Ok ladies, how many of you do not like giving B/J for what ever reasons. My wife hates it because of bad gag reflex. I guess i can live with any b/j.:)
How many ways are there to position yourself to have intercourse? There are different ways to engage in oral stimulation. There is nothing in the rule book that states swallowing or deep throat or letting semen fly inside the mouth is mandatory.
Many women will engage in oral stimulation yet not let a man ejaculate in her mouth, swallow semen, etc. Whatever her limitation is, we guys must abide by her decision.
There is an article on all this listed in the Index. I suggest that both of you read it because she may not know how to handle semen when it is ejaculated. If she reads the how-to information she may very well like full blown oral stimulation after learning how to accomplish the act. If she decides not to do it there is no reason why the two of you cannot enjoy oral stimulation up to the point of ejaculating inside w/o swallowing, or, up to the point where you ejaculate elsewhere.
So, I encourage the two of you to read the article:
[QUOTE=dancingdoc2;239641]How many ways are there to position yourself to have intercourse? There are different ways to engage in oral stimulation. There is nothing in the rule book that states swallowing or deep throat or letting semen fly inside the mouth is mandatory.
Many women will engage in oral stimulation yet not let a man ejaculate in her mouth, swallow semen, etc. Whatever her limitation is, we guys must abide by her decision.
There is an article on all this listed in the Index. I suggest that both of you read it because she may not know how to handle semen when it is ejaculated. If she reads the how-to information she may very well like full blown oral stimulation after learning how to accomplish the act. If she decides not to do it there is no reason why the two of you cannot enjoy oral stimulation up to the point of ejaculating inside w/o swallowing, or, up to the point where you ejaculate elsewhere.
So, I encourage the two of you to read the article:
Exactly this question and many answers are on dozens of threads. Look around. As said so often, the primary service bought from prostitutes is oral sex by married men.
Several of us share our techniques for avoiding gagging.
> Well, she is not the type that will even let me ejaculate in her mouth or any where on her body except inside her.
Have you asked her why she won't let semen touch her skin, especially when it can be easily and quickly wiped away?
This reminds me of a time years ago when I dated a woman who at the first sign of perspiration would race to the shower!! If we were out and about then touching or cuddling like a hand around the waist or shoulders was shunned because she always wanted to be clean and pristine and "presentable" in the presence of others. Housework? The apartment was a mess because all her attention was on not getting dirty or grimy. Needless to say, I did not know how to handle this and so the relationship ended soon after it began.
How does she handle sweating during lovemaking? As mentioned, above, oral sex is often nothing more than lips to penis and/or mouth around penis. Many women have set their personal limit at ejaculating outside. Others will permit ejaculating inside and not swallowing. In this case they use a tissue to get rid of the evidence. What will she say to having a washcloth at the ready so that when you do ejaculate the semen will be caught on it? You might propose this alternative. If she says no to this then a bigger danger sign is in not having full acceptance of you--all of you. A huge psychological benefit of ejaculating on her skin is in her acceptance of "all of you" unconditionally.
My question is what her reaction will be if you lose control and accidentally ejaculate somewhere on her Vulva or thigh? Regardless of your answer, my worry is that this girl is far too restrictive with the entire process of love making to have any fun. Think about this..........
That said, it is worth trying to open her eyes to what is common practice by asking her to read the articles listed in the Index. Do the same and then discuss the information you have read. My guess is that she will find fault with most of what is presented, or, she will gain an understanding of what others do and decide that these activities are in fact done by others all the time so why not do them yourselves. Either way, you will know where your and your relationship stands.
Most women will perform fellatio as foreplay. A minority will perform a blow job-bringing you to orgasm with her mouth and continuing the oral stimulation until your orgasmic spasms have subsided. And, sadly, there is a sizeable minority of women who will not touch a penis with their mouths no matter what.
I once had a girlfriend who was as kinky as they come. But semen on her skin made her itch, so I didn't ejaculate on her after we discovered that.
dancingdoc2 it is her personallity. She is not to big on sex for one she has endometriosis so she is in pain a lot. And i believe she has had bad experence in the past that made her shy away of doing this. and the unsecuruity she has when it comes to sex.
Is she seeing a doctor for the condition? If so, what course of treatment has been recommended?
As for the second part, I still suggest the two of you read the various articles of interest in the Index and have a discussion about each. There are two objectives: first, to open her awareness of what is normal and acceptable; second, for her to begin to work on developing trust.
[QUOTE=dancingdoc2;239664]Thank you for the additional information.
Is she seeing a doctor for the condition? If so, what course of treatment has been recommended?
