Hi everyone, I am having an bit of an issue and I need some help.
You see, just this last week me and my girlfriend had sex for the first time in about 2 weeks. the whole session lasted about an 1 hour and 15 minutes. During the end of the session, she was worn out, spent, she came already and was on the verge of passing out from sheer exhaustion.
This is where my problem begins, I didn't finish yet, for some reason no matter what we did I just couldn't come, and it was a real hinderence. It took an addition 15 minutes of me masterbating before I was finally able to come. By the that point my body was tired, sore, and hurt in a lot of places. I don't know why I couldn't finish dispite our best efforts. I am worried this could have a negative impact on our sex life together, I really need to know why it happened and if it could be prevented from happening again, can someone please help me?
I wouldn't be too worried (although Brandye or Doc might have some medical input). These things happen even if people are having sex multiple times a day.
My partner and I have sex regularly, and occasionally he can't cum. It's not that he isn't feeling pleasure, it's just that for whatever reason on that day he can't reach orgasm. I can get to the point of total exhaustion after 2+ hours of sex with him on some days and he won't cum. I have the same issue when playing on my own occasionally as well.
Until this happens repeatedly I'd say you're fine.
Oh, yea...does this ever happen to guys on occasion.
The first time I remember it happening to me was when my wife and I were vacationing in S. F. and were staying in the Mark Hopkins hotel down town. We were having a great time and she had her orgasms and nothing happened for me. As you stated, even masturbating didn't work and what's worse is that I was so aroused it was driving me to try and try and try and try, again!
The fix seems to be to just give your system a rest for awhile as hard as that might be. You'll be stressed from the high level of arousal, but you'll be able to take care of the situation in a couple of hours or so.
The situation is caused by fooling around for a prolonged period of time and simply wearing yourself down, physiologically.
If this is the first time this has happen don't over think it. Look at all the factors to why this could have happen.
-Stress or/and exhaustion set in becasue you was looking at the clock
-Has you been masturbating for the past two week w/o your GF, you might not have been in the mood.
-Did you think yall HAD to have sex because its been two week?
I too have not cum for one reason or another i just let some time past take a shower and a nap then try again.
Side note: Try masturbating with your GF see if that helps.
Ir you're just banging away inside of her, you might not cum.
After checking out issues in the following areas, please consider your techniques and practices.
1. mental items - such as problems in the relationship or at work
2. physical issues - stress, lack of hydration, tired, not being fit
3. anxiety issues - worried about something including worried about cumming
Find the sticky post entitled The Program, it does work quite well, have her take the lead.
maybe you had sex with other girl that day? or maybe masturbated before?
this is surely weird, that minimum 2 weeks passed and you were not excited.
maybe the girl does not stimulate you..this could be a big problem in your sex life
...Or maybe you're just exhausted or mentally unprepared.
In other words: you're not a machine so give yourself some slack.
[QUOTE=victoria_;244763]maybe you had sex with other girl that day? or maybe masturbated before?
this is surely weird, that minimum 2 weeks passed and you were not excited.
maybe the girl does not stimulate you..this could be a big problem in your sex life[/QUOTE]
I would disregard this. A lack of orgasm isn't a problem at all, just a minor inconvenience that the majority of us have to deal with occasionally.
relax and dont try to hard
Thanks for the advice. After reading everything I beleive I came to the conclusion that I may have been exhausted. She certainly stimuates me, but I do have a tendency to masterbate quite a bit. I'll take a break from that and just let my relax.
One more question, her birthday is coming soon, and I want to surprise her, are there any positions that people here recommend or other activites that may excite her? This is just an opinion question, I really would like to know what others think on that.
I looove being pile driven, but I'm pretty sure that it's a little advanced for some people. Try intersextion (look at the positions listing in the main part of this site, you'll see what I mean) it works wonders on (my) gspot! Maybe will have the same effect on her.
Pile driven??!?! Egad! Terrible thought! Look the best sex is one of SMALL motions that continue and continue and continue so she can just ride from one orgasm through another and another and another......and then we can have him stroke towards his orgasm. Remember there are 3 hotspots inside her vagina that when caressed will induce orgasms.
Thanks for the interesting thoughts, one thing we discovered though, is the small motions really help. and she really like the missionary position, as it allows her vagina to have more control in terms of muscle useage, i beleive that may be the terminology.
Mmmmmmmmm, love those small motions - perfect for the G-Spot!