hi, im thinking about giving my bf head, but i'm a bit worried. this message board (the majority of posts i've seen) have suggested guys always wear a condom when being given head...well yeh. and most girls my age don't do this. i didn't think about this until i read some of the posts on here...and now i'm worried. my bf has been out with a couple of girls before me. i think only ONE of them's given him head before tho. is it unsafe for me to give him head without a condom? i rlly need a reply asap so plz if you have advice, then post 
thanks,
uncreativename
[QUOTE=Quote (soulmates82 @ Mar. 06 2005,19:23)][QUOTE=Quote (uncreativename @ Mar. 06 2005,04:15)]wud he kno if he had an std?[/QUOTE]
perhaps it will help you understand how EXTREMELY IMPORTANT it is for YOU to ALWAYS ALWAYS ALWAYS practice safe sex if we rephrase the question to read: If he has an std and if he knows he has it, would he let YOU know?
before anyone gets all up in arms thinking im calling this guy a lier or implying he's the type of guy who will pull this stunt i want to just clarify things by saying the intent of my meaning is in general terms with no specific guy or gal as the subject of debate.
the world is full of all kinds of people, anyone of whom you may at some point become sexualy intimate with. some with stds, some without stds; some know they have an std, some dont know they have an std; some are honest, some are not. it is far too great a chance to take anything for granted when it comes to protecting YOURSELF and YOUR health from harm. YOU have reached the stage in your life you feel it's time you add intimacy into it. this then also signals the time when YOU become responsible for protecting YOURSELF and YOUR health. YOU'VE made this choice because YOU feel it's YOUR life and YOU are fully capabable in taking control of it. have you ever heard the phrase: "better safe than sorry"? or "error on the side of cauction"? "safety first"? It's YOUR life and YOUR health. ALWAYS ALWAYS ALWAYS practice safe sex to protect YOURSELF.[/QUOTE]
ok i get ur point...i mean, well yeh i do wnt to be protected. i know that he would tell me if he knew he had an std...he says he loves me a lot and we've been going out 4 almost 4 months and our relationship keeps getting stronger. maybe he won't know if he had one tho...so i will be careful. out of interest, if semen is dissolved in the stomach during digestion, how can it give u an std...is it only if you have cuts in your mouth...or what? could you get an std from being fingered or tossing a guy off? sorry if i'm being stupid..i thought std's were only passed through bodily fluids, but perhaps some std's can be passed from skin to skin (e.g. warts - but i'd kno if he had them lol)
anyway yeh replies plz!
thnx,
uncreativename
[QUOTE=Quote (uncreativename @ Mar. 06 2005,04:15)]wud he kno if he had an std?[/QUOTE]
perhaps it will help you understand how EXTREMELY IMPORTANT it is for YOU to ALWAYS ALWAYS ALWAYS practice safe sex if we rephrase the question to read: If he has an std and if he knows he has it, would he let YOU know?
before anyone gets all up in arms thinking im calling this guy a lier or implying he's the type of guy who will pull this stunt i want to just clarify things by saying the intent of my meaning is in general terms with no specific guy or gal as the subject of debate.
the world is full of all kinds of people, anyone of whom you may at some point become sexualy intimate with. some with stds, some without stds; some know they have an std, some dont know they have an std; some are honest, some are not. it is far too great a chance to take anything for granted when it comes to protecting YOURSELF and YOUR health from harm. YOU have reached the stage in your life you feel it's time you add intimacy into it. this then also signals the time when YOU become responsible for protecting YOURSELF and YOUR health. YOU'VE made this choice because YOU feel it's YOUR life and YOU are fully capabable in taking control of it. have you ever heard the phrase: "better safe than sorry"? or "error on the side of cauction"? "safety first"? It's YOUR life and YOUR health. ALWAYS ALWAYS ALWAYS practice safe sex to protect YOURSELF.
[QUOTE=Quote (uncreativename @ Mar. 06 2005,04:15)]wud he kno if he had an std?[/QUOTE]
Not necessarily. Some show signs and symptoms, others do not. Some show signs in women, not men and vice versa.
You said he's gone out w/ a couple of girls, and you think only one has given him head? Has he had sex w/ these girls?
I mean I know its possible to get an STD in your mouth...but I don't think its as likely the other way around. Im sure its possible, but you get what Im saying.
wud he kno if he had an std?
[QUOTE=Quote (yetagainsorrows @ Mar. 05 2005,16:21)]Better safe than sorry. Use the condom and ask him to be tested. Life is to short to shorten it.[/QUOTE]
i couldnt agree more with this answer, plus it would have taken me post the size of an epic essay an i STILL would not have made this point. EXCELLENT advice Yetagain! Be aware of STDs. DO NOT do anything which may cause you to loose your self respect. DO NOT do anything which may cause you to loose the life you respect. Be certain you will be able to respect yourself afterwards BEFORE you do anythng you feel you may regret doing. Be certain you are safe and protected against any risks to your health. Remain true and respectful to yourself and ALWAYS practice safe sex.
Better safe than sorry. Use the condom and ask him to be tested. Life is to short to shorten it.
Only give head if you want to.
Yes, it is much safer to give head with a condom, especially if you're unsure of their past. That is the best way to go at least until your partner is tested.
I personally don't give head with a condom, but I know that he doesn't have anything.
I mean I can't absolutely prove that, but I strongly believe that he wouldn't have let things go as far as they have if he had something. He wouldn't subject me to that cause that's not who he is.
So really, it's up to you. I say use the condom till you're sure.
[QUOTE=Quote (demonbuttercup @ Mar. 06 2005,08:08)][QUOTE=Quote (uncreativename @ Mar. 06 2005,04:15)]wud he kno if he had an std?[/QUOTE]
Not necessarily. Some show signs and symptoms, others do not. Some show signs in women, not men and vice versa.
You said he's gone out w/ a couple of girls, and you think only one has given him head? Has he had sex w/ these girls?
I mean I know its possible to get an STD in your mouth...but I don't think its as likely the other way around. Im sure its possible, but you get what Im saying.[/QUOTE]
he hasn't had sex with ne1 yet. he's only done oral with one girl he's bin out with but has fingered 3 other girls in the past. is that ok?? plz help
uncreativename