Well the way you describe it, she sounds very aggresive. Maybe thats a sign that she is enjoying what she is doing? Especially if she stays so agressive for so long, she has got to be loving what she's doing :p
Sorry that was admittedly a little flippant. But seriously, just talk with her about it. You've been together 4 years, obviously your communication can't be all that lacking. Go straight to the source, she's the one you'll get the most accurate information from anyway. Ask her if there's anything you can be doing better. Beyond that, I would say take a mental inventory of her 'hot spots' (again, after 4 years I bet you know them like the back of your hand) and be sure you really play them up.
ok so shes GOOD but think of it like a video game... gotta get more strategic... i think asking her might take away from the "contest" b/c he seems just to stubborn to ask and then ultimately she wins not him... and its obvious that he needs the satisfaction rather than letting her have it .. seeing as she already is getting it to begin with...
:rolleyes:
so either grab your balls and talk to her or start studying HARD!!! cuz this seems like its really getting to ya.,.. and quite frankly i get it... i wanna succeed w/o the help and when i do its AMAZING so on that level... start studying!!!
> the problem is with that that i have asked her. shes not sure herself...
If you do some reading of the Sticky posts (see Index) and perform a search of the forums you will find that I have stated many times that making love is not what we do to each other, rather, what we do with an for each other and in partnership. The last part means you work together as a team. Explore and learn together.
As noted, above, communication is key. You have to be able to talk, listen, and understand, and if something is not clear or you believe you understand what was said, repeat it back. Also of critical importance is feedback. This can be verbal and/or non-verbal. Let each other know how you are responding to each other's caresses and for what you need now. Without feedback you'll likely only be right about half the time. With something so important who wants this as our batting average?
Yea i dont really see a problem. I mean shes had 2 sexual partners, and she might be this way cuz she is just naturally a sexuall person.
Her chest may not be sensitive to her yet. I know my last girl was like that. Always rubbing them in my face and stuff, but it was more for me. Then one day I was just massaging them through her shirt (a lil bit of a turn on for her) and I started playing with her nipple, and it drove her nuts. NOw suddenly her nipples are uber sensitive.
Id just keep up with it. I mean I used to...well for lack of a better word, "wreck" her. I mean were talking the craziest animalistic sex ever, where she couldnt move for a good 15 minutes. Then suddenly she changed. One day she was riding me, and out of no where she just starts playing with my balls and that was it. Or like normally she would just do normal doggy, but then all the sudden she started doing something crazy that basically felt like I was being massaged by a milion vaginas at once lol.
So what did I do. I just had to make sure I was on the top of my game tishe came and then I would relax a bit and let her take control. I mean if she started doing her thing in doggy style, I would just push her flat on her stomach, If she started squeezing her pc muscles, I would spread her legs and if she tried to play with my balls while in cowgirl, I would pull her down to femal superior and start thrusting so that she wouldnt have a free hand to do anything. She knows I do it all intentionally, and to her its kind of a game. We laugh and stuff while struggling to get the other one pinned in a way that leaves them at the others mercy
(The moral of the story, have sex, and be more aggresive than you have been. When in missionary, pin her down or even tie her up. While trying something like the prison warden thing, keep her hands behind her so she cant play with your balls.) Its all strategy and a bit of aggresion!
sounds likea very similar situation... thanks for the tip
maybe i have lost some of my aggression b/c wev'e been together for a while. Although it keeps getting better which is great.
judging by the 2 ways she likes most, any suggestions for something that will target the same area?
At least your not completely alone there Trouble! I agree - TIE HER UP FROM THE CEILING and dont let her gain any control - but you should both chill with the competition and maybe try some exploratory sex and additional toys/lubes for something new and additional and actually they have stuff for nipples that enhances the feeling
Haha that one is really good. Just take some time to learn every little spot that makes you and her melt.
But I think a little bit of competition in the bedroom might be useful. I mean that way you never have to worry about being boring or things like that. You will always try to make each other cum first which will lead to ridiculously great climaxes.
To the OP...sounds like a little experimentation is in order. Mental inventory time again: things you two have NOT tried together. Then some night try one. Change it up on her. Pull something unexpected out of your sleeve. I would keep it at one or two though, to keep some in your back pocket, so to speak ;)
And it might not hurt as much as you think to have that convo WITH HER. Might help get her excited to see what you decide to put on the agenda.
[FONT=Times New Roman][SIZE=3]You could try playing around with sensory deprivation and power positions. You could let her blind fold you or tie your hands, and then do it to her. She probably would get a kick out of being in both positions. It can be a lot of fun. Just don’t let her use your bran new silk tie. [/SIZE][/FONT]
[QUOTE=GotTrouble;217207]This is probably something that no1 ever complains about but it has actually become an issue...
