this guy i've been dating for a while has yet to go down on me. should i ask if hes not into oral sex or what? i've never had this issue before so not sure how to go about it?
Mon, 12/29/2008 - 05:13
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guy im dating is not into oral?
Try to find out if he has any interest in giving you oral or he has some hang-ups on giving oral. If he has some real hang-ups, then you would have to decide if this is something you are willing to not ever receive or time to find a new boyfriend. Maybe he just hasn't had much experience and is hesitant to give oral because he isn't sure what to do. If this is the case, then a little guidance will go a long ways. Both of you will be happy in this case. I know the first time I went down on a girl it was intimidating since I didn't know what to do, but I sure wanted to taste and feel her with my mouth. Fortunatly we both enjoyed this and kept on doing it.
Have you gone down on him?
Have you asked him to perform oral on you?
Communication is great!
Ask him about it when NOT being sexual. "What's up with this?" kinda of thing. Then listen to what he's saying.
I agree. You can even mention it jokingly and see how he responds.
Some guys just do go for it - as in find it disgusting. Right, wrong or indifferent, thats just how some guys are about it. If its been a 'while' and he still hasnt, he is likely like this or at the very least picky about whom he goes down on.
Communication is the answer. Im not sure if it would be better to talk fantasies and then go down the "oh i love oral.." route, or if it would be better to just sit down and be up front, and ask if he has a problem with it.
Either way, you'se need to talk about this and if you dont, the status quo sharn't change.
and while this is probably not the issue - make sure you always freshen up before expecting that
Often the "issue" is that a guy states that he does not like the taste of the mucus. The retort is and always will be that it is an acquired taste. If he loves to love you, he better acquire a liking for the taste.
If you willingly and gladly stimulate him in this way and he does not give you a reason that can be discussed, then turnabout is fair play. Stop providing it for awhile. This is one of the few situations in which this action is fair.
"i don't eat anything that can walk away" is something i heard once from a guy.
PRobably because he's so bad at it she would walk away.