Good news, for all those who visited my last lovely thread, I am bleeding to death. :Sigh of relief: :D
Besides the point, me and my boyfriend have been getting close, and have been attempting to make love. However, when push comes to shove, Little Chris (His name is Chris) dies. Unnatual causes, I only elbowed him twice (an accident!) but in other completely unrelated times (when I didn't elbow him), he just loses it. He says it's because he has a lot on his mind, and can't focus. I have tried fellatio, hand jobs, teasing, other things, and he gets up, but can't stay up. I am thinking Viagra... But before I result to that, any advice about what helps you personally?
If he gets up and then drops, viagra will not likely help. Age?
Accept the fact that he has a lot on his mind. Like a close call with fatherhood. That does slow some down!!
Haha. I bet.
He is only 22. Bi-polar. Working class boy. I try to make time, but I think he is becoming frustrated. I try ego/pride up. I think you are right about the fatherhood-nightmare part, he is hesitant.
Obviously I am trying to distance myself, give him time and what not. It is just unnerving when he doesn't call... He's a little frigid right now. I worry. ^^;
Make fun of him and call him names, make him feel so pathetic and sad. Then his pride will take over and make him stay on the erect so he can prove he is a man. Tell him he is a girly woman and a small child, he will be so wounded in pride he will not be able to help to have the big hard erecting. Sounds cold but it prolly work.
Uh... Yeah, we'll call that plan B.
Frigid isn't the word...he's DEATHLY afraid of the consequences that sex can yield...ie: PREGNANCY!!...I can only imagine the phone calls, the talks, the tears, the feeling of guilt and perhaps even shame...he'll be lucky if feels like having sex for a looooooooooooooooong time...oh yah...he'll want it..but he won't ever want to have to go thru what just happened again!!..
tie him up and rub ur punani in his face.. it that dont work buy a dildo
[QUOTE=Luvs2plzU]Frigid isn't the word...he's DEATHLY afraid of the consequences that sex can yield...ie: PREGNANCY!!...[/QUOTE]
Smart man...
If he's bi-polar, is he on medication that could be affecting his erection?
Say forget the crap Mr Kalar just put down thats is the worst you can do, by the way when are you leaving mr fart fart all over the board your a weapon of mass destruction just shut up and listen if you can't give useful help will you ?
if he is a conscienscious person like you find once every blue moon then yes he probably is worried about pregnancy, I certainly would not overlook that possibility and want to know that I could handle it if it happened, just make sure you use the correct contraception the best combination is you on the pill and use a condom as well and he need not worry and he needs to be relaxed to perform.
HA! Same problem I am having with my guy!. Now that I think about it, we didn't even discuss whether or not I took birth control, which I do so sex without protection is OK. Tomorrow I will get some condoms and see if that doesn't make him feel comfortable, though it was so limp, he couldn't have put it in a condom. Poor boys...I used to think it was so easy for them. The first time with a new guy has always always always been extremely akward for me though the initial heavy petting/forplay was always excellent.
[QUOTE=pinkflower]Now that I think about it, we didn't even discuss whether or not I took birth control, which I do so sex without protection is OK.[/QUOTE]
Not true. With unprotected sex, there is nothing to limit the transmission of diseases. No birth control is 100% efficient either, so you should always have at least two systems at the same time. Playing it safe keeps you from being a parent.
DH couldn't keep it up after a condom broke on us. We had to find some other form of BC to keep him from worrying. If you're scared of anything at all, your body automatically sends your blood elsewhere - not to the dick.
true we don't control all we think we do
As my girlfriend likes to say:
"God gave men a brain and a penis. Too bad He only gave men enough blood to run one at a time."
hehe thats very funny but implys we think with only one at a time
That was the point.
yyea well most do mind you I've yet to see what I will be thinking in the heat of the moment but I think my brain will still run at least on minimal logic functions