When my fiance and I first started dating, our sexual relationship was great. We would have sex at least 3-4 times a week. Fantastic right? We had our first child a few months after our 2 year anniversary. Our sex life slowed down because of being tired and stress. It was still at least once a week though.
Now, the sex has gone down to maybe once every other week. There are times we would go a month without. We just started trying to get a little bit of intimacy back in our relationship. But now, everytime we have sex, it will start off great and then I will go completely dry. I don't paticularly like lubricants cuz to me if feels wierd. I don't know what is going on. The only thing I can think of is it happens right after we go to the doggy style position.
That is pretty much the only position that can let my fiancee reach his climax. Can someone help me? I've never had this problem before.
Try different water-based lubes. You can make your own product by adding a couple drops of hair conditioner to a saucer of tepid water. Saliva works pretty good, although, needs frequent replenishing.
Do not be afraid to use a lube. Keep in mind that they serve a purpose which is why they are on store shelves!
How much time do the two of you devote to fooling around and making out before ever getting to the Foreplay stage--and beyond? If less than half an hour you are rushing, Your fiance will also benefit from all this time.
How much time do the two of you devote to stimulating yourself when making love? It sounds to me like you might not be arousing yourself very much. Intercourse should begin when you have been brought to the brink of your climax. If you happen to be doing lots and Lots and LOTS of stroking in order to get you to the point of no return and beyond, then you are placing the cart before the horse so to speak. Keep in mind that many positions do not place a woman's pieces parts in close constant contact with the man's pubic mound sufficient to create the needed stimulation. What a skilled knowledgeable lover will do is to reach around and finger the clitoris while stroking.
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There are more issues than you think in this case. "it happens right after we go to the doggy style position." Perhaps your body is telling you something about your enjoyment of doggy. "That is pretty much the only ...." Sounds like he has some physical issues as well. There are many positions and some of them squeeze him more than others; every couple has to find what is right for the two of them.
We women run in many cycles and our lubrication is one of them. In addition to generally being wetter mid-month, it seems that lube can come and go. May be physiological; may be psychological.
As Doc points out, lubes are available because there is a need for them. Have you tried alternatives? If you are not using condoms, various vegetable oils may be better for you. I use safflower for massage and plenty of it has become lube over the years.
Mostly, I think you are focusing on a symptom (the sex) of a deeper issue (don't know what). The two of you better start talking. You own up to your apparent limitation (lubricating) and he to his limitation (can't get off). Let the conversation flow from there.