I'm too used to my hand and lesbian porn. So it's kind of hard to cum with my g/f. Do you know is there a way to untrain me? I've almost completely stopped masturbating over the year we've been together, but it has not helped very much.

It's actually quite common, especially if he's used to his hand, and you're using a condom. Might want to try getting him close to coming before you actually have sex, i.e. hand/bj or he can work himself up.. It's usually psychological or because his penis is kind of trained by the way he gets off with his hand.

I think the best advice is talk to him and see if he has any anxioties (sp?) over it.

Also, as asked before, do you guys use condoms. Of the 30 times my fiancee and I have done I thre were 4 or 5 times i didn't come while wearing the comdom but the second I took it off and went on I came almost instantly.

And I guess you could have him see a doctor, see if there really is something wrong. But you should probably hold that off as a last resort.

I'm having that same difficulty with my b/f. He and I had sex for the first time a week ago. He did not achieve orgasm that time. The second time he did, tho it took him 3 hours or so. Last night he went for 5 hours with no climax!! I ended up helping him with alternative stimulation to help him achieve*Both mouth and hand*. I feel bad that he gave me 6 orgasms and he got zero!! I'm 29 years old and he *was* a 23 year old virgin. I'm on Ortho Evera *patch* so the protection is covered. Perhaps he's worried about pregnancy? Could that be why he can't achieve? I want him as comfortable as possible. I found that no matter how many he gives me, afterward if he's not achieved I'm not completely satisfied.

*footnote* After 5 hours of sex I'm not only sore in ways I've never been before, I'm also not walking straight!! No real complaints, but I wish there were a switch I could press when it seems like the energizer bunny will skip another night of sleep

The advice from me having been in that exact situation would be to chill out. The more you keep convincing yourself that you aren't getting him aroused enough or whatever, the more he freaks out mentally and the harder it will be to cum later. I mean, he knows that its abnormal and is probably pretty embarassed about it, just act like its no big deal or it will end up undermining and destroying your relationship...believe me

I have had this problem myself. It happen with my first girlfriend, i was very nervous when we were doing in and i kinda was forcing myself not to cum mentally b/c of preganacy and so on. Quick question, are you guys having sex with a condom?