This is a much clearer post than your other one.

> Ok Im a guy and this new stuff to me. I was a club (21+) and my friend started grinding on me and i got a hard on. It was nice and I was quite nervous at the same time. After a while my erection died down with her and then another girl started to dance on me & I went back to my first friend and I couldnt get a hard on. My question is,

> 1) do girls like to feel your junk while grind dancing?

"Junk?" You seem quite concerned while stating your manhood as "junk".

I suppose the answer is that it depends both on the circumstance and the girl. However, I believe it is fair to say that most women like knowing they have that affect on a man, although not necessarily having obvious physical confirmation.

> 2) being a guy, are u supposed to last the whole night and satisify every girl grinding on you?

Not unless you are from the planet Krypton.

> 3) do girls hate it when they grind on a guy and he is not turned on.

Based upon #1, I'd say it all depends upon the girl. Some have an agenda and some do not. Some like teasing and learning what power they wield over guys, others, take a less obvious path.

I do not go to night clubs and grind up against men...if I am slow dancing with someone i have an interest in and I can feel a state of arousal; then I find that a compliment. Expecting yourself to stay hard all night? That is a tough bar to set for yourself. Satisfy each? Have sex with all? I would think it's impossible, unsafe, and impracticable.

I'd like to revisit this question:

> 2) being a guy, are u supposed to last the whole night and satisify every girl grinding on you?

What do you mean by "last the whole night"? Do you mean being able to have and sustain an erection with every body you dance with or rub up against?

What do you mean by "satisfy every girl grinding on you?" Do you mean the above, or, as Sera asked: "Have sex with all?"

> > "...if I am slow dancing with someone i have an interest in and I can feel a state of arousal; then I find that a compliment."*

This is fine and it is innocent. I find that what the O/P wants to do when at a club to be demeaning to both the man and the women involved; brash, crass, and rude on his part. Why possibly embarrass her in public and possibly give a very wrong impression of what you are like (or are you)?

-Doc

P.S. to Sera300,

* This reminds me of a time several years ago when we did not have regular dance venues and had to "hold court" in lounges (not bars) having a small portable dance floor, and one or more musicians specializing in dance music, or in this particular monthly event, a Mormon Stake Center with a D.J. Now, you must understand that the Mormon church is big on dancing. They teach all forms at BYU, have dance teams that tour the world, and, hold an annual summer dance camp that is sold out a year in advance and attracts people from all over the world.

On this particular night I participated in a circle mixer. Women form a circle on the inside while guys form a circle around the outside, all facing each other. As the music begins, each circle moves in the opposite direction. When it stops, the person in front of you is your partner. The circle can continue to rotate for more than one partner or not.

I introduced myself to this church lady (a non-dancer) took her in dance position and waited for the song to begin. While waiting she reached behind and repositioned my hand from her shoulder-blade (where a leader has leverage in order to change his partner's orientation) to the juncture of the small of her back and waist, and then informed me that there should be enough room between us for the Book of Mormon! I was surprised and nonplussed by this information and action and had no retort. I just did as she requested.

Over the span of several months I related this story to others looking for an answer, finding none. One day someone I do not regularly dance with responded by asking me if I had asked her if it was the "pocket edition"? :rolleyes: :confused: I now use this example in my dance classes when teaching the correct form for dancing Waltz, Foxtrot, etc..........

I guess my age is beginning to show! This OP's question gives a new meaning to modern dance!

"Dear Sera", you are not getting older, just better.

Dear anew,

Men are NOT machines. Women, not girls but women, do NOT treat men as if they were. If you ever get this men=machine attitude from a female - you now know that she is not the one for you no matter how much she grinds against you on the dance floor.

When you first danced, you were excitable therefore the erection came on quickly. The next time, having once been up, it didn't because MORE stimulation would be needed. Each successive erection , just as with sex itself, will require increased levels of stimulation. Think of it as "promises, promises" until you don't want to hear it. The grinding promises sex but then you don't have any. So, your penis says, in effect, wake me when she gets serious.

It depends upon the relationship between the partners - if I like him then yes I enjoy noticing his erection. If I do not like him - well, I wouldn't be dancing with him at all. If I am ambivalent or have not yet made a decision about him and my desires, I will just make a neutral note of his erection. I tend to think of it as "he's volunteering".