ok, i am gonna go off on 2 differnt paths here! first about the origianal ??. my bf isn't exactly the smallest man in the world. in fact, i often get a lot of teasing about him cuz of his size (and the fact that he is, well. how should i say this? not hair free?) but i don't think about that at all. no, he may not have the biggest member in the world either, but it doesn't make a difference to me. i love him for who he is, and same goes to me! (now kinda getting on the other foot... LoL) i am not the smallest girl in the world either. i'm sure he gets a lot of teasing baout me to (especially cuz i'm a freshman and he's a junior.) but any who... when i saw what eDJ wrote, i was kinda touched! LoL i have never had a prob w/ getting guys either. any way, back on subject here. i do go by the "it isn't the size of the boat, it's the motion of the ocean" rule. if you are feeling insecure about this situation, maybe you should try that rule to. and yes, try out different positions to see what works and feels best. whew! i just kinda blabed a lot. srry! hope i mighta helped tho!!

I've dated girls of all different hights and weights, from the short petite to the taller obese.  There were two in the BBW league...one being just a big girl who would have looked better about three proportions down, and the other was a more typical obese girl.

Strange thing, the second girl was wonderful sex, lovely to be with intimately, appreciative and supportive of me.  She was
super with spoiling my ego when complimenting my sexual prowess in making her feel so satisfied.  She knew how to
keep her man wanting to have sex with her...ya just couldn't over do it with her.  She had a very pretty face, voice, her hair was lovely and I adored the nipples of her breast.  She was just much larger than me when I was 170 lbs.

I learned from my involvement with her that different positions were out of the question.  Even oral was difficult although she wanted it she could understand the limits her
condition left her and her lover with.  Missionary and doggie were about what we could do and I wondered if my penetration was truly enough for her.(I was guaging it by
what I could do with the more petite girls)

What I learned from her was that she could attract guys as long as they weren't seen in public together.  That guys liked her but were leary of being seen and teased by peers or "those skinny bitches" she would referr to who often took a sadistic pleasure in distancing her boyfriends from her with their harrassment.  I realized how vicious some girls can be
when I was with her.  I also realized she had a well equipted
arsenal for getting even too....that nobody including myself would want her as an enemy.

She graduated from college and moved on somewhere and today is just a memory.  I still remember her teasing me about how good in bed I was and how she would put me out for stud and charge money for me.  After we went our ways I would see her with other guys as it seems she never had any problem getting guys.  I wonder from time to time if she isn't running a male escort biz somewhere and taking all the "skinny girls" money from them now.

eDJ

Ahhh my link didnt work....

Well like I said try a google search, type in something like "sexual postions for overweight people", or something like that.

Something else you need to consider is what size you are. If you are petit, and he is overweight, that may cause some issues. If you are "average", then the problems may be lessened or different. If you are about the same size as him, then you both may have to be careful. Just take it slow and feel each other's bodies out (no strange pun intended).

And please, be sensitive to him about it. Dont keep reminding him that he is overweight, this WILL NOT help or influence him to lose. And if his penis appears or is smaller than you expected, DONT tell him that! That would be rude, and would seriously bruise his ego.

I ahree with some of what Rawbob said. Are you concerned about his weight because you think you arent as attracted to him as you could be? Or is it truly just that you are worried about sex?

If its postions you are concerned about, this may help:

Also just try google or Yahoo! search. It really should not be a problem, he is 250 pounds, thats not THAT big. But perhaps he shouldn't lay directly on you while in missionary, that may hurt. Other than that, you really should be fine.

Well....how do i put this delicately....how do you measure up to him size wise? Are you petite, bbw or somewhere in between?

I'm not sure what you're asking.....if you like him..and you sense your going to get intimate.....why are you concerned about his size (both penis and body) now?

There are LOTS of large folks who seem to have very happy sex lives....and while i do not condone obesity, it's somthing you will have to deal with in your relationship.....that and clearly the health-related issues to being overweight.

I totally agree, Im sure he already feels a little self conscious about his body.
And like Rawbob has said before, body size can make your penis "appear" smaller or larger. Your b/f could totally be average or above, but b/c of his large body size. You can't see it as well.