My girlfriend agreed to having anal sex with me and I have a question. How much lubercant do we need to use? I looked under the anal section under sex basics and I did not see an answer to my question, it just says use it. Is it possible to use to much? I know it's possible of not using enough but I want to make sure we use enough. I did explain to her that it will hurt both of us and I told her if she wants to stop all she has to do is tell me to and I will stop. Thank you.
Tue, 02/09/2010 - 14:48
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got a question about anal
Hundreds of different lubricants are available.
All kinds of lube are used for anal sex, from spit to Vaseline to high-tech silicone-based lubes. Water-based lube is generally considered to be the safest all-purpose lubrication. Oil-based lubes are no longer recommended as a form of lubrication for safer sex. Oil-based lubes can also break down latex condoms, dams, gloves, other latex safer-sex products, diaphragms, and cervical caps, thus reducing their effectiveness.
Ok I typed a reply to this in the wrong thread and never saved it before editing it, grrr
Long story short.... put anal lube into your search and you will find a quite a few posts regarding this.
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> I did explain to her that it will hurt both of us and I told her if she wants to stop all she has to do is tell me to and I will stop.
Penetrating the anus should never be painful! If and when it is--
1. you are not doing it correctly
2. you are not using adequate lubrication, or--
3. the lube you are using needs to be redistributed to the affected area
A few notes on lube:
1. NEVER use numbing lube around the anus. If you're in pain, you need to know so you can stop immediately.
2. There is no such thing as too much, although dumping a bottle on her could make a huge mess. My partner normally will have me bend in doggy, and will drizzle the lube just below my tailbone, and will let it run down. He puts some on himself as well, and we make sure it's spread around the area.
3. Keep it near you at all times!
Guy, two words. LOTS and THICKER. Watery lubes will not do the trick. ALSO lube isn't all you need. You need condoms that can stand the strain and you need to get her ROARINGLY AROUSED to the point of INCANDESCENCE!
And you should do this AFTER you have tried receiving anal sex yourself.
[QUOTE=EvilEvilKitten;252022]Guy, two words. LOTS and THICKER. Watery lubes will not do the trick. ALSO lube isn't all you need. You need condoms that can stand the strain and you need to get her ROARINGLY AROUSED to the point of INCANDESCENCE!
And you should do this AFTER you have tried receiving anal sex yourself.[/QUOTE]
what kind of condoms are they? What brands?
[QUOTE=EvilEvilKitten;252022]. . . . .And you should do this AFTER you have tried receiving anal sex yourself.[/QUOTE]
At first, I wanted to call this as recommended or optional, but I have to admit that after I masturbated with a butt plug, I understood things a lot more from her perspective.
Surprised me that, with a little patience, the anus actually relaxes and sucks it in. My contribution would be to be very gentle until that happens, and go carefully forward from there.
Does it help to have your partner use his fingers and lube to loosen you up.
Yes use lots of thick lube,made especially for anal sex play,and make sure he puts it on his fingers before he puts them in your anus.I hope that he will let you explore his anus with your fingers too,because what's good for the goose is also good for the gander.
[QUOTE=nyco0927;261336]Does it help to have your partner use his fingers and lube to loosen you up.[/QUOTE]
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