Tell then Show then Guide.

[color=green]first thing first.....you 2 are young and new to sex, so it's going to be a progression instead of it happening suddenly......before he can be good at pleasing you, you need to know your own body......and even then, it still takes practice for him to please you like you please yourself or even better (which is hard on both parts)

trust me, it takes time..... clitoral stimulation should be a good starting point and when you two feel it's time to move to g-spot, then do so......clitoral didn't take me long when i first met my wife because i had a little knowledge on how to do it when i met her, but still i had to learn what she liked because EVERY female is different.....as for g-spot stimulation, it took about a year for us to find our groove/position(s) for her to achieve an orgasm through penetration.....and another 6 months after that for her to have squirting orgasms

well i guess a way to help out without making him feel like he isn't doing the job is to either go to a bookstore or order books online about oral sex for him and for her and both of you read both books together.......that way not only he will learn something, but you will also......me and my wife actually get turned on reading them in the bookstore when people are around[/color]

The articles listed in the Index are short, sweet, and, free.

The way i got shown was the female guides my hand down around her vagina and then you both talk to each other to see the right spot.
The way i find the clit and never had any complains about not finding the right spot on the female.
When i do slide my finger down in between the vaginal lips until i find the vaginal opening and slowly slide my finger up until you feel something like a tip like your nose
Works better if she is wet or you use lube to rub the clit, doesnt work too well with skin on skin.
only trick is to keep sliding your finger down to the opening as the female gets closer to orgasm so it doesnt dry out with being dry around the clit

Yup! The clitoris can also be located by tracing your fingers along the length of one of the inner labia until you get to the juncture of the two. The clitoris can be found just in front or just in between.

P.S. With regard to the tip, do not let your man overlook the shaft. Even though it is buried, it is still just as reactive a man's shaft.

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> He's good at a lot of things, but he doesn't quite understand how to get me off.

This is a common complaint, yet the solution is so very simple in many cases, particularly if the woman is orgasmic--meaning you can climax.

Relationships are partnerships and this includes the romantic and sexual aspects of it. Making love is not what we do to each other; rather, what we do with and for each other in partnership. Communication is key. You have to do a bit of "show and tell". The same goes for him with you.

I always suggest that the woman show her man how she masturbates, then later, to take his hand and move it in the ways that please you and will increase your arousal and eventually trigger an orgasm. As noted, key to this is in giving him feedback on how you are responding to his caresses and for what you need now/next (even though in the beginning you are in charge.) Similarly, he needs to show you how he masturbates and how he strokes the shaft of his penis. Girls usually understand the basics but not the subtleties and nuances. For this he should take your hand in his and move it the way he needs all the while giving you feedback. The most critical aspect of stroking the shaft is with the transitions at either end of a stroke. At first girls tend to be too rough! :eek:

> I haven't finished just vaginally, through the g-spot, at all.

It is not common to climax just from vaginal stimulation. What a skilled, knowledgeable, caring, lover needs to do is to reach around and stimulate the clitoris by hand while stroking. If you use the Woman Superior/Cowgirl position or something similar, then this places the woman's pieces-parts in close continuous contact with his pubic mount sufficient to bring about an orgasm. Not so many of the other positions. So, neither of you are doing anything wrong, y'all just have to understand the mechanics involved and why things are done the way they are.

> he's tried to touch me down there before and he always misses the right spots. How can I teach him how to do it right without making him feel naive and inadequate?

This is sometimes difficult because many guys have fragile male egos and do not like being put on the spot. You can talk to him and explain that making love and having sex is a partnership in which the two people involved explore and learn together. No one is expected to perform with perfection the first few times. Did he ride a bicycle without wobbling and falling down a few times when learning?

Here are three articles for the two of you to read, discuss, and to add the information to what each of you already knows:

HELP! S/He is more EXPERIENCED! To which I say:

Next: If you are new & have no experience (Pt. 2 of HELP! S/He is more EXPERIENCED!:
If you are a guy who happens to be shy or uncertain about making the first move, know that this is OK. My suggestion is:

How Do I Get Him/Her to Orgasm From a Hand/Blow Job?

Female Slowness to Orgasm

I recommend that the two of you read every article listed in the Index, discuss what you have learned, and add the information to what each of you already knows. Because making out and sex are new activities, as mentioned, nobody expects people just beginning this journey to be experts. Calm your man's fears by telling him this and be enlisting his help to learn with you so that you can become a great lover and he can also. He can if he is willing to read, practice, and, learn.

I hope this is of help. Got questions?