At the moment, I am unattached and currently doing alot of masturbating. In previous posts, I talked about how I did anal stimulation with masturbation. This is great and all, but I have kinda swayed away from the anal stuff. Basically, I was wondering if anybody can give me any tips on what is the ultimate hand job. I have ky jelly as lube etc.

Any help would be good, I am very grateful.

Thanks all,

Steve

Okay, what method is widely known to give alot of pleasure?

Steve- How long is a piece of string?

what I mean is- there is no answer for your question.You'll receive alot of suggestions I'm sure. But, as with everything else, you just need to try different methods and find the ones that give YOU the most pleasure.

I have NOT tried this... but I saw a detailed article (sorry can't remeber where) about using a banana or some other kind of south american style banana. You cut off the end and get all the "fruit" out of the skin... then well... you use it as a fake vagina.

Sounds crazy to me, and I'm not rushing out to the store to get a banana... but it does answer your question.

ok i wanna give my bf (of 10 months) a hand job, and just so i dont get lectured im 16 and im totally comfortable w/ this. I hear u should use lube cuz if u dont it might hurt your guy, but i dont own any. i was thinking vaseline? or maybe lotion? i hear u could use spit but i dont wanna gross my bf out. Any suggestions? also when im going down on him what if hes not hard? just rub him, lol or what? thanx.

If you don't want to get all fancy with some "sexual" lubricants, a bottle of baby oil will do the trick. Lot's of info on this topic around here, so dig around a little bit for other ideas and suggestions.

Just the image of a girl giving a bj is enough for me to get going. My g/f is very good giving hand jobs, (at the movies, while driving, etc) but for me there is nothing like a bj, and i think is more intimate.

a good handjob is as good as a good blowjob or f***. ladies if you master the technique it is fantastic. Yes a blowjob holds the same level of excitement. it's the scenario that adds the excitement. try giviving a handjob while he's driving (bring some lub along). nothing better than getting off when you didn't no it was coming(no pun intended). itif you want to help clean up right before he cums >SWALLOW his cum.                                                        
  If you really want to know how to jack him off ask him to jack off for you- watch what how he does it to himself nobody knows what excites him other than the the male himself. watch how and where he jacks off. that's the clue to make sure you do the same when you stroke him.

This is a very nice board and I'd like to contribute.

As with every other sexual practice, there are a multitude of good and bad methods for giving a handjob. I have to differ with several of the posters who don't give it much weight over self masterbation.

A good handjob sends chills up my spine. Ladies, bring a bottle of oil to bed and warm up your hands. Slowly and gently stroke your partner's penis from the base over the tip. Try a slightly firmer grip on the up stroke and a light stroke on the way down. Keep in mind that the underside of the shaft is the most sensitive area. Using your thumb to lightly rub the underside of the shaft and head will drive your guy crazy. Alternate with one hand on the penis and the other gently stroking his scrotum and the area between his scrotum and the rectum as well as the insides of his theighs.

Don't forget to apply more oil as you go along. I think many women (at least some that I've been with) think that the man really wants you to speed up as he nears climax. In my opinion, the intensity of the orgasm is much greater if the stroking of the penis and scrotum continues to be slow, soft and only slightly firmer.

I think if you try it this way, and continue to ask your man what he likes and doesn't, a handjob, clitoral stimulation and best of all, mutual masterbation makes a great holiday from vaginal sex.

JMHO

BTW, This is also an incredible method when you're showering with your guy. Only substitute bath oils.

Interesting reading here.

may I suggest,if your guy loves feet, to use your feet. Oil your feet up and stoke him.

Lay on your stomach on your bed and have him lay sideways at your feet and stoke him with your feet. I find that this is another great technique.

[QUOTE=Quote (shugotenshi @ Dec. 23 2002,11:48)]a guy mastrubates it's not like a handjob is anything 'new' or 'exciting' to 'em[/QUOTE]
i think you hit the nail on the head at the end of your post - when you are "dining out" it is nice to try a different dish!  

I'm a greenhorn with these things, but to tell the truth, handjobs aren't that far from me doing it myself. It's also harder to cum for me personally, cus I get nervous and truthfully, guys can do it to themselves better than a girl ever could. I guess that's why they have mouths and vaginas.

I don't know about other guys, but I enjoy fingering a girl much more than receiving one.

Like sum1 said before its the same ol sh*t. i dont need u to jack me off i can do it myself. this is usful for places were u cant get caught and it kinda depends on the guy to. Like me i have really bad dry skin so its ten times better then when i do it cuz shes got soft moist hands but i prefer a bj over a hj ne day!

A guy I know calls one of his ex's "Handjob" Thats all she would do when it came to messing around other then basic her laying on her back him on top sex. Sounds rather boring, wouldn't you all agree! I think everything should be talked over, what he likes, doesn't like and us women need to be sure to tell him the same! I agree, fingering is just as good

[QUOTE=Quote (xx22xx @ Dec. 24 2002,10:13)]i just have a question about handjobs too...i mean i've obviously been doing it right, but how far can you stroke up and down.........is it like the entire length or does it not really matter 2 much[/QUOTE]
Personally, I feel it depends on how close the guy is to orgasm. It's just like sex - at the start, short distances up and down (or in and out) might be okay, but when you're really close, you put it in as far as you can go.