My girlfriend (of 4 years) is too good for me in bed!
Yep this hurts the dignity some but i have always treated sex in a way that my goal is to make her cum, and actually to try not to have her make me cum.
Problem is the exact opposite is occuring now, I need some ladies advice.
Background:
Im not here to brag, actually i dont have a profile cause i dont want my girl to ever see this lol.... I have had a strong number of sexual partners, I have never once heard anything bad, been laughed at, or (as it seems) have dissapointed a girl (not counting drunken nights lol, some of those have been disaster).
I have had sexual partners who were very experianced, even women a good amount older then me.
Im usually very dominant, and see sex as a contest in many ways. When I have a girl in a position where I am in control I go at them pretty hard.
Im now 27, in good shape and health. I have no sexual deficiencies and am pretty well endowed. So basicly im ready to go.
My girl is 23, in very good shape, she may actually try to do some amature modeling. She has only had 2 sexual partners before me, 1 relationship of 4years and one 1-nite stand which she said was very dissapointing.
When i first saw her i didnt think wed end up speaking, but i do remember thinking she had a hell of a body and looked like a real bitch, i remember thinking what i would do to her if i got the chance, lol well i did.
Here are the issues-
1) She is impossible to wear out... i can do whatever i want to her as hard or however and as soon as i ease up, she starts attempting (succeeding) to take control. For example if i have her in a sea-saw, or similar move where her back is on the bed, as soon as i slow down shel move into a jellyfish, shove my face into her chest and then lock in with a lotus. Anytime i find a position where i have total control she finds a way to reverse it on me, most annoying (again this is really all good) is when i have her doggy style shel be moaning so loud n then just reach back and grab my balls which wears me down quick, slow me down and push me back into a reverse cowboy. These are just examples.
I have never had that problem with a girl before, especially to this degree, i understand some positions can be broke but all of them???
2) Similar is she can take whatever i give her and it doesnt seem to affect her (except the missionary... odd??) Lately she actually laughs here and there (which turns me on) while im in control, then she takes over and im in trouble.
3)The reverse mastery position-
OK yes she has a great ass, but so have other girls ive been with... In this position shel basicly tells me when im gonna cum and 99% of the times it happans... She leans really far forward, grabs my balls and just goes off on me and i absolutely cannot take it, in anyway. I have never had a position i couldnt take every time, and whats wierd is ive done this with other girls and it never really affected me much. We made a video once and she did this to me, i sware she could have been doing her taxes cause it wasnt phasing her at all, infact i tryed to get up and get her in a standing doggy position and she just slammed on me harder gaining back control. Keep in mind shes 5' tall and 102 lbs so it wasnt her size. If i pull her up in this position she just makes me squeeze her tits and keeps me in a reverse cowboy.
4)I dont believe doing things to her chest effects her... she makes me do it during sex but it doesnt seem to phase her, not like it has other girls. However when she grabs my balls it affects me greatly.
5)OK i dont know if i hit some magic age, but my .. uhm.. load over the last year has almost tripled in size... when i cum now theres a whole lot, this is fun cause she likes me to loose it on her however it makes it harder to hold back, whacking off a few hours before helps some but if we spend a weekend together friday and saturday nite i make a mess lol... She also makes me cum so hard i usually cant go again for a little while.
6) i dont know where all of this came from, when we first did it i did what i always wanted to do, ripped her clothes off and punished her doggy style.. she said i was the best sex she ever had (although she says her X was good) she is very honest so i dont think shes lying.
What the hell can i do, and how did she get so good???? I have been with a few girls who where very 'experianced' and overall they cant touch her..
help lol[/QUOTE]
unless she is making you feel worthless i don't see a problem here,
Once again, a man getting all elaborate and THEN asking himself - but does she really enjoy it? Of course he cannot ask her because then she'll "win". Of course he never paid enough attention to KNOW when she's orgasmed or not.
It is just one big wrestling match and what he can do to her or she to him INSTEAD of actually making love to his/her partner. Thump, bang, grab and go - no nuance, no exploration, no tenderness, no subtlety,
And now he's wondering what's really going on.
Buddy, if you took the time you'd not have to ask.
Try reading and following the sticky post entitled The Program.
I don't see a problem here, lol. Sounds pretty sweet to me :)
LOL it is dont get me wrong, but i wanna make sure shes having as good a time as i am.
