Condoms do act as a barrier to semen as well as sensation. The debate goes on whether the complaining men do about the lack of sensation is really real or simply an excuse for trying not to wear them. I am willing to lay odds that it is both. That said, it seems logical that you are among those who simply cannot reach and achieve an orgasm while wearing a condom. Although quite thin, there is just enough thickness in the condom's lining to impede the stimulation necessary.

There are likely one or two sources for the problem.

The first is that the two of you are not doing enough kissing and caressing in order to maintain a high level of excitement; the second is that the condom barrier is preventing the necessary direct stimulation and as your excitement wains so too does the erection.

The type of condom may have an affect. You can try natural types; although you should also be aware of their safety limitations.

Before switching brands/models, I suggest adjusting the other things you two are doing so that you continue to maintain an erection. If you are of the belief that one of the purposes of intercourse is to build your excitement prior to climaxing, you are incorrect and have the proverbial cart before the horse.

The physical process of stroking is simply to maintain an already high state of excitement and readiness--not to generate it, that is the purpose of all the making out and foreplay you engage in beforehand. So, if you are not right on the edge of a climax before getting into position, then you need to change your approach and preparation.

I do not believe the chemicals involved have any bearing on the matter. I still believe that it is in your approach, especially true if you are loosing it before joining up. If you are loosing it during intercourse and while stroking, then it could be that you need to pull out when you sense it happening and do some manual stroking in the interum.

Much of maintaining an erection has to do with how turned on you are. If you are not attending to this with ongoing kisses and caresses, or if you are just humping away for a very long time then things need to change, and here again it is the approach. If intercourse is going on for much longer than five minutes then you are being your own worst enemy, and hers, as she will soon become tired, bored, and sore. So, if you are loosing it as a result of this then you need to keep intercourse short.

Thanks for the feedback. What say you?

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