, but has backed off because of embarrisment. I've told her that this is fine and would welcome the opportunity to see her pleasured in this way. Is there any other way I can make her feel comfortable with this? All I want to do is please her as much as I can, but how can I get her to overcome this embarrisment and realize that I am happy to see her in that state because it turns me on seeing her that arrouzed.
Mon, 08/02/2004 - 04:39
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Help????
Would you know I was kidding if I said "a few more martinis?"
Seriously, it sounds to me like you're on the way... for whatever reasons, she's not totally comfortable with herself (body, passion) but this recent conversation suggests she's getting more comfortable with you. She did tell you. Concentrate on the positive, not the fact that she won't do it.
You can't get her over her embarrassment... but you can love her and accept her and show approval when she opens up.
Thank her for telling you how she feels and make sure she knows she can do that without fear you'll judge her. Also, if you pressure her (doesn't sound like you are) you'll discourage her from sharing her "secrets."
Patience. Trust. Acceptance.
Female orgasm does not equal ejaculation. Most women who have regularly had orgasms have not ejaculated. I hope she is not denying herself any orgasms because of the fear of ejaculating. It seems to be a natural, if not understood, process. All you can do is reassure her and she can have whatever orgasm she wants - or, rather, whatever happens, happens.