As for the second part, I still suggest the two of you read the various articles of interest in the Index and have a discussion about each. There are two objectives: first, to open her awareness of what is normal and acceptable; second, for her to begin to work on developing trust.[/QUOTE]
She has had 6 surguries between 16 years old to 28 years old. She still has the pain even after sex (why she shies away from sex). She can not always enjoy sex because of the thought of the pain she will have during and after. Thats what she told me. I still love her and will always love her.
I am not saying that she is a bad love, just lost on what to do. i do think that i am bad lover or just not very good on getting what she needs and still trying to learnd things about sex for me and her.
There are some women out there who hates it and will not do it to loves it like it is ice cream. That goes the same for guys when it comes to going down on women.
For my wife, lol, well a long story but she always has this thing that the penis is a ugly thing. She wasn't to excited in the first place but excepts the purpose. If she doesn’t like giving me head, i can live with that. I would want her to enjoy sex rather than being totally turn down and not want to have sex.
ah i wonder if endo would be the reason? I have it and although ive not discussed it with a whole forum of women I tend to just find the besst painkiller and get on with it?
Sometimes women can be insecure about the semen situation, and the mess. Try the shower, I love giving my bf blow jobs in the shower, and he loves it too..one of our favorites things to do together. In the shower it can be washed away and the feeling of being clean is already present. As for the swallowing and tasting that is all about trial and error with each woman. You can always wait until you finish then see if she will lick some off, start slow. Make exchanges...I say baby steps can work to the bigger picture. If you show patience with her, baby steps is what she may need.....
There is a book out there for women called "Tickle His Pickle". this could be a great book to start off with....sometimes it's about exploring other things, breaking up the routine, I don't believe every woman hates to give blowjobs, may be all about lack of confidence and knowledge, and of course men finding the patience with your woman...
[QUOTE=oaktree;239636]Ok ladies, how many of you do not like giving B/J for what ever reasons. My wife hates it because of bad gag reflex. I guess i can live with any b/j.:)[/QUOTE]
When a girl is new to sex, or say oral, she feels it dirty. You can slowly teach her by doing it yourself first on her. Taste problem can be overcome once you start having fun out of it. Gagging is always a problem.
Learning and seeing is differnt thing and doing it is different No one is fully perfect. Practice it lovingly , slowly by seeing the techniques and one can do better.
I think in the 34 years we lived together, my late wife performed oral sex on me for more than one minute at a session perhaps a total of less than a dozen times. She would sometimes give me some very quick oral attention before intercourse at the end of foreplay, maybe for a half a minute or so, especially if I had pleased her orally for an extended period of time. I never got a BJ to climax. I know she had a very powerful gag reflex, and so I never pushed her, and I always knew if she was down there and began to kiss or lick, that I was very fortunate and felt loved and cherished. I never expected more. I have had only 3 lovers besides her. One enjoyed giving me oral, and often insisted that I cum in her mouth, saying she liked the taste of me. One said she liked it too, but was not very good at her technique and so it was never that great for me--okay but nothing spectacular. My present wife seems fairly indifferent to wanting to please me orally, but when she decides that she wants to, her technique is pretty good and the sensations are wonderful. She has never finished me orally to climax. I please her orally nearly ever time we make love. I guess after being lovers now for only a year and a half, we're still learning one another's bodies and pleasures--I anticipate that we will grow and evolve in our love...
Michael
[QUOTE=Brandye;239646]Exactly this question and many answers are on dozens of threads. Look around. As said so often, the primary service bought from prostitutes is oral sex by married men.
Several of us share our techniques for avoiding gagging.[/QUOTE]
I can certainly see why this is a very tempting proposition.. My gf used to be ok with it, and did it a fair bit, she hasn't in a while though. She has phases where she is right into experimentation, then phases where she doesn't want to do anything. Girls are strange.
I don't really care for oral sex either way, but I do endulge my husband on rare occasions when intercourse isn't an option. We use oral primarily as foreplay. I have jaw problems, neck problems, and GI issues that really interfere with oral sex. Oral sex to the point of ejaculation is most rare for us and by the time he's close to that point, it's hands all the way. We prefer mutual masterbation, to us it's allot hotter than oral and it's a heck of allot more mutual except I can bring myself to orgasm 2-4 times in the time it takes my husband to get his!
If you are a woman or a gay man who does not like ejaculate inside your mouth, try using a flavored condom. It'll catch the semen (ejaculate) and it'll taste better too. ;) Oh and it's much safer to give a blow job when the receiving man is using a condom too. Why? Because STDs can be transmitted orally as well as in other ways.
