I have a pretty serious problem here and I guess I just wanted to bring this topic back to the surface. It’s this "Retarded Ejaculation" or Male Anorgasmia that has been talked about in other topics, but I wanted to bring them all together.

My situation has sucked. I'm 20 now but a few months ago had sex for the first time - wanted to wait until I met someone that I at least really liked and it took awhile.  She was definitely not a virgin and had slept with many guys, although few were any good she said. So the first couple of times that we had sex I was really nervous (didn't even tell her that I had been a virgin until after our 4th time) and we went for like an hour and a half with foreplay, oral, the whole deal...but I never came. It was really embarrassing especially in a new relationship.

I tried to convince her that it wasn't a big deal and to just enjoy the fact that she would get off 2-3 times when we'd have sex...but she took it quite personally. She went out and bought a vibrator and that was the only time I ever kind of got off with her. I say 'kind of' because it took like 45 minutes of mutual masturbation to get to that point. So after a few more times I was pretty humiliated because she continued to make a big deal out of it, and although we were really falling in love (at least I did) she broke up with me after a couple of months (with no sex the last month).

So I have tried to move on since to meet new girls, and have been quite successful.  In the past 2 months I've slept with 3 girls...and haven't been able to cum with any of them.  The third was really incredible and was prepared to act out any fantasy I could think up to get me off, but I just couldn't get there.  (That's with a 45 minute masturbation session in vain at the end *ouch*)

I think that consulting the other threads on this topic that are linked below, there's the internet-porn effect, as I definitely fit the age bracket that has been seeing readily available porn since mid-teens.  There's also the psychological aspects that there's real pressure when the girl realizes that you're having a hard time getting off and she feels that it’s her fault.

I really tried to not think about it when we would have sex and focus on making the girl really happy... which is fine for me but I’ve noticed that a big part of making her happy is knowing that she made you happy and got you off too.

It's not a question of not enough stimulation or anything like that, because there's sometimes when I go completely numb and feel like I'm going to pass out from the pleasure...but I guess she just really wants to see the cum ??

So I guess what I'm putting up for discussion are possible similiar stories, advice maybe (stopping masterbation or watching porn have been mentioned in other threads), maybe explanation as to what the girls are thinking, how I could convince them that its not a big deal so that they'd stop putting so much pressure on the building pressure? Just need some help, this problem  has already cost me (I think) a girl i was really in love with, and I just want to be able to have normal sex I guess. Thanks!

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