Fair trade: you not go down on her and she not go down on you. Given a few years I hope that your opinions change because you are borderline misogynist and will likely make a terrible lover without the maturing that doc suggests.

If a man will not go down on me, we will not have another date. That, too, is a fair trade.

If thats how you feel.. Tell her you are never going to do it and those reasons... Then she can decide if she wishes to continue with you...
And be ready for her to tell you she will never perform oral on you...

The " vagina not being made for that".. sorry but being the owner of one I can assure you it is made for other things then reproduction and only a penis..;)

Ah yes, well, if we were strictly animals - had a heat cycle as other animals do, etc. - then what nature intended would prevail. But we aren't therefore what nature intended means very little.

WHY perform cunnilingus - because it feels GREAT! And it feels esp. wonderful when combined with manual stimulation of the G-Spot. Multiple orgasms galore!!!

But why bother to ask why do it when you have no intention of ever going there?

Yeah lots of 'unpleasant things' comes from a woman's vagina but at least they come from different transport systems unlike males where it is an 'all in one' situation and yet guys enjoy fellatio which most women are willing to do. Most people enjoy pleasing eachother orally and few, if any, have died from it.

Yours is a case of carrying fastidiousness beyond the point of reason.

You shouldn't do things you're not comfortable with, and you don't have to come up with reasons, it's enough that you don't like the idea.
With that in mind, I'd recommend you try it at least once if you have a bit of doubt on whether you'll like it or not.

Ye gawds fella if you are that put off by it.. don't do it...
The reason I didn't mention your first reason was because I wanted to spare
your feelings... But since you asked :rolleyes: I think that it is pathetic
You havent tried it so how do you know what it tastes like?

[QUOTE=dengisnu;254906]Me and my girlfriend had a conversation about going down on each other.

She told me she wouldn't go down on me unless I went down on her.

I'm indifferent about her going down on me.

She says she won't put pressure on me to do that, but she says she would like it.

Today, I came to the conclusion that I don't want to do it.

Here are my best reasons:

1. I don't want my tongue tasting or in close proximity to bodily fluids, such urethra/urine, vaginal mucus (what moisturizes the vagina and seeps out when a woman is aroused), or menstrual cycle remains (no matter how hard you scrub there's dirt/residue somewhere on you.)

2. Rationally, I think the vagina wasn't made for that, especially when considering reproduction - my first mind tells me the penis is the natural complement for the vagina.

3. It seems unpleasant: laying there for some amount of time, the tongue getting fatigued, plus the taste of it.

4. It seems boring.[/QUOTE]

Fair enough. Don't do something you're not comfortable with. I completely understand your hesitation about cleanliness (whether rational or irrational) because I myself have had the same concerns. I could get past it with a shower beforehand and perhaps just avoiding licking the urethra itself. That's perhaps a bit harder to do on a woman though. Your focus during oral sex on a woman is not really going to be her vaginal entrance or urethra though, it'll be the clitoris.

Yeah, we got it, There's a huge EEWWWW factor here for you although of the two, your mouth is filithiier than her vagina. (Go look it up.)

But you are here for a reason. You're asking us to 'approve' your decision. Which means, that you aren't completely sure and want some support.

Sure. Go right ahead and say NO.

Like I said before - that is your perogative.

Just don't come back here weeping when she dumps you. No woman wants a guy who reminds her of her maiden aunt.

As a man, I highly recommend that you give it a chance. I understand you worries, but truly it is a very safe thing to do. Read the articles on this website to familiarize your self more. And give it a chance. There is definitely more to sex then penetration. Don't give up on this part just yet, add the scent and the taste of her, I promise you will not be disappointed.

[QUOTE=dengisnu;254906][COLOR="blue">Me and my girlfriend had a conversation about going down on each other.[/COLOR]

This should be written as "My girlfriend and I". Always place yourself last. You wouldn't say "me had a conversation...."

[COLOR="blue">She told me she wouldn't go down on me unless I went down on her.[/COLOR]

A very clear and concise statement.
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I'm indifferent about her going down on me.
Today, I came to the conclusion that I don't want to do it.[/COLOR]

If you enjoy the feelings and sensations you derive from stimulating your penis by hand and especially when using a lubricant, why would you not want to experiment to see if your girlfriend's lips and a tongue could provide even greater pleasure for you to enjoy?

[COLOR="blue">She says she won't put pressure on me to do that, but she says she would like it.[/COLOR]

Asked and answered, above.

[COLOR="blue">Here are my best reasons:

1. I don't want my tongue tasting or in close proximity to bodily fluids, such urethra/urine, vaginal mucus (what moisturizes the vagina and seeps out when a woman is aroused), or menstrual cycle remains (no matter how hard you scrub there's dirt/residue somewhere on you.) [/COLOR]

Urine is sanitary. People have been know to drink urine in order to stay alive while stranded on desert islands, etc.