[QUOTE=SpicyGirl69;245546]If you are a woman or a gay man who does not like ejaculate inside your mouth, try using a flavored condom. It'll catch the semen (ejaculate) and it'll taste better too. ;) Oh and it's much safer to give a blow job when the receiving man is using a condom too. Why? Because STDs can be transmitted orally as well as in other ways.[/QUOTE]
Yeah but who wants to be sucked through a rubber? It would definitely decrease the sensations, and cetainly if it is the first time or two I would consider it perfectly fine if you insisted on it but if we were in any kind of relationship... STD tests all round and oral should be without the rain jacket on.
Personally I find the male penis an amazing piece of art. I see it as a chance to explore and enjoy the way it reacts to different things I do to it. With my husband, I enjoy a long tantric style massage then follow with an oral massage of the most sensitive areas. He will always become rock hard then, when I want, I make him have an enternal climax where there is no semen only a as he says "place of complete and utter satisfaction" then as he is laying there floating I start to bring him up again and after about three of these little "climbs" and "floats" finally let him explode either in my mouth, in me or on me---wherever his little heart desires. Sex is a journey that can only be taken one step at a time but the trip is amazing..............
My view are that if you (girl) want your hubby to enjoy, then give him the max. Dont think of condom or rubber etc.n Just surrender before him and let him do the rest. Boys get mad to see our face red working hard on them. If you want to give him , then give 100 %.
some women mat just shy away from giving bj's because theyre not as experianced with them.. maybe if you give her suggestions as to what you like. and she doesnt have to deep throat you.. use the hand as an extention of the mouth
I need some advice.
My boyfriend and I was having oral sex & I accidentally scraped my teeth against his penis. Right under the tip of his head. I was so scared because he started bleeding :(. I'm so sorry just thinking about it..
Has this ever happened to anyone else??
Can anyone tell me if he'll bleed again if he gets hard?
Any information would be nice because I cant seem to find much on it.
How many ways are there to position yourself to have intercourse? There are different ways to engage in oral stimulation. There is nothing in the rule book that states swallowing or deep throat or letting semen fly inside the mouth is mandatory.
Many women will engage in oral stimulation yet not let a man ejaculate in her mouth, swallow semen, etc. Whatever her limitation is, we guys must abide by her decision.
There is an article on all this listed in the Index. I suggest that both of you read it because she may not know how to handle semen when it is ejaculated. If she reads the how-to information she may very well like full blown oral stimulation after learning how to accomplish the act. If she decides not to do it there is no reason why the two of you cannot enjoy oral stimulation up to the point of ejaculating inside w/o swallowing, or, up to the point where you ejaculate elsewhere.
So, I encourage the two of you to read the article:
How Do I Get Him/Her to Orgasm From a Hand/Blow Job?
[QUOTE=dancingdoc2;239641]How many ways are there to position yourself to have intercourse? There are different ways to engage in oral stimulation. There is nothing in the rule book that states swallowing or deep throat or letting semen fly inside the mouth is mandatory.
Many women will engage in oral stimulation yet not let a man ejaculate in her mouth, swallow semen, etc. Whatever her limitation is, we guys must abide by her decision.
There is an article on all this listed in the Index. I suggest that both of you read it because she may not know how to handle semen when it is ejaculated. If she reads the how-to information she may very well like full blown oral stimulation after learning how to accomplish the act. If she decides not to do it there is no reason why the two of you cannot enjoy oral stimulation up to the point of ejaculating inside w/o swallowing, or, up to the point where you ejaculate elsewhere.
So, I encourage the two of you to read the article:
How Do I Get Him/Her to Orgasm From a Hand/Blow Job?[/QUOTE]
Well, she is not the type that will even let me ejaculate in her mouth or any where on her body except inside her.
Exactly this question and many answers are on dozens of threads. Look around. As said so often, the primary service bought from prostitutes is oral sex by married men.
Several of us share our techniques for avoiding gagging.
> Well, she is not the type that will even let me ejaculate in her mouth or any where on her body except inside her.
Have you asked her why she won't let semen touch her skin, especially when it can be easily and quickly wiped away?
This reminds me of a time years ago when I dated a woman who at the first sign of perspiration would race to the shower!! If we were out and about then touching or cuddling like a hand around the waist or shoulders was shunned because she always wanted to be clean and pristine and "presentable" in the presence of others. Housework? The apartment was a mess because all her attention was on not getting dirty or grimy. Needless to say, I did not know how to handle this and so the relationship ended soon after it began.
