dont worry so much guys cannot go at it like most girls could. first blowjobs and sex is different for guys. like for me i recoop from sex quickly and from blowjobs it takes longer. also he could be nervous and other issues like that

He's feeling a bit overwhelmed. Most women can outgun any six men you'd care to name once she gets rolling so this is not unusual. Both of you need to relax. Men are not machines. Instead - have him develop his other sexual skills that is the use of his mouth and of his hands. There are many things he could be doing for you that do not involve having an erection. An added benefit to him by doing this is that he will become more confident and less anxious since he knows he has these additional skills.

> but when i was horny and like ready he kept going soft?
i felt so bad and i had to keep reassuring him..

Just out of curiosity, what did you do if anything, to rebuild his erection? The reassurance is a good thing as far as it goes; however, unless and until he is rearoused subsequent erections will be later than sooner.

Guys have a much longer down time than gals. Whereas many women can experience multiple orgasms within moments of the previous, guys generally take between ten and thirty minutes before they can have another climax. Some will go soft immediately after a climax, some may loose an erection later, and others may maintain it. To each his own and these conditions may change from session to session. The key is to keep him aroused a little bit by kissing, cuddling, caressing, and, fondling during this period and then when he is able, to peak that "coasting" level of arousal and work up another climax. Depending upon age, "wiring", and sex drive, most guys can have two, three, or perhaps four climaxes in a multiple string (to include the first one).