My guess without having any firsthand observations is to suggest that you try different positions. Why? More likely than size is the tilt of his erect penis and when using certain positions, it will be aimed right for the cervix, where in other positions it will not. Having intercourse with someone else, even if he has a similar size penis, although with a different angle would not likely have the same problem for you.

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No more specific response is really possible. We each have our own construction and need to learn how to deal with it. Consider that your being on top gives you greater control over depth, pace and the parts that get rubbed. On your back, lowering your kness or not spreading as wide will limit depth somewhat. The rear entry positions tend not to present a problem because depth is limited.

Clitoral stimulation is controlled more by the angle of the two bodies than by size of the penis. A slight difference in the tilt of your hips can change this. The G-Spot is not too often stimulated by the penis. A large penis will have things stretched a bit and would likely limit the G-Spot stimulation. Depending upon the angle of his dangle, rear entry (which I generally do not like that well) often allows for more G-Spot stimulation because depth is limited and the head of the penis may just hit the right spot.

You have some interesting experimenting to do!

Specifically - time you educated him and stopped just enduring it!
When he hits your cervix - call a time out - the man has got to learn how to tell where he is when he's inside by feel and he will NOT learn unless you tell him! So, TELL HIM!

Finding the right position is a matter of careful experiment. He should study up on female anatomy and learn how far to go in for the G-Spot and how far for the posterior fornix Remembering to always go BELOW the cervix.

The vagina, when the lady is aroused, expands below and behind the cervix - so that is where he should be going.

As Brandye noted, only you and your partner can find the exact position that works best.

I occasionally have issues with this and here are some of the solutions I've found. It is important to note that I am quite rigid so where I point is where I end up going - the same might not be true for someone who is flexible, especially if the woman's vagina is clenching.

1) Be sure to include lots of foreplay and be totally aroused, about to or having already orgasmed prior to penetration. This ensures that the vagina is as relaxed, lengthened, and accepting as possible.

2) Find the correct angle of your thighs and both of your hip heights relative to each other for him to be able to stimulate your g-spot with his penis. This is easiest to adjust with a set of firm pillows underneath your hips. The most efficient way to find this is to have him penetrate slowly to different depths with your legs at a set angle and hips at a set height, then adjust your legs or height and try again. When something feels good, be sure to have him go in a little further past that point and in front of it as well as making small adjustments with your hips and legs so that you find the exact center of that hotspot and aren't just brushing near it.

3) He can likely avoid hitting your cervix with you on your back, a pillow under your hips, and him above you with his body almost parallel to yours. Have him slowly penetrate almost straight down. Having him move forward or backward according to his rigidity and angle can help. Again, you should try different heights of pillows(or slide one closer or further to your lower back) and different positions for your legs. His legs can be straight with him in a pushup position for the greatest chance of avoiding your cervix, though one needs to be in good physical shape to smoothly penetrate while holding oneself in that position or you'll end up just pounding.

4) If your knees can handle it, he can lay down on his back with some pillows underneath his hips. This raises him and makes it easier on your legs. You can squat down from a standing position on your feet, leaning as forward as possible so it's similar to what you'd look like while holding your knees to your chest while on your back. He should try angling himself so that his penis points back towards his chest. This will allow his penis to slide past your cervix without hitting it and it should rest right on your posterior fornix. If you are very aroused and have already orgasmed, it shouldn't take much movement on either of your parts to orgasm again this way.

I need to go take some meat off the grill, I hope some of these help!

For anyone with long legs, doing that squatting down with your feet flat on the mattress is PAINFUL and awkward so just ride him as you would a horse using the bed springs to sustain the motion - much easier.

Or he can lie on a weight lifting bench :)

I have run into this problem with my wife as well. But I have learned what positions to be careful in and what angles work best.

It really is up to you to communicate the discomfort and for him to do something about it and respect that. That doesn't mean there is something wrong with you, its just one of those things that is easily worked around if you communicate.

Some suggestions -

When you are missionary and lying on your back, have him actually move further forward, towards you and angle the penis downwards, towards your butt. It can even help to raise your legs and have him penetrate you shallow, then while inside, move forward so as to angle the penis toward your butt while inside. Sounds more complicated than it is, it's actually rather quite simple. This works well for my wife because it puts my penis below her cervix and I can actually bury inside of her and she loves it.

For doggystyle or rear entry, try lying with your shoulders all the way down to the bed. This allows more "room" inside of you, but again he needs to penetrate you with his penis angled towards your butt while inside. Angling forward will set him right inline with your cervix.