How does she handle sweating during lovemaking? As mentioned, above, oral sex is often nothing more than lips to penis and/or mouth around penis. Many women have set their personal limit at ejaculating outside. Others will permit ejaculating inside and not swallowing. In this case they use a tissue to get rid of the evidence. What will she say to having a washcloth at the ready so that when you do ejaculate the semen will be caught on it? You might propose this alternative. If she says no to this then a bigger danger sign is in not having full acceptance of you--all of you. A huge psychological benefit of ejaculating on her skin is in her acceptance of "all of you" unconditionally.
My question is what her reaction will be if you lose control and accidentally ejaculate somewhere on her Vulva or thigh? Regardless of your answer, my worry is that this girl is far too restrictive with the entire process of love making to have any fun. Think about this..........
That said, it is worth trying to open her eyes to what is common practice by asking her to read the articles listed in the Index. Do the same and then discuss the information you have read. My guess is that she will find fault with most of what is presented, or, she will gain an understanding of what others do and decide that these activities are in fact done by others all the time so why not do them yourselves. Either way, you will know where your and your relationship stands.
Most women will perform fellatio as foreplay. A minority will perform a blow job-bringing you to orgasm with her mouth and continuing the oral stimulation until your orgasmic spasms have subsided. And, sadly, there is a sizeable minority of women who will not touch a penis with their mouths no matter what.
I once had a girlfriend who was as kinky as they come. But semen on her skin made her itch, so I didn't ejaculate on her after we discovered that.
dancingdoc2 it is her personallity. She is not to big on sex for one she has endometriosis so she is in pain a lot. And i believe she has had bad experence in the past that made her shy away of doing this. and the unsecuruity she has when it comes to sex.
Thank you for the additional information.
Is she seeing a doctor for the condition? If so, what course of treatment has been recommended?
As for the second part, I still suggest the two of you read the various articles of interest in the Index and have a discussion about each. There are two objectives: first, to open her awareness of what is normal and acceptable; second, for her to begin to work on developing trust.
[QUOTE=dancingdoc2;239664]Thank you for the additional information.
Is she seeing a doctor for the condition? If so, what course of treatment has been recommended?
As for the second part, I still suggest the two of you read the various articles of interest in the Index and have a discussion about each. There are two objectives: first, to open her awareness of what is normal and acceptable; second, for her to begin to work on developing trust.[/QUOTE]
She has had 6 surguries between 16 years old to 28 years old. She still has the pain even after sex (why she shies away from sex). She can not always enjoy sex because of the thought of the pain she will have during and after. Thats what she told me. I still love her and will always love her.
I am not saying that she is a bad love, just lost on what to do. i do think that i am bad lover or just not very good on getting what she needs and still trying to learnd things about sex for me and her.
Yes, we are read what you recommoand. Thx
There are some women out there who hates it and will not do it to loves it like it is ice cream. That goes the same for guys when it comes to going down on women.
For my wife, lol, well a long story but she always has this thing that the penis is a ugly thing. She wasn't to excited in the first place but excepts the purpose. If she doesn’t like giving me head, i can live with that. I would want her to enjoy sex rather than being totally turn down and not want to have sex.
I love bj very much but my wife is not at all interested in it , she does if i force her but i dont think its the right way to go.
I would love to get one everynight but I've only got one in a long time I wish I could get more but oh well I can settle for a hand job!
I like b/j a lot but i don'e get that many oh well!
ah i wonder if endo would be the reason? I have it and although ive not discussed it with a whole forum of women I tend to just find the besst painkiller and get on with it?
Sometimes women can be insecure about the semen situation, and the mess. Try the shower, I love giving my bf blow jobs in the shower, and he loves it too..one of our favorites things to do together. In the shower it can be washed away and the feeling of being clean is already present. As for the swallowing and tasting that is all about trial and error with each woman. You can always wait until you finish then see if she will lick some off, start slow. Make exchanges...I say baby steps can work to the bigger picture. If you show patience with her, baby steps is what she may need.....
There is a book out there for women called "Tickle His Pickle". this could be a great book to start off with....sometimes it's about exploring other things, breaking up the routine, I don't believe every woman hates to give blowjobs, may be all about lack of confidence and knowledge, and of course men finding the patience with your woman...
[QUOTE=oaktree;239636]Ok ladies, how many of you do not like giving B/J for what ever reasons. My wife hates it because of bad gag reflex. I guess i can live with any b/j.:)[/QUOTE]
When a girl is new to sex, or say oral, she feels it dirty. You can slowly teach her by doing it yourself first on her. Taste problem can be overcome once you start having fun out of it. Gagging is always a problem.
