We are both still exploring others sexuality, but two minutes? :p A while back, he was drunk, and it lasted over half an hour. But I can't get him smashed every time. I think, maybe, we just need to do it more and build up a resistancy... He can hardly help himself though. Hand job- 5 minutes. Blowjob- 3 minutes. Sex- varies. I try stopping and starting, to make it last longer, but as soon as we go again, he cums. Not that I am complaining, he does a lot of other stuff to make up for time, but I wish I could make it more pleasureable for him, and not just cum after cum after cum.
And he doesn't stay up after he cums or gets back up easily. Advice?
hmmm this is a pickle you have isnt it. i would say that if you arnt using a condom for sex then maybe that will help with the resistancy because of its de sensitization. maybe when you stop to let him recover take a bit longer then usuall. let him go down on you for like 2 min tops and if he still cums right off the bat then i dont think i have anything to say that will help you there. anyways i hope that helps and i hope to hear if it worked or not.
Do you ever spank him?
When I was having sex with my guy he spanked my ass while I was riding and just about to orgasm. This totally shocked me and threw me off so much that it took me another 5 minutes to build up again...just for another spanking.
It's not that I didn't like it, but I'm a stickler for attention to detail and I like to focus on everything while I'm having sex. But when I orgasm, I definitely focus on that only {or the erotic facial expressions my mate is making ^_~} So when he spanks me while I'm zoned in for the kill.... It lasts longer... and if he continues to lol, well it lasts even LONGER.
Try it? Worth a shot right? =P {Just make sure it doesn't turn him off....}
Well you could get him to masturbate between sexual intercourse. Also using condoms is a great way. They also make a condom that helps the guy not feel to much. Also, I'm guessing the reason he alsted when he was drunk is because he was -relaxed- make sure he is relaxed during sex. And that strainging face as he ****s you.. is not relaxed. If he goes to fast, always calm the sex down, and use foreplays, such as massage
Reiahart: I could try that... He has a GREAT ass. A bicyclist.
Sexyand17 / Pawnys: Often, I give him a blowjob before we start having sex. He cums, then after a while I help him get back up, AND we use a condom. Still, it pretty short. He says he tried thinking about other things... We also try different positions, most recently, on the counter top of my bathroom. Hehe. It was a little harder, but it did last longer. =]
please 2 minutes, my guy once after like 5 pumps jumped up and covered himself with a napkin, i'm like what? and another, after like 30 seconds, or like 2 or 3 pumps, he finished? ne1 think they've had a guy faster than that?
my guy ranges, to too soon, to too long. oh well. when we're together i never know which one it'll be. :)
p.s. woth a hand job or oral, he takes forever. how can men be sensitive to the wetness of a woman, but not be so sensitive to a womans mouth, when they're so simialr?
> Try it? Worth a shot right? =P {Just make sure it doesn't turn him off...
Also, the spanking should not hurt! You can spank and make a big production out of the hand/arm actions used yet not have the actual contact be rough or painful. This shouldn't turn her off, either.
> I try stopping and starting, to make it last longer, but as soon as we go again, he cums.
Stopping and starting does work well. The key is in providing each other with feedback, either verbal or non-verbal, on how you are responding to each other's caresses and for what you may need--now. Here's the deal: Each of us has a sort of bell-shaped arousal curve that has a flat (plateau) top to it. The shapes and widths are different for men and for women. For men, the trick is to pause long enough for his sense of urgency to subside before starting again. This requires a couple of things from him. The first, is his feedback to you; the second is for him to recognize the feelings associated with a benchmark just prior to his reaching the point of no return where he can still maintain control and not coast beyond to have a climax.
This requires some training. I suggest that the two of you practice several times at times when you are not planning to be romantic and will not be interrupted. Please keep in mind that this is a training exercise for him and there will likely be some failures in the beginning. When they happen do NOT make a big deal about them; just laugh them off and continue trying, later.
The exercise requires teamwork. You provide the hand job while he learns to associate certain feelings with positions along his curve. Furthermore, he must also learn to keep a part of his conscious brain focused on his progress rather than to become all consumed and lost while enjoying the fruits of your labor so to speak. He absolutely must be able to tell you to pause what you are doing (hand and/or mouth stimulation) and not just say to himself, "oh well" or "this is too good and I'll just try to go a little longer", etc. He has to say or otherwise indicate that you have to stop IMMEDIATELY if not sooner. Your part is to do just that and take your hand or mouth away as if you had just touched a hot poker! or at at the very least hold his penis rigidly still. You cannot move his penis in the slightest because doing so will likely stimulate deep-seated nerves at the base of the penis or in the root structure inside his abdomen and he'll coast beyond the point of no return. Again, if and when this should happen, neither of you should make a big deal out of it. Say "woops" and try again, later. Another of his tasks is to learn how long to pause or to slide back down the curve before starting up again. So, not only does he have to recognize and then communicate to you when he is about to climax yet won't if you immediately stop; he must also learn when he that sense of urgency has been lost well enough to start up again. The tough part for him may be that if he bounces back to soon after restarting he may not be able to communicate quickly enough--or worse, want to at the time.
You can repeat the exercise two to perhaps four times each session. You do not want to go overboard and drive him "mad", so when the two of you decide to end the session, let him enjoy a climax. How many sessions it will take depends upon how easy it is for him to make the associations and then to learn to "wake up" out of his all consuming bliss to tell you to stop. How long this will take depends upon how often the two of you can work on the exercise. Plan to spend a few weeks at this.
The reason I say that you should do the exercise when not planning to be romantic is because you want to treat the training sessions like a "Quickie". There should be no build up of passion beforehand. So, do not do any kissing or caressing, just grab on and begin working your magic with his penis in various ways to build up his arousal.
Our resident doc., Brandye, who is out of the office for the foreseeable future is fond of another method known as the "Squeeze technique". This works to thuart his climax and is really good when applied in the here and now. You can learn all about this by doing a GOOGLE search.
I hope this is of help. Good luck. Got questions?