Hi, me and my girlfriend are pretty sexually active... we are both virgins but give each other oral sex a lot as well has me fingering her and her giving me hand jobs..
When i finger her, she says its 100 times better than shes ever gotten before, and when i start to speed up she loves it but 100% of the time will get to a point and says its too much and that shes done.
I know that if she let me go for another 5 seconds after it was "too much" she would probably climax.
Now for the question...
Its not that I'm going to fast, but evidently I'm pleasuring her too much. Should she just endure it after that point? what do you all suggest.
More important /semi urgent question now
I popped her cherry about 2 weeks ago and she said she was bleeding a good ammount after i had left. I figured it was normal and had a friend of mine assure me that it was normal.
after a week i was fingering her for a good 30 min. and she said she was bleeding.
she isnt worried about it but i suppose i am... anyways can someone explain?
Thanks ahead of time.
> after a week i was fingering her for a good 30 min. and she said she was bleeding.
You'd think that after a week, any wound would be heeled. Regardless, fingering the vagina for that long is way too much--just like stroking and thrusting for half an hour or more is. Women often report that if intercourse (and in your case, fingering) lasts more than about ten minutes, they become sore, tired, and bored.
You need to learn more about arousing each other and about the process of making out in general. Begin by reading many of the Sticky posts on the various forums.
ah, i read the stickys... they were helpfull
but In your opinion, should i tell her to let me push her past the time that she says its "too much"?
im pretty sure she would love it.
Try this tactic: Change from fingering the clitoris directly to stimulating it indirectly. You can do this by folding the labia over the clitoris and massaging it through them. Alternately, you can stroke the shaft that is buried beneath the skin between the folds of the upper Vulva, and/or tug and massage the inner labia that will involve the clitoris indirectly as a result.
Ask her for more information. Does her clitoris become too sensitive to continue, or, is it simply a matter of being extremely turned on and not being able to coast beyond the point of no return?
Try this, cuddling, kissing, and murmuring then ooze on into cunnlingus and just as she's beginning to say it is "too much" lightly caress her G-Spot all the while murmuring reassurances until she does orgasm. Then more cuddling and so forth and followup, finally with coitus.
ill definetly try all of these tonight, and btw. its definetly that shes getting pleasured to the point of no return or w/e..