Vaginal mucus is not poison. Neither is saliva. Although an acquired taste, people all around the world for eons have been tasting and lapping up vaginal mucus as part of pleasuring their partner, orally. The same is true for precum and semen. What do you think when any/all of these fluids get on your fingers and hand?

I'd be more hesitant to run my lips and tongue over a person's body who had sweat and perspiration and bacteria on their skin. That said, suggest bathing sometime before meeting for a date and/or making out. Why are you so paranoid about hygiene? (I find it interesting when watching medical shows on TV in which a man or woman is featured cleaning their home using a multitude of cleansers, cloths, and hours upon hours of labor only to learn that all those years of effort are for naught after lab cultures have been taken that show more germs that they failed to locate or even think about.) Why touch a person with your hand or even kiss each other on the lips or French kiss, if you are so concerned about contamination??
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2. Rationally, I think the vagina wasn't made for that, especially when considering reproduction - my first mind tells me the penis is the natural complement for the vagina[/COLOR].

Are you aware that a person's skin is their largest sex organ? That being the case, freshly bathed or not, doesn't the skin serve multiple purposes? Don't we use the saliva for more than just helping to swallow? Don't we involve the nerves all over for our pleasure? It's not all about the penis or vagina per se. You seem to be in conflict over just how your penis or your partner's vagina should be touched and by what.

[COLOR="blue">3. It seems unpleasant: laying there for some amount of time, the tongue getting fatigued, plus the taste of it.[/COLOR]

"It seems unpleasant?" But you have not explored, experimented, experienced, or, acquired firsthand knowledge. If a friend or two tells me that the taste of chocolate and coconut are terrible, yet I do not find out for myself firsthand, what does this say about my life and expanding my horizons? What two of life's simple pleasures might I be missing out on?

4. [COLOR="blue">It seems boring.[/COLOR][/QUOTE]

Why don't you find out for yourself? If millions of people all over the planet are doing this, it can't all be bad or injurious.

Yes, your tongue may get tired. SO WHAT. Do something else. Give it a rest. Do something else. When learning to masturbate, my wrist and arm got tired quickly. I kept at it and built up the muscles. When learning to dance, my arms became fatigued as I strained early on in my training to maintain a dance frame. Practice strengthened the muscles and I'm still dancing. Your arguments and hesitations fall upon deaf ears.

Far be it from me to say your thoughts and opinions are incorrect. Not. What I am saying is that you seem to have some notions that have not proven to be accurate.

I suggest not making love with anybody until you learn more, and mature more. You are not yet ready for this level of intimacy and emotional interaction. Give yourself more time to grow.

[QUOTE=dengisnu;254906]Me and my girlfriend had a conversation about going down on each other.

She told me she wouldn't go down on me unless I went down on her.

I'm indifferent about her going down on me.

She says she won't put pressure on me to do that, but she says she would like it.

Today, I came to the conclusion that I don't want to do it.

Here are my best reasons:

1. I don't want my tongue tasting or in close proximity to bodily fluids, such urethra/urine, vaginal mucus (what moisturizes the vagina and seeps out when a woman is aroused), or menstrual cycle remains (no matter how hard you scrub there's dirt/residue somewhere on you.)

2. Rationally, I think the vagina wasn't made for that, especially when considering reproduction - my first mind tells me the penis is the natural complement for the vagina.

3. It seems unpleasant: laying there for some amount of time, the tongue getting fatigued, plus the taste of it.

4. It seems boring.[/QUOTE]

Everybody says "Fair enough". Screw that. You are BORING in bed. I can't imagine why a woman would even want to engage in anything sexual with somebody who thinks the vagina is some dirty and disgusting hole.

I gotta ask - are you gay? Because I've never heard of s STRAIGHT man who doesn't think his ladies vagina is sexy, and given the chance, would lick her pussy all day long.

I love licking my wife's pussy, it turns her on, it turns me on, and when she cums on my tongue, its amazing.

[QUOTE=dengisnu;254906]Me and my girlfriend had a conversation about going down on each other.

She told me she wouldn't go down on me unless I went down on her.

I'm indifferent about her going down on me.

She says she won't put pressure on me to do that, but she says she would like it.

Today, I came to the conclusion that I don't want to do it.

Here are my best reasons:

1. I don't want my tongue tasting or in close proximity to bodily fluids, such urethra/urine, vaginal mucus (what moisturizes the vagina and seeps out when a woman is aroused), or menstrual cycle remains (no matter how hard you scrub there's dirt/residue somewhere on you.)

