I'm going to be honest, its hard for me to give my fiancee a blow job. i cracked my jaw bone as a kid and some times it locks on me, its very painful. I try to do it everyonce in awhile, i think i suck at it litterally. it takes a long time to get him off which makes my jaw hurt. i play with his balls and rub the skin underneath that conects with his anus with my index finger( whatever its called i forget right now) He seems to like it and now when we have sex he rubs me there also, i guess thats the best sign that hes enjoying it. i use my tounge alot when giving him head. Like i said i feel like im not very good at it and i want to please him in that way more. it takes him about 5 minutes to cum when i give him head, is that pretty normal? i've tried ice and the whole mint thing, he didnt seem to excited about it, i havent tried rubbing his anus, i wanna ask him but i dont want to make him uncomfortable. is it something i should just do and see if he likes it. Some advice would be great!
Sat, 08/19/2006 - 19:53
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giving head, do i suck? =)
Good points.
Some women have the mistaken belief that they must open their mouth wide in order to accept a penis within. This just isn't necessary. Instead, simply wrap your lips around your teeth so as not to scrape him and then open just wide enough for him to slip between your lips. If you are opening wider than need be, it is probably going to contribute to a tired aching jaw and maybe your lock up as well. I often suggest a woman "train" using a hotdog, English cuccumber or something similar and just experiment.
Sucking works. So too does licking and lapping and slurping. Use your lips and your tongue and just experiment taking your cues from his reactions. As mentioned, the best results will be had using a combination of hand and mouth stimulation. Work on the Frenulum as well as any hotspots he has around the Corona rim.
Find out what hand technique he uses and then learn to mimic them.
Please do not be so hard on yourself with concerns of whether you are good at this or not. We all get better with practice and with feedback from our partner. I'm sure if he likes what you do he will be showing positive reactions. Rather than wonder, begin communicating with him.
Men can come anywhere from a few minutes to 20 minutes later (or more) when giving head.
Sometimes I can get my guy off in 5 to 10 minutes. Sometimes it's taken like 20.
The outcome doesn't always depend on you. He says I'm damn good at giving a blowjob. He really really enjoys it. But there are times it takes longer. It depends on his mood, what's on his mind, if he's really horny or not and etc etc.
And to see if he likes it, well, just ask him. There's only one way to find out what he does and doesn't like and what he may or may not enjoy already.
maybe try mixing it up papurdawl. and what i mean by this is incorporate a handjob into your oral sex regimen. as your jaw starts to ache maybe switch over to a handjob and give your jaw a rest. then when the spit dries up and no longer helps to lubricate your stroking, start back with oral. the thing about any sexual activity is that both partners need to feel comfortable doing it. if it's causing too much discomfort for you then finding some other activity to do in its place might be the best option. it doesn't sound like you suck at it. if you can get him to cum in five minutes you are likely pretty decent at it. if you weren't he wouldn't be cuming at all really. maybe try out the anal stimulation, but do it tentatively at first. pay very close attention to his reaction.
hope it helps. good luck