Well folks, it's been an education. I realized I've been on this board for a little over a year and how times have changed. For the first couple months, I posted with my experiences in the wonderful sensual world. I was honored, at some point, for my posts and truly felt that I was bringing a relatively fresh perspective- that of a 45 year old dad who had been there and done that.
To a large extent, I was selfish. I have a 13-year old daughter. And I wanted to gain an understanding of what she is, and will be, faced with in the coming years. Many of you young ladies have helped me gain some perspective and for that I honestly thank you.
I've engaged in my share of pissing contests here on the board, but no one can ever accuse me of not posting honest, open and (usually) heartfelt responses.
ItalStall and Guido, I miss you because we always covered each other's old back, whether we agreed or not. But we are old guys and figured we could help some of the youngsters.
Rawbob and Oberon, you brought a different perspective to the board and the board is better for it. You guys take a lot of bashing, but your responses to hetero questions are better than many of the hetero responses. I'd be proud to call you guys friends.
Ladies, there are soooooooooooo many of you, young and old who have enlightened me, supported me and made me laugh when I totally missed the mark on women's issues. Whether or not I pounded on you about your position, I always tried to see your perpective and respect your opinion. I'm sure I failed in more cases than not. Brandeye, I really miss your insight at SexInfo.
When I showed up a year ago, there was a good mix of ages posting. Kids and adults of all ages were posting questions and were open to all opinions. And many of the younger posters seemed to appreciate the perspective of those of us who had been in their shoes. But lately, I've seen a tone on the board where CHILDREN are looking for information and affirmation about sexual practices and I can't, in good conscience explain to a young teenager, who is not my child, how to have sex. It just "ain't" my job.
I know most kids don't feel that they can talk to their parents about these topics and that's unfortunate. If I can leave one message to the kids on this board it would be to please try to open the lines of communication with your parent or parents.
So, I'm gonna pop in every once in awhile to see what's happening on this board, but I'm not gonna be posting very often. But if anyone really want's the opinion of a dad, PM me and I promise I'll respond with an honest opinion- like it or not. This board can be a great source of information- just try to use is wisely.
I wish you all the best- wiseman
Thanks for the kind words, wiseman. Clearly by your well thought-out prose, comments and even a few rants, you DO feel passionatly about sharing and learning.
Your daughter is a VERY LUCKY YOUNG LADY, to have a dad who's working so hard at being and even better dad.
I'm the father of a 14 year old son. While we don't live togther due to divorce, alot of why i'm here is to keep my ear to the ground about what teenagers are learning and thinking.
There's no doubt that your voice will be missed. Clearly when you look at all the posts, there may be hundreds of folks reading questions with only handfulls of replies. You sould feel confident that you have made a difference in someone's life by your participation on this site!
Hope you DO swing by from time to time and say HI!
Again....best of luck....we'll miss ya!
Well... I am too new to really know you... but in my limited time here, you have not shown any reason for me to discount your claims of open honesty. Like yourself and many others here... I strive to post & reply in an open, honest & non-judgemental fashion. (not sure how successful I've been)
Hopefully, we can all continue in the same path.
I had recently started a topic similar in nature referring to my desire to keep myself aware that not ALL people here are mature adults that can relate to my advice, responses and suggestions... nor am I 100% comfortable carrying-on a conversation with a 13-year-old girl about masturbation on a message board (it's not always easy to guess the age of the author).
Anyhow... best of luck in all your endeavors and hope to see you pop-in once and a while. Peace.
Wiseman, i think i can speak on behalf of many people on this board.
Your advice and words have been more than greately appreciated by people of all ages. Your words of inspiration have helped many of us throughout those times in need. Unfortunately, not everyone is as honest about life and have tendancies to 'see through' the big picture rather than facing it, which is a strong quality you hold and one which i admire.
Congrats on your work, and do come back, soon. We really will miss you!
Good luck with everything.
U'll be well missed!!
good luck
Archer
ditto to what oberon said.
you'll be missed dude.
it's nice to have someone around here that will just say what's on their mind. people like me appreciate that. i know i've held back on some stuff simply because, well, i just don't know where to begin a response. some of the questions on here confuse me beyond anything. and then other times people seem to ask for advice, but then, when you turn around and try to give it to them, suddenly they don't want to hear it, so i just don't know where to even begin.
i'm one of those people you described. i have a communication barrier with my parents. i don't talk to them about sex and i personally don't plan on it either. (granted, i'm also 23 and an adult..so ya know..). so i give you props to coming here to help out your daughter and trying to open up that communication barrier between the parent and the child. most parents wouldn't do that. they'd just stick with their old fashioned ideas and that'd be it. so props to you.
and on another note, like oberon said, i may be young, but i'm not young enough to get the roy rogers hint in the title.
yeah i agree w/ Oberon
i will definetly miss you Wiseman
you better come and visit us.
I'm going to open with the thought that was my immediate response to this post. Damn, this sucks!
Wiseman, I've only been on this board for a couple of months, but I figured out pretty fast that your responses to questions were always given with thought and care for the recipient. Even though you are a little older than I and we are on opposite sides of the sexuality fence, I think I usually agreed with your posts on whatever topic. You have always posted in an honest, but non-judgemental way. By my way of thinking, that makes you a pretty special person.
I appreciate what you say about not feeling comfortable instructing other people's children. Believe me, that thought has crossed my mind and given me pause as well. But I also know they are going to get the information somewhere. And they could certainly do worse than getting it from people like you. You come across as honest, caring, open-minded and sympathetic. I couldn't think of better qualities for kids to admire and emulate.
So, I'm going to end this by saying I hope this is only a break. You'll stop by soon, and some topic will catch your eye and you won't be able to help but to post. If not, then know that you will surely be missed.
***P.S. And I'm not so young that I don't get the whole Roy Rogers, cowboy into the sunset title to this topic. lol