Hey all I've been looking at information provided here for a while but this is my first post so here it goes. Me and my girlfriend have been going together for a while now and are fairly comfortable together when it comes to talking about most things. From the start we both made it pretty clear intercourse wasn't an option in the relationship so we've satisfied ourselves through other means such as fingerings and handjobs. I am rather new to these areas as it is and she's never had a boyfriend before (at 19 can you believe it!?) so we're in pretty much undiscovered territory. The issue at hand (no pun intended) is that her hand jobs just don't do it for me. I can tell she really wants to "make me feel as good as I make her feel" but I can't bring myself to tell her it doesn't and even if I could I'm not sure I'd know what to tell her to do better. That's problem one. Problem two deals more with this forum and the issue is I really want to go down on her. Now oral got brought up while we were sitting around one day and she said the thought of anyone going down on someone (guy or girl) is gross because it seems dirty because it's where you piss from. I was kinda stunned by it because I was hoping to move to that next level soon after so how would I bring it up to get her to change her mind and try it? I know this is kinda long but I'm really bad at shortining situations, thanks much and any help will be appreciated.
Wed, 08/20/2003 - 20:11
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hand jobs to oral
As for the hand job thing communication is the best thing in a relationship... iknow you have heard that over and over but tis true.You gotta let each other know what pleases you. So you gotta communicate with each other and tell her... i think you already do a wonderful job with giving me a hand job but let me show you how i do it and if you don't have the courage to do that always just take her hand with your hand and just guide her through so she gets the hang of how you like it or make her sit behind you and teach her how..... as for the oral thing say let us both wash our private parts before we give each other pleasure and then when you get confotable we can stop.... showing that you will come to an agreement with her. Or just be patient with her until she is ready... she may not even be ready for that and is using that as her way to not do...... all in all you gotta talk to this girl.... things won't get better and you both won't have your ways until you do.
Thanks very much for the suggestion. It's basically kinda what I already had in the back of my mind I just wanted to get a couple more opinions/suggestions on how to go about the situation, thanks.
Good advise from nodoubt16pb! If she's never had a boyfriend she prob doesn't know how to give a good hand job. It's a turn-on for me to watch my husband give himself one... maybe she'd be just as interested. Women and men don't know what feels good for their partner until they learn. A shower is a great way to begin a sexual act.
Thanks alot sexykitty for your input as well hopefully we'll be able to deal with these issues soon. Oh yea by the way great song under your signiture ;).