me and my boyfriend have been goin out for just over 2 months. the two of us, have fooled around many times before and get very horny/hard/ & wet, during this foreplay. We both decided we wanted to have sex, it being the first time for both of us.
So far we have tried three times, but it just doesn't seem to be wokring. The problem is, he is having trouble getting/staying hard. I KNOW that he doen't have an errection problem, coz i have felt him on a number of occasions (during 'dry sex') and that aint stopping us. Its the fact, he is having trouble getting & staying hard, once its time to enter me.
I was just wondering if this is coz we're new at this and it just takes time to work out wot to do.
Is there somethign i can do to help more (then wot i already do)
IS there a way for him to stay stimulated while puttin on the condom/trying to enter me.
I just feel really bad wen we have to stop, coz he really beats him self up over him not being able to perform. I tell him that it doens't matter to me....coz it doesn't, but he still gets upset about not being able to stay hard
hey i think it is most likely that he is nervous. i remember my first time, i so nervous that if i were a guy i would have probably lost "hard on" too :)
you are doing the right thing by being supportive and encouraging, that is exactly what he needs. the last thing you want is for him to completely lose self-confidence in that department...
by no means take what i am about to say as an advice, but some gain confidence under the influence of alcohol. my boyfriend lost his virginity like that and said that his girlfriend at the time insisted that he lied about being a virgin...i personally feel getting drunk is not the answer...
i think reassurance is the best you can do in this situation. it will mean a lot to him to know that you don't blame him for not being able to perform. when the moment is right i'm sure that the two of you will enjoy it just as much and you have done in the past.
Happened to me 3 times. It does happen. After getting there the first time, everything will be fine. Try seducing him, don't let him know it's comming. Then he won't have time to get nervous. Do your normal thing, get him to close his eyes, and do your extra thing.
one thing i noticed. my bf gets turned off when putting on the condom, so I do that for him now and it really helps. might want to think about that.
[QUOTE=paz]one thing i noticed. my bf gets turned off when putting on the condom, so I do that for him now and it really helps. might want to think about that.[/QUOTE]
awww i've got a good one for this :) i read it one time that guys find it rather exciting when you put on a condom on them using your mouth, at least the tip bit then roll it down using fingures...never tried as the oportunity didn't present itself, actually it's a lie - i've always been to nervous to do it :o but it definately sounds interesting....:p