Hi everyone,
My name is Tara and I am 26 years old--My husband is 31. I am always interested in sex and he it seems is never wanting anything but a BJ.
I really dont think he knows any better. Yes I know he should at 31 right.
Well not in his case. He married the first girl that showed any intrest at 21--yes 21. He grew up in a small town and was pretty much hanging around guys and thats it. Me I started hanging (out with guys) at 17. My big ? is How do I get him into the whole sex thing without him being freaked out?
Here is what he told me about the EX... She would rather give him head then have sex. I dont know what is up with that , But thats not me.
It seems to me that she just wanted to get the act over with and didnt care about herself. First of all Im not saying I mind giving my husband a BJ but he asks for one out of the blue insted of wanting me. Witch me being a sexule woman I want to have sex not just give him a bj and that all.
Really I would love to find a way to make/have him Inisheate Sex not just me.
Tara
Sat, 12/23/2006 - 11:39
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He only want BJ - Can someone help me out????
might want to jump him one day and initiate it and he might catch on. OR you can sit down and talk to him bout that. communicate
Maybe his ex didn't want to risk getting pregnant? Perhaps she did you a favour because now he's not sending a chunk of his money to her in child support.
Maybe this whole thing turned him off sex and left a bad taste in his mouth.
you should remind him that you are NOT his ex and that you accually WANT sexual intercorse and that he shouldn't just think of himself, but that he should think of you too.
Sounds like he may have a confidence problem also from his first wife and so he just goes for a bj because he knows he likes that and he doesn't really know what to do doing intercourse. He may be afraid of not satisfying you. You may want to initiate sex by talking to him and telling him how nice his big hard penis looks and feels. That you love holding it, kissing it, and even sucking on it, and that you want to feel it up in you. Suggest he put it in you and after awhile you want him to pull it out so you can finish him with a bj. That way he may feel good about intercourse and know he will also get a bj at the end, so both will be happy.
Just curious, does he ever give you oral sex? If not, this may be another sign he is apprehensive about sex. Sounds like you will need to teach him after his first wife messed him up.
Without him being freaked out? Talk to him about it. You can be as tactful as you wish/can be. But, dear, he should get the message loud and clear either 'put out or get out'. Harsh but hey, why did you bother to get married?