He has to take your needs into consideration too. Foreplay is a BIG part of a sexual relationship. If you want to spend some time making out, and doing other things, tell him. If he cares about you, he'll want to make you happy. Let him know that you aren't content with the way things are going, and that they need to change. If he's not willing to listen, find someone else. Also, you haven't mentioned anything about what protection you two are using, but protecting yourselves should take precedence. Condoms are a must even if you are on the pill or some other form of birth control.

Welcome to the SI101 Board and its Forums. I hope you enjoy participating. Please begin by reading the FAQs, the Posting Guidelines section, and especially the Index, all found at the top of the main screen. The Index contains links to helpful informative insightful as well as how-to articles that you and especially your boyfriend need to know and understand. Knowledge is empowering and right now his unbridled pride is getting in the way of having a relationship that is all it could be.

[QUOTE=rainbow001;238102]i need some help. me && my boyfriend have been having sex for bout 8months. i'm 15 he is 16. we have sex like crazy. it has gotten to the point where we do it like twice a day. my question is. He always wants to have sex like he is completely crazy bout it. he'll do anything to have it.

[COLOR="blue">If you did a blood test on him you would probably find that there is more testosterone than oxygen. :rolleyes: This is typical of every red-blooded male during the years right after puberty. Boys will say and do almost anything to have a climax.** If a girl is involved, so much the better; if not, masturbating one or more times a day or so is the alternative we all live with.

**Girls on the other hand want romance, an emotional connection, and, to be validated, and will sometimes have sex as a result. The motivation is different for the two genders. What can be dangerous for girls is in believing that sex equates to love. WRONG.[/COLOR]

i thought since we have sex so much && he knows he can have it whenever he wants that he would get over wanting it all the time.

[COLOR="blue">Nope. Have you heard the term "raging hormones"? Having an unbalanced hormone response and not yet having learned self control is the bane of every teenage boy.

Boys and Masturbation / Got questions?

Encourage him to read the section beginning with:
"The major caveat is that at some point you will have to learn to balance or manage your desire for pleasure and the need to eliminate stress and tension," including the section that follows on "Stress Management".[/COLOR]

example: i told him i wished we made out more. he said that is kid stuff && boreding. but we have sex everyday!!!!! i thought he would calm down bout sex. will he ever grow outta being sex crazy? or is it a guy thing && he'll always be this way?[/QUOTE]

This is a guy thing that he will age out of in ten years or so. Boys reach their sexual peak at nineteen. After he reaches nineteen and he continues to age his sex drive will diminish slowly over the course of his life. In the meantime he will live in emotional and physiological turmoil for a few years. As he continues to mature, grow up and learn self control, life for him will become more manageable.

Boys crave orgasms for two reasons. The first of these is for the pure enjoyment of them and as such we never "grow outta being sex crazy." The second reason is for stress management. Right now at age 16, it is as much about one as the other. Please do not confuse the act of making love and having orgasms with his need to also reduce the continual buildup of sexual tension and stress later in the day. While orgasms are the results for both, there is no other connection. This fact is important for every woman to know and understand. As a young kid, he probably has given little or no thought to the fact that making love is the outward expression of the love two people have for each other.

Kid stuff? He definitely needs to read the articles on making out listed in the Index. What he does not know or understand is that while he and other boys can be ready for an orgasm and ejaculation (climax) within a matter of a few minutes, girls/women require quite a bit of warm up time taking the form of emotional romancing, cuddling, kissing, and lots of making out (Necking, Petting, Heavy Petting) all before getting to the Foreplay stage.

KISSING & CARESSING--a young person's guide to EXPLORATION

Right now he does not understand the differences between males and females of the species and/or doesn't care as long as he gets his rocks off. If the latter, you are simply a means to an end as long as you give in and accommodate his urges. Does he love you? Perhaps, although, me thinks more than anything you are a means to an end and that as I mentioned above, he will say and do anything to get you to help him derive the pleasure and stress reduction he craves. I bet if you ask him, he will say he believes you (as a female) want and crave an orgasm as much as he does. He needs to understand that orgasms are not the biological necessity for women that they are for men. He needs to read this article listed in the Index:

The Anatomy of the Female "O"

There is nothing particularly wrong with having frequent sex unless it interferes with daily obligations, chores, homework, work, etc. That you are doing it so often right now is simply a substitute for what he would do on his own while home alone. He needs to know and understand that he does not know a lot, and according to you, some of what he says he knows is simply incorrect, so, if you can get him to read the articles he will be on his way to becoming a much better boyfriend and lover. If you cannot convince him, then I would recommend you drop him and move on to someone more mature and in control. Right now he is in this relationship for sex for sex sake, more than any emotional connection with you. If you want to help him grow up, then you have your work cut out for you. Because knowledge is empowering, you also have your reading of the articles to do, also.

Suggestion-- When you talk to him about all this (and you can show him this reply) do so in a positive way that he will not perceive as negative or threatening. Approach this as you want the two of you to learn as much as you can in order to have the best relationship (on all levels) as possible. If he doesn't respond positively to this, the lad is simply too immature for you at this time, pure and simple--and, you have proof that he is only interested in one thing.

I'll be happy to work with you should you have additional comments and concerns. Right now, do your reading assignments, separately or together, then discuss the information you've learned. Good luck.

-doc

The teenage male is a sperm machine. Spermatogenesis (making sperm - and semen) begins at puberty and continues throughout life. The peak in the male is about 18. There is constant desire to expel the excess and that is what you are experiencing. He has not learned that polite society requires some control over one's own impulses.

As you have noticed, we women rarely want sex as much as a seventeen year old boy. Maturing is learning to strike some balance that satisfies each of you. As long as you provide him with the release he needs whenever he wants it, he will continue this pattern.

We all (at least most of us) have crazy weekends or evenings that are sex marathons, and they can be fun. Once a day is not uncommon for a prolonged relationship but that usually involves the woman doing a bit more "for him" than for herself. That is also usually when they are cohabiting and have the convenience of their own space.

In the meantime, you two need to talk.

To the younger male mind - penetration is everything! He is ruled by his penis.

Sorry to say, but YOU have been TOO NICE to him.
Your new rule is: NO FOREPLAY = NO PENETRATION.
Making out isn't kid stuff nor is it boring - not if you're doing it right.

Please see the sticky post The Program and demand that he do it or accept you doing it to him. After a few "sessions" he might understand why. Twice a day is easy peasy - make him orgasm at least 4 times in 45 minutes. He'll learn better than to think he's "all powerful" when he finds out the ugly truth about his refractory period.

As for YOU - ONLY have sex with someone when YOU desire to have sex with him. Your desires are just as legitimate and as important as his. Since you're the one left holding the baby - YOU get the final say - yes or no.