:confused: OK...so my boyfriend and i have sex all the time but he says that it doesnt feel good. he says that there is two different types of girls. he says that some feel good and some dont. he also said that most dont but the ones that do feel good are excellent. i asked him if there was anything i could do to improve our sex and he said that its nothing i can do....he said that girls feel different on the inside. the good ones feel the same, and the bad ones feel the same. other guys ive asked said they didnt ever notice this. is something wrong with him or me? i really would like some help with this!!! is it true that girls are born differently and there is no way that you can change it?
Tue, 09/26/2006 - 20:54
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He says it doesn't feel good for him
This could be a way of him going girl to girl, sleeping with each of them just for sex. You never know, how long have you been dating?
God knows whats up with him i think hes messed up or his bell end has no sensitivity, once his knob is inside he will be able to feel all sorts of good ****.
I hesitate to say there's something wrong with him.
But there's definitely something wrong with what he's saying :rolleyes:
Anyway, it bears no meaningful resemblance either to my own experience or to anything I've ever heard from any other guy ....
well thanks lol. i just get self consious and feel like something is wrong with me...but ive never ever heard it from any other guy other than him so idk. he is uncircumsized but i dont think that has anything to do with it because then some girls wouldnt feel better than others. do you think maybe he does it to put me down so that i wont want to have sex with other people and feel that only he will except me? idk.
> do you think maybe he does it to put me down so that i wont want to have sex with other people and feel that only he will except me?
I think I understand what you mean; however, read this and tell me where the logic is. Why would you want to stay in a relationship with someone who puts you down? Seems to me that you would in fact be looking for someone who believes that you are the one and only and just fine the way you are.
> he is uncircumsized but i dont think that has anything to do with it because then some girls wouldnt feel better than others.
A person with an uncircumsized penis is capable of experiencing two different set of sensations from the Glans. The first is what is produced with the foreskin in place; the second is with it retracted. It is also a well known fact that the nerve endings in these men are vastly more sensitive. Some men cannot stand to have their Glans touched while others can with a bit of exposure and conditioning over several months. The circumcised Glans have had a lifetime of exposure to clothing and the elements and as great as it feels to have the area caressed by hand, mouth and lips, the intensity is not nearly as overpowering.
I think this fellow has issues that may have nothing to do with you. That he thinks of you in a negative way would be reason enough to end the relationship. I agree with NizeGie.
Having said what what I had to say, is this:
* The type (slippery or not) of mucus can affect what he feels
* The angle of his penis in relationship the the angle of the vagina based
upon the position you are using will also affect what he feels
* Sometimes after giving birth the vaginal opening will relax and if a tear does
not heal properly the vagina can feel "loose". There is a doctor here in the
U.S. who specializes in laser reconstruction to tighten things up. Laser or
scapels, this would not be a problem for women who have not given birth.
> my boyfriend and i have sex all the time but he says that it doesnt feel good.
> i asked him if there was anything i could do to improve our sex and he said that its nothing i can do.
If it doesn't feel good why is he doing it "all the time"? If you want to stay in a relationship with this guy then you might want to just give him hand jobs so he gets the same results albeit better, hopefully. If he complains about no intercourse then you can offer the retort that you thought that since intercourse isn't all that enjoyable for him that this might be better for him--and see what his reaction to that is.
I disagree with his second comment, above. This guy is just an insensitive jerk who doesn't seem willing to be open and explore the possibilities with you. Another reason IMHO to drop him and find someone who charishes you just as you are.
well i really appreciate all of the advice. so there is no difference between girls insides? it just makes me feel self consious because i dont want anything to be wrong with me. but thank you very much for the advice. i do love this guy so much and am willing to keep up with things. i just hope that sex gets better for him! or maybe it is and he just doesnt want to admit it. its a strange situation. idk. but anyother advice will be very much appreciated. more comments is more reassurance that what he is saying isnt true! :)
I am sure some vaginas are tighter than others... but not real noticable. The only thing that can really stretch out a vagina is childbirth.
I am like you.. if you are one of the "bad" ones.. then why continue to stay w/ you and have sex w/ you? if there is no hope of things getting better?
He must be enjoying something
There are many positions that can enhance everyones pleasure.
