Be thankful - hes not ready, and is being honest. Would you rather be with someone who sleeps with just anyone, or know you are with a man who thinks about his actions before acting?

If the relationship is right, and you two really hit it off - it will happen IF it should. Just be patient, and enjoy a man who wants to kiss, be romantic and have foreplay.

Thats pretty weird, maybe he is insecure or nervous, ask him about it.

Maybe you should make the first move. He might be shy

[QUOTE=beautifulelegy;171945]I've got condoms right on top of my dresser. [/QUOTE]

As you may or may not know, condoms come in small, medium, and, large sizes as well as different styles. Just having condoms available does not necessarily mean that you have ones that will fit him properly. Better, me thinks, at some point to fit him. How you do this is up to you, although, you can certainly make a game out of it, especially if he knows that you have a stash of condoms at the ready. Just get one, reassure him that you are not going any farther than what he is comfortable doing, yet you want to be sure that the condoms you have will fit him.

If he agrees to a fitting, great. You can also use Implied Consent by taking matters into your own hands so to speak. Before any lube has been applied to his penis, apply some to the Glans only, then massage it a bit to drive him wild before holding his penis steady with one hand and rolling the condom on with the other.

What you do next is up to you. Of course, the primary objective is to check for a snug and proper fit. Do this sort of matter-of-factly with a casual air about the project. If it is too loose or too tight, go back to the store and select another size. If it fits, then play with him a bit with it on before removing it. {Note: Apply lubrication to the outside of the condom before playing, even if it is a lubricated model.) By doing these things, you will know ahead of time if you have the correct condom for him; and, you will have made the determination part of your love making which shouldn't be a bad thing. If he is still not ready for intercourse, and is worried, simply defuse the situation by informing him that you are doing this so that when the time is right, there won't be any surprises or problems.

[QUOTE] We both want to have sex.. but he won't. I don't understand why.. is it me? [/QUOTE]

He is the only one who can answer your question. Communication is the cornerstone of a successful relationship. I recommend that you work on this important aspect of your partnership by asking him what his concern is and what is holding him back.

Something else to at least try once you have his penis "gloved" is to ask him if he wants to go further. If he isn't sure, then ask if he would at least like to place the tip of his penis against your Vulva and rub the area in general. He may or may not go for it and if he does, you are one step closer.

The next step may or may not cause him to panic. You'll have to decide what to do based upon his mindset. As you move his penis about your genitals, at some point you can position it against your vaginal opening, pausing while you guage his reaction. You might even try pressing lightly against him, although not with the intent to have him enter. Whisper to him that you want him and want him to enter and to become one with you for a moment in time. One of two things will happen: He will either back down, which is OK for the time being; or, he will not be able to hold back and will want to proceed. If he continues to hold back, at least he knows and is reassured that you want him! The affirmation of this fact should make his decision making easier.

Finally, please keep in mind that you want to be bold in your approach with him on all this without him feeling threatened. You want to up the price of poker so to speak without being pushy. This is why I emphasize being light hearted in your approach with him. Now, go have that talk with him at a time when the two of you are not planning on being intimate.

I hope this is of help. Good luck.

As Doc said, communication is vital here. Though he may not be a virgin, his sexual experience may have left some bad taste in his mouth. Perhaps he is just worried that sex will ruin the relationship you have. Talk to him, let him know that you want him and you would like to know if he feels the same and if not, why.

If he isn't ready, he just isn't ready so he needs to be able to move forward at his own pace. You wouldn't want to feel pressured either, right? Just be careful about how you bring up the subject.

Let us know how it goes! Good luck to you.