My girlfriend has never been sexually involved with anyone before me. We plan to get married within the next year so she trusts me, but we agreed to wait for marriage. We’re just starting to get physical, but we’re taking it very slow. One major drawback is that she’s super ticklish! She’s obviously very ticklish when I outright tickle her, but she experiences a distinctive tickle feeling when we’re physical; she said it’s a pleasurable type of tickle.
When we’re kissing and I start to gently suck on her lip, she pulls back because it tickles but from her body language it looks like she’s experiencing ultimate pleasure. When my hands start to wander and I approach her breast (D’s or DD’s not sure), it’s not long after gently caressing them that she pulls back because it starts to tickle. The same as if I were to feel her back or caress her butt while kissing; whenever she feels it, her body lifts, she smiles, pulls back and says it tickles! She interrupts me in whatever I was doing that made it happen. I’m guessing her body is just super sensitive and being we’re waiting for marriage she said she may get too carried away so she pulls back? She said maybe after we get married and have sex it may not be a problem anymore (can sex really solve that?).
The pleasurable tickle:
Is this a good thing or a bad thing?
Is she cumming or about to cum when she feels this tickle?
What is it and can she control it?
Cause nothing could be worst to be going down on a woman and she tells you it tickles, or you can’t give her full pleasure cause she either can’t take it or she’s ticklish!
What should I do?
I’ll appreciate any answer to any or all of my questions! Preferably advice from a female.
I am the same way I am just very ticklish
I tell my b/f if he is going to caress me to use more pressure instead of just lightly touching w/ fingertips...etc.
Otherwise it drives me crazy! I mean its ok sometimes but other times its annoying lol to me.
This is quite common for both men and women.
What I have found that works in our case is to use a tad bit more pressure. So, instead of caressing the skin with the very lightest of touches, I use just a bit more pressure and this gets past the ticklishness.
Apparently, our nerve endings get really sensitive as has been mentioned above, when we become "turned on". I do not know of a cure; however, the work around that I've described sure seems to fix the situation. Another thing you can do that I do is when I inadvertantly tickle a spot, I will brush my hand or arm back and forth over it to sort of calm the nerves. In addition to using a bit more pressure, you can also vary the speed at which your hand or arm or lips brush over the skin.
That's true, because I try and be so gentle that it could trigger her being ticklish. But I still have a couple of questions.
I thought if I applied more pressure to her breast that it would be a tad painful for her, because I know that's one of a woman's more sensitive spots? Please explain; would it be the same in this region?
And what's the case with me sucking her lip? Suck it harder (that didn't sound too good :o )?
you can use pressue w/out rubbing hard.
It seems like a good thing if shes smiling when she says it. My g/f is very ticklish also but i cant help not rubbing her softly (which tickles her) she never seems to get annoyed and sometimes llike it! You should outright ask her, "does it annoy your babe?" Then you should find your answer to most of your questions :)
i think she's lying. saying it tickles is a lot easier and cuter sounding than telling you to stop becuase she feels uncomfortable. girls do that kind of thing all the time. maybe it's because she doesn't want to continue that behavior, or maybe she feels self-conscious about her body, but i don't think anyone would really stop it all the time because they were THAT ticklish.
> i don't think anyone would really stop it all the time because they were THAT ticklish.
Have you read the replies?
" This is quite common for both men and women."
" Apparently, our nerve endings get really sensitive as has been mentioned above, when we become "turned on".
If you pressed her just a little and kept doing whatever it is that you are doing, would she get upset or angry? She's smiling... seems like a good thing. I think the kind of tickling she is talking about, when pretty much anything makes shivers down your spine. Good for some, can get annoying after a while. But more pressure is a good thing. And congratulations on being gentle with her breasts! lol. Most guys just, for lack of a better term, manhandle them and it's not enjoyable at all. haha. But you can use pressure without it hurting, so go ahead. However, housedeck could have a point...
[QUOTE=Oh, Silly Girl]If you pressed her just a little and kept doing whatever it is that you are doing, would she get upset or angry?[/QUOTE]
She wouldn't get upset or angry...far from it in my opinion! She wasn't sucking my lips until 1st started sucking hers (her 1st experience with that technique), I'm guessing because she knows the effects it has on her and now she does it all the time! She has learned that when she sucks on my lips, it really turns me on and drives my hands wandering! So I use that to gauge how far she's comfortable or wants me to go. Like when she starts, I obviously show that I like it and how turned on I am by it, I start moving my hands around her body (shirt on) then toward her breast (rubbing right under her bra). By this point I leave it there and will start moving away unless she's still sucking my lip or begins to suck harder. This lets me know she wants me to proceed and it never fails, it's obvious she wants me to proceed! So she's not uncomfortable, but as I start caressing, after 10 to 15sec or so she starts smiling and moves my hand away saying it tickles.
She is a bit self conscious about her body, but when she's in that mood, I don't think she really cares cause I always affirm her about her body, curves features and so on. Plus while we were 1st kissing she made the first move, to my surprise, to place my hands on her butt!
But I'm gonna try and see what happens when I apply more pressure.
I know all women are different, but can you all give me any helpful ways to get her nipples hard? I notice when she's active, like jumping, running, or just cold in the room, or unexpectedly her nipples will get hard. I know certain girls, when they get turned on that ignites 'em and other girls in the past I’ve been with, I would have to suck on'em to get them hard. But being this girl has rather large breast, her nipples are very active but when we're kissing they're not. Only certain times I've stimulated them somehow. Any tips here?
Also another issue which may play a role but I’m not sure, she not only wears a bra, I think she wears a training bra as well on top of that. If it’s not that, it’s definitely something else! I’m not sure if the purpose is for them to look perky or for nipples not to look obvious when they’re hard (but there’s no hiding those huge nipples, they press through anything!). And when I touch them, it’s kinda hard to get through to the actual feel because of all what she has on! Could this be making my touch seem even lighter?
Thanks for all the replies and the advice given above. Most of it did help just a little. I tried it Monday and it was working for a little longer than usual then she said it tickled. I tried again but applied more pressure but felt very uncomfortable, though she had no signs of it hurting, I still felt that was applying too much.
Please address this one question I gave earlier (I may post the other Q’s in another thread unless someone answers them).
[QUOTE=Honey_Bear]
Also another issue which may play a role but I’m not sure, she not only wears a bra, I think she wears a training bra as well on top of that. If it’s not that, it’s definitely something else! I’m not sure if the purpose is for them to look perky or for nipples not to look obvious when they’re hard (but there’s no hiding those huge nipples, they press through anything!). And when I touch them, it’s kinda hard to get through to the actual feel because of all what she has on! Could this be making my touch seem even lighter?[/QUOTE]
And what's up with her wearing so many things to support her breast? Is all that necessary (no offense to any ladies that do it, just curious)?