Well the way you describe it, she sounds very aggresive. Maybe thats a sign that she is enjoying what she is doing? Especially if she stays so agressive for so long, she has got to be loving what she's doing :p
OK here's a novel idea....ASK HER!
Sorry that was admittedly a little flippant. But seriously, just talk with her about it. You've been together 4 years, obviously your communication can't be all that lacking. Go straight to the source, she's the one you'll get the most accurate information from anyway. Ask her if there's anything you can be doing better. Beyond that, I would say take a mental inventory of her 'hot spots' (again, after 4 years I bet you know them like the back of your hand) and be sure you really play them up.
Int1103 your candidness is refreshing. Also, your no nonsense approach
is exactly what most would like to hear. Good for you.
ok so shes GOOD but think of it like a video game... gotta get more strategic... i think asking her might take away from the "contest" b/c he seems just to stubborn to ask and then ultimately she wins not him... and its obvious that he needs the satisfaction rather than letting her have it .. seeing as she already is getting it to begin with...
:rolleyes:
so either grab your balls and talk to her or start studying HARD!!! cuz this seems like its really getting to ya.,.. and quite frankly i get it... i wanna succeed w/o the help and when i do its AMAZING so on that level... start studying!!!
the problem is with that that i have asked her. shes not sure herself...
she likes everything but says missionary and cowboy work best
> the problem is with that that i have asked her. shes not sure herself...
If you do some reading of the Sticky posts (see Index) and perform a search of the forums you will find that I have stated many times that making love is not what we do to each other, rather, what we do with an for each other and in partnership. The last part means you work together as a team. Explore and learn together.
As noted, above, communication is key. You have to be able to talk, listen, and understand, and if something is not clear or you believe you understand what was said, repeat it back. Also of critical importance is feedback. This can be verbal and/or non-verbal. Let each other know how you are responding to each other's caresses and for what you need now. Without feedback you'll likely only be right about half the time. With something so important who wants this as our batting average?
Yea i dont really see a problem. I mean shes had 2 sexual partners, and she might be this way cuz she is just naturally a sexuall person.
Her chest may not be sensitive to her yet. I know my last girl was like that. Always rubbing them in my face and stuff, but it was more for me. Then one day I was just massaging them through her shirt (a lil bit of a turn on for her) and I started playing with her nipple, and it drove her nuts. NOw suddenly her nipples are uber sensitive.
Id just keep up with it. I mean I used to...well for lack of a better word, "wreck" her. I mean were talking the craziest animalistic sex ever, where she couldnt move for a good 15 minutes. Then suddenly she changed. One day she was riding me, and out of no where she just starts playing with my balls and that was it. Or like normally she would just do normal doggy, but then all the sudden she started doing something crazy that basically felt like I was being massaged by a milion vaginas at once lol.
So what did I do. I just had to make sure I was on the top of my game tishe came and then I would relax a bit and let her take control. I mean if she started doing her thing in doggy style, I would just push her flat on her stomach, If she started squeezing her pc muscles, I would spread her legs and if she tried to play with my balls while in cowgirl, I would pull her down to femal superior and start thrusting so that she wouldnt have a free hand to do anything. She knows I do it all intentionally, and to her its kind of a game. We laugh and stuff while struggling to get the other one pinned in a way that leaves them at the others mercy
(The moral of the story, have sex, and be more aggresive than you have been. When in missionary, pin her down or even tie her up. While trying something like the prison warden thing, keep her hands behind her so she cant play with your balls.) Its all strategy and a bit of aggresion!
sounds likea very similar situation... thanks for the tip
maybe i have lost some of my aggression b/c wev'e been together for a while. Although it keeps getting better which is great.
judging by the 2 ways she likes most, any suggestions for something that will target the same area?
At least your not completely alone there Trouble! I agree - TIE HER UP FROM THE CEILING and dont let her gain any control - but you should both chill with the competition and maybe try some exploratory sex and additional toys/lubes for something new and additional and actually they have stuff for nipples that enhances the feeling
think you guys need to go shopping!
Haha that one is really good. Just take some time to learn every little spot that makes you and her melt.
But I think a little bit of competition in the bedroom might be useful. I mean that way you never have to worry about being boring or things like that. You will always try to make each other cum first which will lead to ridiculously great climaxes.
Thanks CL.
To the OP...sounds like a little experimentation is in order. Mental inventory time again: things you two have NOT tried together. Then some night try one. Change it up on her. Pull something unexpected out of your sleeve. I would keep it at one or two though, to keep some in your back pocket, so to speak ;)
And it might not hurt as much as you think to have that convo WITH HER. Might help get her excited to see what you decide to put on the agenda.
