Last weekend, my girlfriend of 5 months and I first had sex. It was both of our first times and it was fine. We did it twice than and now another time tonight (a week later).
My problem is that both times, I haven't had an orgasm during sex. I didn't think this was normal for guys, especially being 17, but it's happening. The weird thing is that my erection lasts just fine. We did it for about an hour tonight, and my erection lasted just about the whole time, but I didn't orgasm. We'd like them to be coordinated and happen around the same time, but it hasn't worked.
I'm thinking it might be mental, but I'm not sure. I know I had problems keeping an erection during oral when we first started that, and it was because I thought about it too much after one issue. But that stopped being an issue. I'm thinking this might be similar; I want it to work out so I think about it too much. Is there any reason for this? Is there anything I can do about this? Thanks.
yeah dude. i'm still having trouble abstaining from masturbation. It's a harder addiction to break than smoking.
I was thinking the same thing. I got into the habit of very frequent masturbation a number of years ago, and it basically became routine. I'm going to try to cut back or not do it at all. Thanks for that link too. It is comforting to know it isn't so abnormal.
From what you're describing, this post about inhibited ejaculation may be the most helpful for you.
I have had the same problem, and am still struggling with it. It is still really dificult for me to orgasm from sex, and i haven't once been able to from oral. I found that my problem was only partly (if at all) psychological however. My bigger problem was that I had masturbated so much, and had become so used to the feeling of masturbation bringing me to orgasm that it was hard to cum any other way. The deal here was the speed at which I masturbated. The first time I was able to cum from sex was when my girlfriend kept encouraging me to go faster, till i was going about the speed of a rabbit, and i finally had it. My recommendation based on my successes and failures is to stop masturbating. As hard as it may be, STOP. After a while you'll get used to the feel of sex, and not masturbating will also work by making you horny and therefore more sensitive. Good luck