Hey everybody,
My girlfriend and I have been sexually active for about a little less than a year now and there are a few issues that have come up.
1) When I go down on her and finger her, I get a great response from her, she raises her hips, moans, and tells me to go harder, but it seems like right before she's about to peak she can't take it or something and makes me stop.
2) I also find that It is very hard to give her any exceptional pleasure during intercourse unless we're doing doggy. And with the speed and power she likes it's hard for me to control my orgasm long enough to make her cum. As far as i know she has never had an orgasm and she never masturbates.
3) I know this may be the wrong forum to ask this but my girlfriend also has some pain when I first penetrate her. The pain is only around the enterance of her vagina and it only lasts for about 5 seconds but occasionally comes back throughout intercourse if I hit the wrong spot. I was just wondering if anyone knew anything about that. I know its not because of lubrication, because we've used lube too and there was no change.
Please help!
Thanks
1- Some women cannot orgasm through intercourse. Manually stimulate her clitoris during the deed.
2-How fast you orgasm is a tough one....try a pause or Doc's squeezing technique. Have her attempt to masturbate since it will show her what works for her; thus, she can show you.
3- Are you stimulating her enough prior to intercourse? Or are you being gentle? If yes, you might be hitting her cervix during penetration. Read the threads about it!
Try the methods & read together then get back with new questions!
It's not the cervix, I know that for a fact. It is definitely the opening of her vagina, not the lips or anything but the actual vaginal cavity. Any idea of what that is?
Thanks
Maybe she has a little bit of her hymen left?
I have been with my lover for more than 30 years. It wasn't until she became comfortable with masturbation and aware of her sexual self that we improved as lovers...
Try some on-line rabbit shopping. It will give you guys a chance to talk... :)
PS: Also get one large enough to help her with being so tight... ;)
Hey demonbuttercup,
is it possible for her to have hymen left after having sex for almost two years?
Hubby,
How long did it take for your lover to become comfortable with masturbation. My girlfriend is disgusted by the idea, and as much as I plead with her to try it, she refuses. Any ideas on how to get her to try it?
Thanks
The fact that she finds it disgusting is a problem. Find out whether she is willing to make a commitment to you as a couple to grow sexually. Many people find masturbation a very personal experience and are reluctant to share that very personal side of them selves with others. Talk, talk and talk. It's a very revealing conversation. Try a little on line shopping. Get her to talk with you and soon she will share with you. Then you, will learn her truth... :cool:
After 2 years of intercourse it should be long gone. If it was not it would have been "picked up" by her Gyn.
Hello everyone new here...
Anyhoo, I can understand how a woman can think of masturbation as disgusting since that is the way I was brought up as well. I was made to see it as taboo and wrong in every way. It's because of this I didn't know anything about my own body, what and where I liked to be touched, exactly what turns me on and gets me to orgasm etc. Long story short it wasn't until I got over my discomfort of self pleasure that I really started to enjoy sex and be able to tell my partner what I wanted and how I wanted it done.
Hope everything works out for you.
Thanks everyone for the input
I'll talk to her about what she likes, and see if I can encourage her to try masturbation if not for her, for me. Ill let you guys know how it goes. Thanks again.