[FONT=Times New Roman][SIZE=3]You could try playing around with sensory deprivation and power positions. You could let her blind fold you or tie your hands, and then do it to her. She probably would get a kick out of being in both positions. It can be a lot of fun. Just don’t let her use your bran new silk tie. [/SIZE][/FONT]
[QUOTE=GotTrouble;217207]This is probably something that no1 ever complains about but it has actually become an issue...
My girlfriend (of 4 years) is too good for me in bed!
Yep this hurts the dignity some but i have always treated sex in a way that my goal is to make her cum, and actually to try not to have her make me cum.
Problem is the exact opposite is occuring now, I need some ladies advice.
Background:
Im not here to brag, actually i dont have a profile cause i dont want my girl to ever see this lol.... I have had a strong number of sexual partners, I have never once heard anything bad, been laughed at, or (as it seems) have dissapointed a girl (not counting drunken nights lol, some of those have been disaster).
I have had sexual partners who were very experianced, even women a good amount older then me.
Im usually very dominant, and see sex as a contest in many ways. When I have a girl in a position where I am in control I go at them pretty hard.
Im now 27, in good shape and health. I have no sexual deficiencies and am pretty well endowed. So basicly im ready to go.
My girl is 23, in very good shape, she may actually try to do some amature modeling. She has only had 2 sexual partners before me, 1 relationship of 4years and one 1-nite stand which she said was very dissapointing.
When i first saw her i didnt think wed end up speaking, but i do remember thinking she had a hell of a body and looked like a real bitch, i remember thinking what i would do to her if i got the chance, lol well i did.
Here are the issues-
1) She is impossible to wear out... i can do whatever i want to her as hard or however and as soon as i ease up, she starts attempting (succeeding) to take control. For example if i have her in a sea-saw, or similar move where her back is on the bed, as soon as i slow down shel move into a jellyfish, shove my face into her chest and then lock in with a lotus. Anytime i find a position where i have total control she finds a way to reverse it on me, most annoying (again this is really all good) is when i have her doggy style shel be moaning so loud n then just reach back and grab my balls which wears me down quick, slow me down and push me back into a reverse cowboy. These are just examples.
I have never had that problem with a girl before, especially to this degree, i understand some positions can be broke but all of them???
2) Similar is she can take whatever i give her and it doesnt seem to affect her (except the missionary... odd??) Lately she actually laughs here and there (which turns me on) while im in control, then she takes over and im in trouble.
3)The reverse mastery position-
OK yes she has a great ass, but so have other girls ive been with... In this position shel basicly tells me when im gonna cum and 99% of the times it happans... She leans really far forward, grabs my balls and just goes off on me and i absolutely cannot take it, in anyway. I have never had a position i couldnt take every time, and whats wierd is ive done this with other girls and it never really affected me much. We made a video once and she did this to me, i sware she could have been doing her taxes cause it wasnt phasing her at all, infact i tryed to get up and get her in a standing doggy position and she just slammed on me harder gaining back control. Keep in mind shes 5' tall and 102 lbs so it wasnt her size. If i pull her up in this position she just makes me squeeze her tits and keeps me in a reverse cowboy.
4)I dont believe doing things to her chest effects her... she makes me do it during sex but it doesnt seem to phase her, not like it has other girls. However when she grabs my balls it affects me greatly.
5)OK i dont know if i hit some magic age, but my .. uhm.. load over the last year has almost tripled in size... when i cum now theres a whole lot, this is fun cause she likes me to loose it on her however it makes it harder to hold back, whacking off a few hours before helps some but if we spend a weekend together friday and saturday nite i make a mess lol... She also makes me cum so hard i usually cant go again for a little while.
6) i dont know where all of this came from, when we first did it i did what i always wanted to do, ripped her clothes off and punished her doggy style.. she said i was the best sex she ever had (although she says her X was good) she is very honest so i dont think shes lying.
What the hell can i do, and how did she get so good???? I have been with a few girls who where very 'experianced' and overall they cant touch her..
help lol[/QUOTE]
unless she is making you feel worthless i don't see a problem here,
Once again, a man getting all elaborate and THEN asking himself - but does she really enjoy it? Of course he cannot ask her because then she'll "win". Of course he never paid enough attention to KNOW when she's orgasmed or not.
It is just one big wrestling match and what he can do to her or she to him INSTEAD of actually making love to his/her partner. Thump, bang, grab and go - no nuance, no exploration, no tenderness, no subtlety,
And now he's wondering what's really going on.
Buddy, if you took the time you'd not have to ask.
Try reading and following the sticky post entitled The Program.