sometimes when I started having sex I had that prob. It will get better it could still be nerves etc as you both think it will happen everytime. If it doesnt get better over time then mayb think about going to see a doc but i dnt think u will need 2. Sometimes it could b due 2 him not being hard enough when trying 2 enter u or u could b tensing up as he trys. sorry can't b more help.

shes right.

maybe its also because he gets upset, and then anxiety and all that takes its toll.

Possible scenarios, all; however, truth be told, the virginal vaginal entrance is inherently small in girls/women who have not had intercourse. As a result it has to be stretched. This will happen over time as mentioned, above; however, a better quicker way is to manually stretch it, a process that will take several days or a couple of weeks.

The process is to sit in the bathtub partially filled with very warm water AND NO SOAP OR BUBBLE BATH. The water will soften the skin.

Insert a finger and tug or pull the opening in one direction holding the pressure for a few moments. Then, switch to each of the other four quadrants doing the same thing. Spend perhaps ten to fifteen minutes doing this each daily session.

Eventually you will be able to insert two fingers, either from the same hand or one from each. Either way, use the fingers in opposition, that is pulling in opposite directions, and holding the pressure for a few moments. Go around the "circle" tugging in all four directions.

Eventually the entrance will expand and make it possible to insert a penis. A naturally shaped penis dildo can also be included in the exercise if desired.