To whomever it may concern:
I am an 18 year old gentleman who has been sexually active for about 5 months with my gf of the same age. Our relationship is long term, and I want to quite frankly try to be the best lover she has ever had and to provide her with mindblowing sex(she has slept with one other guy and has been sexually intimate with another 5-10). I know this is probably quite an egotistical endeavour, but hey, I am a guy. Overall, I don't think I am much of a lover. I haven't talked to her yet (I will after seeing the responses to this post), but I'm guessing I'm too rough, a little clumsy, I rush things, and even though I can get her to orgasm, I can't last long enough to make the experience sensual rather purely sexual.
Some background:
I have had limited experience during our few months of sexual activity; by limited activity I mean:
We've slept together dozens of times, in a wide array of places from bedrooms, cars, hallways (in a high school), under a conference table, restrooms etc.
We've experimented with several positions from missionary, to doggy, etc.
We prefer missionary, or her on top
I can locate and stimulate her clit, G-Spot and Epi-center (the errongenous zone on the backwall of her vagina)
I ejaculate very quickly upon intial entry (2-5 minutes) and can then keep going after a 2 minute rest for another 20-25 minutes. After that I can last as long as I want.
Prior to entering her, I usually spend about 5 minutes kissing and caressing her body, and about 5-10 minutes on cunnilingus which I use to bring her close to orgasm. As a result, she orgasms almost every time we have penetrative sex, despite my quick ejaculation.
My questions:
Despite the fact that I am not clueless, I am not exactly clued in either. Currently, I am overseas and away from her. As a result, I want compile some technique and expertise to try with her when I get back. I've been surfing all over the web and have come to a few conclusions based on what I've seen.
Women generally prefer to take sex slower then men
Men tend to be too fixed on a woman's orgasm, and as a result, focus too much attention on genital stimulation and not enough on the other errogenous zones
Young men tend to be hasty and rough
Relaxing a women before sex through massage, music, simple conversation or a combination of the above is essential to making the experience incredible
Sex is very mental for women. What contributes as much to great sex as understanding a women's body is making her feel loved and cherised
Those are my conclusions about sex regarding women
What I want to know:
Are my conclusions right?
What suggestions or ideas can you think that would help make me a better lover
When going under penis size forums (by the way, I am not particularly well endowed; 5.5 inches 3.5 inches girth), women repeatedly say things like, "It's not how much a man has, but whether he knows what to do with it". When they "knows what to with it," are they referring to understanding the errogenous zones, being gentle enough, lasting long enough, etc.
Finally, please note any major or minor misconceptions men have about a woman's view of sex
Thanks for reading what is a rather long winded post; I really apreciate it.
Woah... wow... great post man.
It seems like you really want to please your woman. Good for you! I'm still a virgin so I can't help you too much there but... what's this epi-center you speak of? I've never heard it mentioned before and I've been around here for awhile. I'll have to research that... brandeye any input on this one? I think Brandeye would have a good post to answer your questions. 
Drew
Those are some damn good conclusions.
A woman's view on sex is her own. I bet if you discuss this with your lover, you'll have a better understanding of her views.
Suggestions...
1. Spend more time on foreplay. And that just isn't cunnilingus either. Kissing, massaging, its best to spend at least (in my experience) up to an hour. Then again, I enjoy taking my time.
2. If you know how to pleasure your lover with both the Captain and foreplay, you know what you're doing. Listen to her reactions, feel the way her body moves when you do certain things. Key in on those, but don't focus on one part all the time. Use them all.
3. If you're worried about lasting longer, I recommend using a condom. That helped me last up to an hour before I just needed a release. But lasting longer isn't everything.
That's about all I can think of for ya. Hope it helps.
I think generalizations about sex are a bad idea for learning how to please an individual person. Pleasure is such a subjective thing and I think when you start to think along the lines of "women like this" or "men like this" you run the risk of not finding out what your partner really likes. I mean, you could poll women and maybe the majority would agree but on an individual basis it's different, there's no way of knowing if your partner is one of the majority unless you ask.
For example, I have seen that most guys on here prefer women to shave their pubic hair and that's what I've heard from a lot of guys so I decided to shave to suprise my bf and he wasn't into it at all. He wanted to know how long it would take to grow back.
So generalizations about what pleases each gender are interesting in a sociological study kind of way, but when it comes to pleasing your partner the best bet is to ask what they like
wow dudefromindia! great post. you sound like a really sweet boyfriend. it isn't often that a girl finds a guy who is totally into to pleasing her. and let me tell you from experience; the fact that you have come to these conclusions on your own, combined with your willingness to do anyting it takes to make her feel like she is walking on air...well it's very sexy. the sad thing is you are being insecure for no reason. any guy who is willing to do so much research to pleasure their girlfriend, is not only sexy, but sweet. you have both...seems like you might have already met your goal of being the best lover she has ever had. whomever she is, she is really lucky to have a guy like you. email me if you ever break up with her.
dude if you were smart you would get the hell away from her,and find a virgin ,she will dump you anyway ,she has had to many men get your self a virgin plenty of them around at your age and you can learn together and you will have some one for life, not some one when your at work wondering who's she with, just my thought
That's a positive thought.
actually i am going to have to disagree completely to cunnuslover's response to this post. just because she has slept with one other guy, doesn't mean she has "had too many men". and even if dudefromindia dumped her for a virgin, he himself would not be one, and thus the experience would not be new. futhermore, how do you know she will dump him anyway? that is a very unfair accusation to make. none of the people who have replied to this post even know who she is. she could really care and love dudefromindia. and i think she does. why is it that when a guy sleeps or is intimate with a lot of women, he is regarded as all cool and a player- but if a girl is slept or been intimate with as small a number as two people se is regarded as a slut who has "had too many men"? it makes me mad. all i can say to you dudefrominida is please stick with her, she loves you so much and you are the best she has ever had.
well your jumpin to saying she loves him very much but i would hope she does! go for it dudefromindia... your doing fine. and yeah society is weird, lifes a bitch, deal with it.
drew
Cunnuslover
As much as I appreciate the fact that you read my post, I would have to disagree with you. I don't think she's going to dump, and rather, I think she's a hell of a woman. Why else would I want to work hard to please her. I think she's made mistakes in the past when it comes to members of the opposite sex, but then so have I (and my transgressions are far greater than her). So, anyways, thank you, but I flat out disagree with your opinion. As I said, she's a hell of a woman, and she blows my mind.
Thanks
dudefromindia
Thank you dudefromindia for restoring my hope. i know that she feels the same way. she probably doesn't even consider her past transgressions, because all she can see is starting over, starting something new with you. you sound like the type of guy who likes new beginings. Keep on doing your thing, and she will do her best to start something new with you everyday.
Hurrah Dudefromindia!