Rhythm is also important. I think the guy can help you with this, and probably does if he's really into what you're doing. Actually, this works for girls too - if the one receiving the oral sex is liking it and is really into it, they start to move their hips back and forth in response to what you're doing. I think it's a pretty good indication they're not liking it if they're just laying there like a corpse.

To answer why we like blow jobs better than hand jobs, I think it might just be that A. we can do a better job ourselves (as smoove said) and B. that most of us have probably had more bad or painful hand jobs than blow jobs (I know I have).

Also, I just posted another tip about handjobs in
Sex Info 101 Message Board » MEMBERS FORUMS » Pleasing Him » Mind blowing sex/blow job.

Hand jobs are great. My lady is good at them, she likes to watch me get off and see how far I shoot. We enjoy all the other stuff too just as much.

I find as good as penertration when done very slowly!

Well, it'd be my guess that the warmth and wetness from someone's mouth could have something to do with a preference in some guys to others concerning that topic. I'm no expert though.. I just can't think of any other real reason..well, other than the fact that if a guy mastrubates it's not like a handjob is anything 'new' or 'exciting' to 'em... >;PP

OK, I talked to a couple male colleagues. They seemed to think that too many men associate handjobs with their youth. It is the way most are brought off by women in their early experience. They also said that a well done handjob is great. One of them, (blush) has recently experienced one from me.

I don't think there's anything wrong with getting handjobs. See like the thing is, for me, if I hold off cumming for a while like and take longer it feels ten times better in the end, but its like when I masturbate I'll be like alright I'mma slow down and make sure I don't cum so then it'll feel better but then I'm just like eh screw it and end up going all the way and then being pissed. See the thing is we don't have self-control, but a girl can control it.. They can tease us. I was seriously panting a week ago for 30 minutes afterwards because of my girlfriend. So handjobs can be fun.. just give us something different too though cause it'll get boring if thats all you get.

Hand jobs are wonderful I had to teach my girlfriend how. She has SUCH cute little soft hands and OH GOD lol. The only thing I can say is do it with enthusiasm listen to what he tells you and use varience. DO NOT DO NOT stop when he starts to orgasm. IT WILL RUIN IT ALL!!! He starts to cum you keep going a little faster and stuff. Same thing with a blow job. Which is a main reason why guys say girls who dont swallow can go to hell on a BJ because the second the guy starts to cum she backs way off and stops thus ruining his orgasm. lol

Handjobs, if done right, can be lead to the best orgasm ever for a guy. Doing it right means...taking your time (you want to slowly build up to orgasm), using plenty of lubrication (massage oil is best), and using both hands and a variety of grips. The handjob a woman can give if she wants to is nothing like what a guy can do to himself. The only problem I have with handjobs is trying not to hyperventilate too much. The best position for a good handjob is with the guy laying on his back with the women sitting between his legs. That makes it comfortable for both parties. As good as a handjob can be though it can be boring if the only motivation is to get him off. If that is the reason for doing it and nothing is put into doing it, it is no better than masturbating. I hope this inspires a few of you women out there to really try and give a good handjob. I know it will be appreciated.

I feel that if you're going to please a man, a handjob is not good enough, I feel that is just the beginning of it, u start off with just that then you give him a blowjob. I know that if my man just fingered me I'm not completely satisfied, I have to have both, and same with him.

Pain during had jobs usually comes from a few things...

1) Lack of Lubrication
2) Tugging too hard
3) Too tight of a grip
4) Scratching
5) Direclty touching the glans head

Since the penis self lubricates to some degree, this usually isn't much of a problem, a little lube, or even saliva could do the trick thoguh.

Tugging too hard shouldn't be too hard to avoid... if you are on the down stroke, and the skin isn't moving anymore, lighten up the grip... The skin on the shaft connects to the glans head and the feeling having these too seperate isn't pleasurable.

Grip can be anywhere from loose to firm, depending on the technique being used...

Nails are never a good idea, a penis is similiar to a balloon in nature, why risk poking holes?

and finally the glans head sensetivity... for different reasons and much like a clit, the glans head can be too intense to touch directly, and can end up feeling like pain. This happens less and less as a penis gets desensitized from use, though it can happen right after an orgasm...

so many men have said they've had bad experiences, or hand-jobs that are painful. Tell us what not to do.

I don't have the equipment to receive a bad handjob, but I can tell you what I've learned from giving bad handjobs. Not using lube can be painful, especially if he is circumcised. Also, squeezing too tightly can hurt, although I've found that different guys prefer different amounts of squeezing.