Learning and seeing is differnt thing and doing it is different No one is fully perfect. Practice it lovingly , slowly by seeing the techniques and one can do better.
i personally love to give them his satisfaction is mine as well just like to please them
I think in the 34 years we lived together, my late wife performed oral sex on me for more than one minute at a session perhaps a total of less than a dozen times. She would sometimes give me some very quick oral attention before intercourse at the end of foreplay, maybe for a half a minute or so, especially if I had pleased her orally for an extended period of time. I never got a BJ to climax. I know she had a very powerful gag reflex, and so I never pushed her, and I always knew if she was down there and began to kiss or lick, that I was very fortunate and felt loved and cherished. I never expected more. I have had only 3 lovers besides her. One enjoyed giving me oral, and often insisted that I cum in her mouth, saying she liked the taste of me. One said she liked it too, but was not very good at her technique and so it was never that great for me--okay but nothing spectacular. My present wife seems fairly indifferent to wanting to please me orally, but when she decides that she wants to, her technique is pretty good and the sensations are wonderful. She has never finished me orally to climax. I please her orally nearly ever time we make love. I guess after being lovers now for only a year and a half, we're still learning one another's bodies and pleasures--I anticipate that we will grow and evolve in our love...
Michael
[QUOTE=Brandye;239646]Exactly this question and many answers are on dozens of threads. Look around. As said so often, the primary service bought from prostitutes is oral sex by married men.
Several of us share our techniques for avoiding gagging.[/QUOTE]
I can certainly see why this is a very tempting proposition.. My gf used to be ok with it, and did it a fair bit, she hasn't in a while though. She has phases where she is right into experimentation, then phases where she doesn't want to do anything. Girls are strange.
I don't really care for oral sex either way, but I do endulge my husband on rare occasions when intercourse isn't an option. We use oral primarily as foreplay. I have jaw problems, neck problems, and GI issues that really interfere with oral sex. Oral sex to the point of ejaculation is most rare for us and by the time he's close to that point, it's hands all the way. We prefer mutual masterbation, to us it's allot hotter than oral and it's a heck of allot more mutual except I can bring myself to orgasm 2-4 times in the time it takes my husband to get his!
If you are a woman or a gay man who does not like ejaculate inside your mouth, try using a flavored condom. It'll catch the semen (ejaculate) and it'll taste better too. ;) Oh and it's much safer to give a blow job when the receiving man is using a condom too. Why? Because STDs can be transmitted orally as well as in other ways.
[QUOTE=SpicyGirl69;245546]If you are a woman or a gay man who does not like ejaculate inside your mouth, try using a flavored condom. It'll catch the semen (ejaculate) and it'll taste better too. ;) Oh and it's much safer to give a blow job when the receiving man is using a condom too. Why? Because STDs can be transmitted orally as well as in other ways.[/QUOTE]
Yeah but who wants to be sucked through a rubber? It would definitely decrease the sensations, and cetainly if it is the first time or two I would consider it perfectly fine if you insisted on it but if we were in any kind of relationship... STD tests all round and oral should be without the rain jacket on.
Personally I find the male penis an amazing piece of art. I see it as a chance to explore and enjoy the way it reacts to different things I do to it. With my husband, I enjoy a long tantric style massage then follow with an oral massage of the most sensitive areas. He will always become rock hard then, when I want, I make him have an enternal climax where there is no semen only a as he says "place of complete and utter satisfaction" then as he is laying there floating I start to bring him up again and after about three of these little "climbs" and "floats" finally let him explode either in my mouth, in me or on me---wherever his little heart desires. Sex is a journey that can only be taken one step at a time but the trip is amazing..............
My view are that if you (girl) want your hubby to enjoy, then give him the max. Dont think of condom or rubber etc.n Just surrender before him and let him do the rest. Boys get mad to see our face red working hard on them. If you want to give him , then give 100 %.
some women mat just shy away from giving bj's because theyre not as experianced with them.. maybe if you give her suggestions as to what you like. and she doesnt have to deep throat you.. use the hand as an extention of the mouth
What's up everyone, I'm new to the forum and just wanted to say hey. Hopefully I posted this in the right section!
I need some advice.
My boyfriend and I was having oral sex & I accidentally scraped my teeth against his penis. Right under the tip of his head. I was so scared because he started bleeding :(. I'm so sorry just thinking about it..
Has this ever happened to anyone else??
Can anyone tell me if he'll bleed again if he gets hard?
Any information would be nice because I cant seem to find much on it.