[QUOTE=cherrykisses123;153547]well thanks lol. i just get self consious and feel like something is wrong with me...but ive never ever heard it from any other guy other than him so idk. he is uncircumsized but i dont think that has anything to do with it because then some girls wouldnt feel better than others. do you think maybe he does it to put me down so that i wont want to have sex with other people and feel that only he will except me? idk.[/QUOTE]
Assuming he's more than 13-14 years old, I'd say you are on to something.
It's a mild form of an abusive relationship that establishes power. It's possible he might not even realize he's doing it... but you need to get in his face and get on equal ground with him. There are several ways you can do this.
One is to tell him he's not so great either.
This is not clinically complicated... and while there are certainly physical differences here's the key: he's telling you there's nothing you can do. So when you tell him that he's not so great either you're letting him know that sex is about a lot more than flesh. Or at least it should be.
There's a guy out there who would (will?) find you incredibly sexy and you'd feel better than good to him because he loves you, not just your vagina. (Even your bf's description of types of girls indicates he's depersonalized the act of sex.)
If you love this guy, you are going to have to assume some responsbility for his sexual education. That's not too tough. What's going to be hard is teaching him what relationships are about.
The only thing "wrong" with you is that you are smart enough to see that he isn't.
Honey, don't listen to him. There is nothing "wrong" with you!!! Physically, there may not be anything "wrong" with him, either, but he definitely sounds like there is something wrong mentally for saying that to you.
If you love this guy, then stick around and take what he says with a grain of salt. Personally, I think you're probably young and should just move on to greener pastures and let him find a, ahem, "good" vagina. Hey, maybe it's really not vagina that he's into...?
I agree with Fluffer. I have made love with a few females and I have never ever noticed any difference - they were all fantastic.
I really don't know what planet your current boyfriend is on. It is sad that he feels like this about you. Personally, I would leave someone like that - seems to me he doesn't like/love you for who you are, which is one of the most important things in any relationship.
well all of these are very interesting to read. i really do love this guy. yes...i am quite young. maybe i will just take it as that he has to put me down to make himself feel better. i know he loves me...im sure of that. i think he does it to make sure i dont mess around with other guys maybe? idk. he is a year older than me but i dont think that makes much of a difference. but thank you so much for all of your comments! its boosted my self confidence which is great! i know he loves foreplay and all of that so maybe ill just do that more and less sex? i just dont get how he wants to have sex alot but then doesn't like it? ive talked to other guys and they said when they arnt interested they just can't get their member up if you know what i mean. he is always hard. when we have sex...so i dont get how it cant feel good but then he is staring at me in my eyes and touching me all over and acting like we're making sweet love. the pieces of the puzzle just dont seem to quite fit. and we have been together for a year and a half...just to answer your question...so we have had sex PLENTYYYof times. lol. :)
oh ya...what are some positions i could do to enhance pleasure? i've done many but could you please name a few that maybe would be better?? thank you! :)
What a prick, I would get rid of him asap.
I think its his way of trying too force you into trying other things, but he's not very good at it.
There will be someone out there who will love you, for being you. This guy obviously doesnt. The thing is, he is ruining sex for you as women need security and comfort too enjoy themselves. It also sounds like he is knocking your confidence.
Alot of girls get stuck with wanker guys because as they think they cant do any better, but you can do a million times better than him.
The guy sounds like an idiot to me and you should move on. Find someone that can really appreciate you and won't try to control you like this.
I use to think that all girls felt different. but according to my now bf all girls feel the same. somehow i don't know if i believe that. i honestly feel some girls are tighter and looser than others and that plays a big part in what it feels like for a guy.
OK for one you need to stand up to your man and tell him to Kiss your ass! If he doesn't think you are good "sex" tell him maybe that its not you his him. I have no respect for men who think they are the ones that make sex great...Pbbt! Honey, find you another guy, its obvious he could care less about how you feel. You'd be better off w/a vibrator...at least they don't talk back...and you can always drag 'em out when you want to... :)
How can you possbly "love" someone who treats you so badly??? Are you a 'patsy'? Do you enjoy being downtrodden? Get your head on straight! If he 'loved' you, he would be treating you a great deal better! Kick this guy to the curb!
He is spouting nonsense! He is so very wrong as well.