That is the trick really. Most men don't like to critique because I would imagine that they think it makes their partner feel like they don't know what they are doing (especially if they have done handjobs before and think they are really good at them). I think it all comes down to personal preference. You have to comunicate (duh). Tell your partner what feels good. Some guys like rhythm (either fast or slow) or they like a very strong grip and very deliberate motion. Or some like things soft and gentle. I would imagine a universal thing would probably be to have soft hands (I don't think anyone likes rough calus-laden hands) but other than that, I think most everything else is just personal preference. From my little teeny tiny bit of expererience in a sexual relationship, comunication and listening (and trying to do what they suggest) is key. never EVER take a bad experience and connect it completely with something. Always either talk about it or try and work it out in your own way (with everything). Hehe sorry to go ballistic on such a simple question. I just think that the answer is a bit more complicated.

All i can add to the list of VERY WELL written replys is this, SHOW HER YOURSELF!

One of the best ways to instruct is to demonstrate! If you want to get a great handjob from your partner, have him/her sit back and watch you masterbate. They'll be able to see your technique, speed, amount of lubrication (if any) and of course, and other things you do when you masturbate (play with your balls, anus, nipples, etc).

Not only will she/he get a full view of how you do what you do, you'll also expand your sexual horizons into voyeurisim/exhibitionism!

It's been my experience that different guys like different things. What might hurt one guy might really get another guy off. My last partner liked a lot of lube and a really tight grip when I jerked him off, my boyfriend now only likes a really light touch with no lube, anything else hurts him.

I guess you could say different strokes for different folks.

Hey,xx2xx
You may want to communicate with your guy about "how" he likes it done or watch him it would be a fun learning experience

i recently gave my man a hand job. he didnt cum. does it mean he didnt enjoy it. male/female response please

[QUOTE=Quote (xx22xx @ Jan. 19 2003,17:47)]that's one thing that the 'Pleasing Him' section on this website does not cover...the basics.  

for techniques, check out the Pleasing Him section on this website[/QUOTE]
Please click on the following link for lots of tips on Hand Techniques

xx22xx, I might be being a bit thick here , but if the above link is not "the basics", I am not quite grasping what you think is missing.

Please clarify; if something is missing, then we can certainly look into adding it!

thanks,
mrlink

hi xx2xx,

Thanks for clarifying - I get it now!

I will forward your suggestion to the site administrators for possible inclusion in a near-future update.

NOOO he doesn't have to cum to enjoy it!! actually, last weekend me and my girlfriend were playing around for a while and she gave me a handjob for about 45 minutes and it was the most amazing one i've ever experienced and i didn't cum!!! it was great!! can't wait till the next one

Any hand job is a good hand job , it does not matter if you cum or not. But it helps if you know what you are doing.

Interesting. I have never done it without my partner coming either in my hands or elsewhere as a quick follow on.

I recently did a new hand trick with a friend. Put on a pair of surgical gloves and slather them up with Nivea, or similar, cream. He seemed to like it.

i don't think you necessarily have to come to enjoy it.It's nice,but you can really enjoy sex/hand/blow job with out coming .Sometimes you can concentrate too much on making him come and you lose sight of the fact that it's meant to be a pleasurable experience for both of you!

I bet he enjoyed it anyway. A handjob is just a good feeling, but not as good as a blowjob. :-)

Look around the site. There is some good advice posted. Recommendations have been given many times. There are also sites on the internet specializing in handjobs. You can learn muchm at these without our repeating ourselves.

It's pretty simple.  You just put your hand around his penis and move it up and down as quickly as you can.  You can do it more quickly and use less energy if you just move your hand rather than your whole arm.  Also, you will probably want to use lube, especially if he is circumcised.  And don't worry, he'll probably be able to tell you exactly how he wants you to do it--most guys are pretty experienced at this.

just to clarify--I didn't mean you could make him come faster that way, just that you could move your hand faster.

i mean i no what a hand job is if ya get me, but how do u go bout it what do u actually av 2 do?? pls help me.

roxy x

Its not just about going fast.. its not like a race or anything.. I dunno about anybody else but if my girlfriend gets me to cum in 5 minutes its like eh.. but if she holds me out for 45, I'll promise you it'll hit me a lot harder at the end and feel 10x better.  Either that or another technique my g/f picked up is like go really fast and right when I'm about to cum she'd just like play with the head or whatever gently, because you can't really go all the way off that it just teases me.. and she just switches back and forth between those and even though its really nerve racking.. its really f***ing good.. so if you figure out when he's about to cum, like how he reacts.. try shit like that.. See its that shit that a guy can't do to himself.. We don't have the self-control.. Like i've tried it you know.. and I'll be like slowing down and then speeding up or whatever.. and after the first time I'll just be like f*** it and go all the way and then be pissed at myself later that I couldn't hold out.. hehe cool huh?  Anyways, just a little rant, maybe some info was useful.

Check out the "Sexual Information - Pleasing Men - Hand Techniques" section of this site for lots of ideas.

You can connect to it by selectng the "Home" or "Site Map" links at the top of this page.

Hope it helps ...