Another position that can work really well, is if you get on top of him and slowly penetrate. Sit on his lap while he lies flat on his back. Then take either your right or left leg and slide it backward on the outside of his leg, then lie down on top of him, off to the side. He can grab your other leg and pull it up to his chest and this give easy access for him to play with your clit during intercourse. This also gives him the right angle he needs to do you deep without hitting your cervix.

The bottom line - is that you have to communicate the problem and looks for solutions. I mean unless the dude is like 10 inches, you can find solutions. I am between 7 and 8 depending on the arousal or the night, but the first time I hit her cervix and caused her pain, we stopped right there and made adjustments. I know what positions I can penetrate her all the way and I also know what positions I can not. He just needs to respect those and not get carried away!

LOL , funin, you're a trip!

Thank you Dirt Driver.

I too have a tilted uterus (or maybe its called retroverted), which makes me very very shallow. It wasn;t a problem until I was intimate with someone that was 8 inches long. Basically it was a blood bath resulting in frustrating sex for both of us.

I'm not going to be apologetic about the fact that I truly enjoy hard sex, and rear entry is by far my fav position and also the most bloody.

To explain to those far more experienced than me, when I say I am shallow, I mean I can put my finger up my vagina and touch my cervix easily. Just measured, my middle finger is just shy of 3 inches. I can squeeze my muscles and eject a tampon. (heh I guess that also means my guy loves what i can do!)

You see the problem? Now granted, when a woman is aroused, the body makes a little more room, but just look at the problem: I'm 3 inches deep and he is 8. Even if I can accommodate half of him, we can't "go" at it. Missionary is the best, we can have sex exactly as we like. So thats what we do. Cowgirl works but I can't see him and it does nothing for me.

We have tried all positions that allow for shallow penetration. We just can't have the hard pounding sex in any of them.

I read online that if a woman is in the real entry position for a while, with her ass very high up, the uterus for someone like me will actually shift in the direction its normally supposed to be and allow a little mercy. Does anyone know if this is true?

Does anyone know how women with inverted uterus's can enjoy a well endowed man?

Thank you for your time.

[QUOTE=DirtDriver;252730]I have run into this problem with my wife as well. But I have learned what positions to be careful in and what angles work best.

It really is up to you to communicate the discomfort and for him to do something about it and respect that. That doesn't mean there is something wrong with you, its just one of those things that is easily worked around if you communicate.

Some suggestions -

When you are missionary and lying on your back, have him actually move further forward, towards you and angle the penis downwards, towards your butt. It can even help to raise your legs and have him penetrate you shallow, then while inside, move forward so as to angle the penis toward your butt while inside. Sounds more complicated than it is, it's actually rather quite simple. This works well for my wife because it puts my penis below her cervix and I can actually bury inside of her and she loves it.

For doggystyle or rear entry, try lying with your shoulders all the way down to the bed. This allows more "room" inside of you, but again he needs to penetrate you with his penis angled towards your butt while inside. Angling forward will set him right inline with your cervix.

Another position that can work really well, is if you get on top of him and slowly penetrate. Sit on his lap while he lies flat on his back. Then take either your right or left leg and slide it backward on the outside of his leg, then lie down on top of him, off to the side. He can grab your other leg and pull it up to his chest and this give easy access for him to play with your clit during intercourse. This also gives him the right angle he needs to do you deep without hitting your cervix.

The bottom line - is that you have to communicate the problem and looks for solutions. I mean unless the dude is like 10 inches, you can find solutions. I am between 7 and 8 depending on the arousal or the night, but the first time I hit her cervix and caused her pain, we stopped right there and made adjustments. I know what positions I can penetrate her all the way and I also know what positions I can not. He just needs to respect those and not get carried away![/QUOTE]

If I might point something out to you - your vagina extends out further (deeper) BELOW your cervix. You have to have had an orgasm, of course, but he should be angling AWAY and UNDER your cervix, not banging away onto your cervix. The area he should be going for is the posterior fornix.

I refer you to the sticky post entitled The Four Hotspots for further information.

(I have a titled uterus as well and hitting my cervix is not an option nor a problem.)

I also have a tilted uterus and have had problems also with my partners hitting my cervix.I also like the rear entry position,and find that you need to experiment to find positions that are comfortable,and avoid pain.I do like sex hard and rough sometimes so have to grit my teeth and put up with the pain I get.I don't mind a little pain but only when I am really in the mood for it rough.

I have often wondered if some people want pain with their sex, sometimes, because they feel the need to be punished for enjoying sex.