I am thinking about having sex with this guy i have been see for the past year i am 21 and he is a divored father of one, and is 29 years old. im i getting way over my head with being with someone that knows so much more then i do or what. so if you can help me!!!!!
Tue, 02/27/2007 - 02:51
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having sex for the first time!


If you like him, then don't worry about it. Try not to be insecure about your skills/knowledge versus his. If he is in fact more experienced, learn from him! Don't compare yourself to him.
Don't worry about it and don't even think about it. Just do what feels natural and follow his lead. Trust me we have all had our share of the "more experienced"; relax and enjoy!
I've said this a lot: Experience equates to knowlege not skill.
Every time a man and woman form a new relationship there will be a new Square One from which to begin. Simply put, this means that the new partnership will have two individual likes, dislikes, preferences, quirks, and so on to manage incorporate. When it comes to making love, this means that the two of you will have new challenges and discoveries to explore and deal with. Just because one or both of you may have prior experience this does not mean that s/he (or the two of you) will have a perfect first time.
People are different, what's more, people are wired differently and because of this may respond differently than someone else. Add to this a person's likes, beliefs, expectations, quirks, morals, etc., and you have a unique set of dynamics. Sex ain't just about plugging P into V. While this may be the common denominator, arriving at the solution often takes unique turns and twists that will be different than what was encountered with another partner.
So, do not let your differences in experience bother you. Explore and learn together. Do not dwell upon the past, there is only now--and, the future.