I don't know if this is in the correct place, and if it's not, I appologise. I wanted to know if Erotic Spanking is consiedered harmful for individuals or relationships. Specifically, self-spanking.
Overall, it hurts, but in a good way if you know what I mean.
No lasting marks are last, only redness that maybe stays until the next morning.
Thank you so very much.
Perhaps like self mutilation, it is only harmful if it is damaging physically or mentally.
This is a low level form of self-abnegation or, even, self-mutilation. As you describe, no problem. If this intensifies, get some help. With the name you have chosen, think about help sooner rather than later.
And do not expect me to participate!
oh, the name is actually a Futurama quote, and was the first thing out of the TV when I was regestering... I see how it looks a little scary tho. No, there's no rage in me :D
Thank you guys for your help, I really appreciate it.
I fail to see how "self mutilation" can be healthy. I've been told by friends who are into BDSM that they have a rule about not hurting someone beyond their ability to self-heal. What is considered "getting out of hand?" I'd think that permanently hurting someone would be out of hand...though I'm not sure if that's what you mean by "self mutilation".
Anyway, I don't think spanking or whipping is unhealthy. It makes the nerve endings on skin more sensitive, resulting in more stimulation. If it hurts too much, tell your partner. If they don't respect your needs, dump 'em.
I don't like it, I find it to be objectifying and demeaning. However, as harmful I don't think is -as long as you're into it
You like being spanked in a sexual way. No, not all that harmful - now. Please do NOT expand your limits, and please use this as a special treat and not as your everyday routine sex. That way it remains what it should be 'the icing on the cake' and will not excalate to needing more and then more and then more brutal treatment to get the same small thrill. Being a 'pain slut' is terribly unhealthy and unwise.