i would definetly discuss w/ him everything everyone has said here.
i mean Brandye is a doctor and female so she should know lol.
and plenty of other women have said the same thing.

were you his first girl that he did that was a virgin?
maybe he was just expecting the worse b/c of rumors other guys have said or maybe their g/f had bad experiences.
just don't feel bad about yourself or think its your fault.

I agree with everyone else, and as a guy, I'd say that, at least to me, it doesn't matter if he's the first you've been with or simply the most recent guy you've been with. If he's all wrapped around the axle, then he's got baggage that he needs to deal with.
I feel that it's his problem not yours, and at your age you don't really need to deal with it, so be young enjoy your life and if he can't get over it, kick his sorry A** to the curb.

I pretty much agree with everything thats been said. This guy seems like a complete jerk, and I think you should just dump him and not torture yourself by continuing the relationship. The breakup will probably hurt at first, but I think you will be much better off without this asshole. And if you do dump him, I definitley think a huge ego bruise is in order for him!
I hope you get rid of this jerk and find someone better. Good luck!

Same happened to me. Then I have done it first time with my ex-fiance, I didn't feel a thing...hmmm...I even hardly felt him. Then I have done it with my current bf, it did feel like being ripped apart. I couldn't even handle it, the first few times hurt like hel, damn, even right now after we've done it for a while very first few moment hurt. I'm very tight, so for me...being a virgin and feeling no pain and pretty much not really feeling him? He jerk had a small dick and he dared to question me if he really was my first one. I now dare him to say that again so I can put a guitar through his head and hand him a microscope to give to his next gf so she can find...the slug in his pant. You shouldn't have to take this shit from a guy. HE says that, and he should be of the door with both black eyes...well, maybe don't really resort to violence, but if he claims that he loves you yet questions you like that, you gotta have a moment and seriously think about him and then the best desicion would be give him a boot with a nice ego reduction, Idiot's guide to sex, microscope for his next gf, penis enlirgment pills and a number to a doc for penile enlargment surgery . Good luck.

When I was lost my virginity it was like being ripped in two and still the jerk said I was lying. So, some guys just never get a clue.

Now my sister when she lost her virginity told us girls the next day that she didn't get the big deal about all the pain talk since it didn't hurt a bit.

Two months later she did it again with a man that had some decent size to him and she could hardly sit down afterwards.

So I like Wally's I idea about his dick being to small.  

I'll add my "Who does this guy think he is?!" to the responses.  To begin with, "first"... "second"... "tenth" , who cares if you love the person you are with?  And the physical answers are right on the money.  With tampons and self-stimulation, women may not experience as much pain their first time.  This guy needs to check his facts before accusing someone.

I won't go so far as to say to dump him (that's your choice) but I would definitely let him know how much this upsets you and hurts your feelings.  If he refuses to see the problem, then you might want to re-evaluate your relationship with him.

Good luck and take care.

I came back to add, if he continues being a jerk, then telling him his dick is too small is a great idea!

Wally, I think your suggestion is perfect. My ex, after we broke up questioned me like that, if he really was my first. I also suggest leave the jerk. I wouldn't even try to train him. Any guy who dares to question you like that doesn't deserve you. Also...this would make me question his motivation, why he was with you. Good luck.

In the middle ages in Italy, there was a vial chicken blood provided to a bride (usually supplied by her mother). She could then make certain there was blood on the sheets and they could be displayed the next morning to prove she had been virgin. Your boyfriend's mind is still four hundred years behind.

At least a third and perhaps half of all women experience little or no difficulty, pain or bleeding at their first experience. Physically, mine was a non-event.

He may have been your first but that does not mean you have to stay with him.

[QUOTE=Quote (WallyLlama @ June 24 2004,03:54)]Suggest that maybe his dick is too small and that's why he didn't get the reaction he expected.[/QUOTE]
LOL
oh Wally
you really know to hit where it hurts lol
my b/f too kinda questioned it for me b/c i wasn't in that much pain but he also knew i had used "toys" and stuff when we masturbated together so i don't think it was a big deal. in the end, he trusted i was telling the truth. i think i was the first girl he had ever de-flowered.. so yeah we both really didn't know what to expect.

tell your b/f that maybe in the 50's you could definetly tell if a girl was a virgin. now a days, girls use tampons, finger themselves or get fingered, are more into sports, etc.... which all can wear and tear away at the hymen.

like tease said, for some girls its a lot of pain and bleeding, some its moderate, for me there was no bleeding and it wasn't pain so much as an uncomfortable pressure.
let your b/f read the topic on 1st time pain and bleeding. i think its under the new to sex topic.
let him read lots of girls account. true some will say it sucked and was painful....others will say eh.. it was alright.

As I guy... I don't like the sound of this either. While I don't diminish the value of virginity, at the same time... why is that so important if you truly love somebody?

Since it sounds like he's turning this into a power thing (he KNOWS so much more than you do), I'd give him a dose of what he's dishing out.

Suggest that maybe his dick is too small and that's why he didn't get the reaction he expected.

Ask him for a full report of his sexual activity, including how many virgins he's "conquered" and is basing his findings on.

An additional idea would be to suggest that next time you have sex, you'll try to "act" more virgin-like if that's important to him. Then when he tries to enter, scream and push him away, "It hurts too much!"

Are my suggestions too mean? What he is doing to you is cruel. If you are going to continue this relationship you need to get him "trained" quickly. By that I mean teach him how to treat you!

tell him that sex is different for every virgin female.
some people it hurts, some people it doesn't.
some people bleed, some people don't.
some people just lay there and go "that was it?" and others get tears coming down their face from pain.

i am certainly by no means judging him or you when i say this but for me, personally, trust is a great big part of relationships. if he can't trust you over something like this, how knows what he may not trust you over in the future.

hun--
Thats complete bulls**t. Your guy should trust you, whether you were "easy for a virgin" or not. And who is he to judge that anyway!? Is he inside your body? Not only is it horrible of him not to trust you, its comepletely insensitive of him take away a peice of your joy at your first time. Dont worry about whether he beleives you or not. If hes gunna be that kind of jackass, you dont need him.

Hope that helped some, or if it didnt, I at least hope it gave you something to think about.

Stephanie