I agree. The pressure to 'get there' for a girl can be just as bad as a guy's performance anxieties. It seems like the more you (not you just in general) try to have one, the less you are able to do so. Definitely don't make it the focus of your experience with her. Patience is a virtue, it will eventually happen. But she's got to speak up and tell you what feels good!

I agree...if that's all she's concentrating on then she's putting too much pressure on herself. Let her lay back and enjoy. Concentrate on the sensations and the feelings, and just let herself go. Take your time. If you start licking her clit or llips, keep doing it, slowly and little by little move it faster. Let the sensations build within her and maybe add a finger or two to add to the experience. But mostly, tell her to just enjoy herself and not worry about anything at all.

Twinkie

The way to having a good time and having a great sexual experience is not by having an orgasm every time. Just tell her it's ok that she doesn't have to have an orgasm every time to have a good time. Is she trying to get an orgasm for you or her... cuz if she is trying to get an orgasm for your beneifit then she might be nervous... to make it good enough for you... so don't make her feel that way if you think there is any way she might feel that way. She may be getting too frustrated in reaching that orgasm that she is getting nervous and it's not coming... in more ways then one... just make her relax... take her down do things to her... it takes time... and she just needs to lay down and feel it and it will come eventually just be calm and patient with her and make her as confortable as possible... also go online and get soem techniques to fingering or oral on a girl... just let feel it and tell her to calm down and also just do things to her and experiement and she will tell you what turns her one so that way the orgasm will come... it will come eventrually just tell her to see what turns her on and tell her to calm down if she is freaking out... just lay her down on the bed and just spend some time having fun and experimenting... having low self esteem and aslo not knowing what turns her on could make it harder too... she may not know how to turn herself on and she really has to do that before you can... especially for you to get her to orgasm she needs to know how her own body works... good luck... an dplease update us if you need more help or have more dilemas with this one
it will be alright... just relax have fun and experiment with her