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He wants to see me after all these years .. Help, I need a male's point of view!!

I have been having casual sex with a man for the past 15 years. This man just so happens to be my first lover. We have a strong connection as we share alot of history and similar friends. Throughout the years, we have both had relationships and even lived with other people. Before I left the state, he asked me to move in with him but I was afraid to commit. We kept in touch after I moved and even continued hooking up when I returned home for 6 months at a time. We stopped speaking for a few years because I got married and he no longer wanted to talk to me. We just recently started speaking again via phone and he wants to come and visit me. I do want to see him but #1- I am married and #2- I am scared that I would want to hook up with him. During our last conversation, he told me that he remembers the last time we were together and what we did that I never did before. He also told me that he thinks of us often. He tells me that he doesn't want to call me when my husband is home but my husband doesn't have a problem with him calling. I have been completely honest with my husband about the nature of our relationship and would never lie to him.

I am wondering why he feels this way and why he wants to see me after all these years? Do you think that he could be in love with me? :confused:

This other man may love you yet not be in love. If anything, he is in love with the idea of what could have been.

If you agree to meet him, then include your husband.

You are concerned this guy loves you? No, he is looking to play around without your spouse handing around. If he loved you, he would have married you, and he would not be sitting there trying to jeopardize your marriage...

Yes, I am concerned to know if he loves me since we are friends and have been for the past 25 years. Maybe his intention is to attempt to play around with me without my hubby but that's not going to happen. My husband will definately be included in our meeting. I agree that if he loved me that he would have asked to marry me but he cannot jeopardize my marriage; only I can do that. The reason that I am seeking advice, is because I am trying to discover if I still want my marriage. I like to think situations through and since I am not a male, I am trying to figure out what he is thinking.

[QUOTE=sera300;195474]You are concerned this guy loves you? No, he is looking to play around without your spouse handing around. If he loved you, he would have married you, and he would not be sitting there trying to jeopardize your marriage...[/QUOTE]

Keep issues as two separate ones. First do you want to remain married? Yes or no. Then based on that make any choices of exploring a relationship or lack of with this guy after you end the marriage. Don't mix the issues otherwise you will become very confused and make bad choices.

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