2. Rationally, I think the vagina wasn't made for that, especially when considering reproduction - my first mind tells me the penis is the natural complement for the vagina.

3. It seems unpleasant: laying there for some amount of time, the tongue getting fatigued, plus the taste of it.

4. It seems boring.[/QUOTE]

No disrespect but you're an ass!!!

1) if you loved her enough, you would do anything to please her regardless of how you feel about it

2) When you kiss, you exchange bodily fluids. And you mouth is by far not as clean as her vagina.

3) You're laying there getting tired from tonguing her because you probably don't know what you're doing. She probably knows this too. If you don't like the taste, take a shower with her before hand or get some of that flavored oral lube.

4) If you did it right, it's no telling what she's willing to do for you.

That's it, I'm done

LOL Thank you, DirtDiver.
And here I thought I was the only one who counseled using a bazooka!

for me going down on a female is good to do and watch her move around as i look after her sexually.
its worth a try and im sure once you have done it once you will do it everytime you have sex and or just mucking around
i totally agree with dirtdriver and any straight male who wouldnt want to be down there underneath a naked female doing things to her pussy

look, my man is not a huge fan of oral, but when he gets down to it, he does with no restraints. I actually told him before he went down on me that if he really did not want to do it, he didn't have to.

He did anyways, and that was heaven.

So far, everyone thinks you would be a selfish asswipe if you have issues with going down on a woman. Knowing full well that the vagina is a self cleaning organ and is cleaner than the mouth

1. You sir are a selfish idiot.
2. You sir need something else to fall back on in case you do suck in the sack
3. Try anything once, you might just like it
4. Girl's pleasure should come first, it's called etiquette.

HOWEVER, people:
No matter how irrational his likes/dislikes - HE too has the right to say NO.

You are correct EvilKitten. He has the right to say no and maybe in a few years he may change his mind. But I'm glad the gf made it equal. I do not understand his logic since I am like most everyone else that has commented and just love to go down on her. I love a good bj myself, but enjoy giving her oral just as much or more. An occassional bj is just fine for me, but don't ever turn off access to her vulva with my mouth.

I see her getting bored with him and moving on to someone else who is more willing and skillful than him. He needs to find a girl that doesn't want him down there, and leave the others for men that can appreciate a good pussy.

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He needs to find a girl that doesn't want him down there[/QUOTE]

Maybe one with a good case of vaginosis! LOL!

Seriously though....while the vulva is a much different organ than a penis, it is still cleaner than a mouth...even a clean mouth. Besides, I read somewhere that oral sex is beneficial to one's immune system. I think there might be truth, because since I've been eating my wife out once a week, I've never been sick with more than the sniffles.

I also don't think women should be disgusted by giving a blow job either. Afterall, our penis is an external organ that with simple maintenance, is clean and smooth. I once had a girlfriend that said she thought giving me a blowjob was disgusting and dirty, I said honey, try sticking your mouth into a wet hole full of juices that hasn't been washed all day. Its like licking your armpit. I do for you, you do for me. If that's no good, than adios amigo. :D

To our reluctant friend: Keep in mind it's all a matter of taste. :)

Question for the ladies. Are women really turned on when their boyfriend or husband goes down on them AFTER they have sex? This is a touchy subject for guys, but was considering trying this with my wife and was curious if it is worth it. Honest responses please.

The ick factor was the main reason we didn't do this sooner in marriage. But after she was willing to have me cum in her mouth, it didn't seem that big of a deal if I went down on her after I had cum in her. The first time, she hadn't reached her orgasm before I finished and needed some added attention. So she pushed my head down so I could give her more oral to finish her off. Since I knew she wanted it and wasn't going to be grossed out by me tasting and swallowing my own cum, I just had to get up the courage to try it. But it didn't take much other than her giving me the go ahead. So I went right down on her and got to taste my cum. It really wasn't bad. The texture was different, so I understand the complaint by some women about that. But it wasn't long before she was totally turned on by this and me hitting the right spots, and she had a huge orgasm. So the mixture of her juices and mine mixed was very nice. Plus it was good to see her orgasm so hard. We don't do it often, but there are times that it just works out that I need to do this for her. I don't hesitate to do it and enjoy it.

the taste and smells that accompany oral sex with a woman is NECTAR from HEAVEN...n'uff said!;)

You don't want your tongue by bodily fluids? Uh oh! What do you think saliva is? But I'm sure you're the type that's never had sweat, a runny nose, or tears start running towards your mouth....

I hope you start seeing that your "logic" is nothing more than fear and ignorance...

The same would go for her then why go down on u.
U probably done anal, u also urinate, u also cum and stick in any vagina u find. Dont knock it till u tried it.