Hi,
I've been having sex with my boyfriend for the past three months and has not been able to climax yet. I am very concerned. Why is this? We have great sex and he is always hard. Why could this be? He explained that he is so used to masturbating to porno flicks when he was single that he can't get used to my touch. Does that sound normal?
Your advice is much appreciated.
Thank you.
hehe, retarded ejaculation.
his problem isn't erectile dysfunction...he has no trouble getting an erection. his problem is retarded/inhibited ejaculation. there is a thread about this in the sexual disorders section. and to clear something up, masturbation is part of the problem. I have the same problem tinamarie's bf has from the sound of it. Mindset during sex has something to do with it, but I have also found that if I don't masturbate for a time before my gf and i have sex i am more likely to cum. The thing that made me cum the first time was my gf encouraging me and having me pump harder and faster (about as fast as rabbits that first time). This was after I had abstained from masturbating for a week. Try telling your bf not to masturbate at all, especially until he has had a couple of orgasms from sex. Also encourage him to pump faster during sex as this is closer to the speed that brings him to orgasm when he masturbates most likely.
Isn't erectile difficulties when you cant even get hard?
can he cum with his porn?if not, i know it takes testosterone to ejaculate, maybe his levels are low...see a doctor. if yes, then yeah, take a break from the self-lovin ...try new things...or maybe he has psyc. issues ...worst case would be he is gay, or just not into you
Hmmmm...this sounds fishy (no pun intended). Let me get this right:
- Youve been having sex for 3 months
- He's hard all the time
- He blames masturbating when he was single
Ok...if you think he is NOT masturbating anymore you are nuts! There is NO WAY a guy is going to have sex with a gal for 3 months - NEVER CUMMING - and NOT going home and finishing off himself.
Ask him when was the last time he masturbated...i doubt it has been 3 months!
Are you using condoms? Are you both from strict upbringing or strict religious background?
I ask this only because some young folks who have been raised in VERY SEXUALLY REPRESSED environment, have difficulty in performing "normally" when it comes to sex.
He may also have feelings of guilt for having sex, fear of getting you pregnant so he's WILLING himself not to cum....OR there' ssomething else going on.
But trust me, his not cumming has NOTHING TO DO with his past masturbatory habits!
It can happen... Tell him to not touch himself AT ALL for like a week or so, continue to "train" him to your touch, he'll get into you..
Try more lubricants, they do wonders....