Howdy all
I know this is going to confuse allot of ppl coz if certainly confused me... hope someone can help though.
I'm a 17 year old bisexual, who has been with 4 guys and 1 girl, the thought of sex always groses me out though, I hate the male genialia, I hate touching it, looking at it, and anything to do with it. The only time I like sex is when it's with a girl or when the guy is all the way inside me and I'm just 'feeling' the moment. I still can be out and about and see a guy and say oww he's hot, I'd do him. But far more often I find myself attracted to girls. Does this mean I'm a full blown lesbian or is this normal? I'm not sure what my question really is but maybe someone can figure out my blabble.
Thanks
Penny
Well, I am about your mother's age. I became sexually active at fifteen but continued for only several months and found the worry was not worth the bother and I was not really enjoying it. A girlfriend was experiencing the same and we discovered we could do very nicely with each other. In the many years since I have lived as a committed lesbian but reacted to being dumped and screwed my way through the university. Then I lived with two different men (at different times) with one clearly leading toward marriage. He died. My present girlfriend was my original girlfriend. She has been married, divorced and has a teen son.
We are both bi- and happy with each other. We each still have a need for a penis once in a while. We have very specific rules and great trust surrounding this. If either of us discovers Mr Right, I do not know what will happen but believe we are each mature and experienced enough to remain friends even if not lovers.
At fifteen I was certain I was straight; at 20, gay; at 25, straight. I am bi- and that is the way it is. Do not try to force anything. Live your life and you will learn.
Hugs.
Hi Penny,
Though i'm not much older than you are, just two years i'll give it a try and maybe it'd make it easier for you to sort things in your head. Or maybe will be a waste of cyberspace.
Personally i find it a little odd, hearing from you that you are almost positive that you are bisexual. Think about it. Think about what you like in men and what you don't. Do the same with women. Also try asking yourself what do you want from a relationship and which of the sexes is closer to providing you that and making you feel comfortable. Be profound! You seem a normal girl to me but a little bit confused. maybe as it was said there is a reson for you not liking men and maybe that is somehow connected with your sexlife. a direct reflection! Abuse can seriously damage your viewpoints if you don't try to overcome things. There is also a possibilty that you might not be entirely ready for sex. when did you start making it and with what parter? This is also improtant...
After you've given all that a good thought maybe you should try finding a caring and loving partner, who can help you sort things. Understranding, trust, caring, respect and love from somebody can put you on your feet for sure. Go for such a guy or a girl and maybe leave sex aside for a while.
Hope i hepled! my post seems a babble as well, now when i've writen it.
Thanks for the input so far, it is helping to get some more prospective on things. To answer ur questions, my parents are as close to divorse as ppl can get and I was abused allot (although not sexually) as a child by my dad. I didn't really think of these conections but now I am starting to think about them!
Ta again
Penny
At 17 it's tough to say..only YOU know for sure....but i must ask you.....are your parents together or divorced..ahave u had any form of sexual abuse by anyone? How long have u felt this way about men?
There's more here to the eye than just genetalia!
My guess would be you aren't physically attrated to men. Pretty simple. This may change because you are so young, but if you don't like what men look like and you do like what women look like, I would guess it's a pretty sure guess that you like women more. IMO whether you enjoy men or women, stimulation to your gentials would still feel good no matter who does it.
I personally find men's bodies unbelievably attrative, yet can also see beauty in women. However if I were to see a naked man next to a naked woman, I would choose the naked man anyday.
I don't think that people can think only one way... and there must that one person for everyone that even if they were the same sex you would want to have sex with them. Most people just won't admit that. There was one chic I met that I would have messed with, she was a singer in an awesome band that I saw in Montreal. My friend also agreed with me, and yet we both are "heterosexual".