I have trouble swallowing my bf's cum, also. He doesn't eat proper foods to make his cum taste better! Which is a suggestion for you. Do you eat alot of fruit and good healthy foods?

She may also have a problem with the fact that it's like swallowing something that someone just coughed up.

As for her embarrassment, it might be because she feels she is "supposed" to be able to swallow it or make you extremely happy. She feels she can't. Have you reassured her that you are okay with her not being able to swallow?

[QUOTE=anaheimsk8er;262665][COLOR="blue">okay so my gf and me are really close and we love doing things for each other. she has a big problem with swallowing my loads tho, when even the slightest bit of cum touches her mouth or tongue, she starts gagging and retching and drooling and she goes running to the bathroom to go gag over the toilett[/COLOR] :(

"Velly interestingk." Why does she do this with semen and not water, milk, soda, chocolate syrup, catchup, mustard, etc.? This doesn't make sense.

Without more information all any of us can offer is conjecture. It sounds like she might be over reacting if she has such a strong reaction to the semen just touching her lips or tongue.

[COLOR="blue">she's even had to run across the house to the upstairs bathroom to go throw up, gagging and spitting. [/COLOR]

she really wants to do this for me bc she feels badly bc i eat her out on a regular basis and she says i do it really really well.

Do you think she may be a bit of a drama queen because she has heard negative reports concerning semen's taste and texture?

she's suggested other stuff to try and swallow it, like she once had me (excuse the details) cum into a glass and then she tried to drink it that way, but that just made her gag.

[COLOR="blue">Does she have difficulty swallowing a capsule or pill? If not, then it seems to me this is all in her head.[/COLOR]
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my first question: has anybody else had this much trouble swallowing?[/COLOR]

This is not a uncommon problem. One easy way of handling semen is to take a drink of water/soda and swallow the mixture.

Another solution is for her to raise her tongue placing the tip or flat against the roof of the mouth so that the semen will hit the bottom of the tongue and not the back of the mouth triggering the gag reflex.

[COLOR="blue">second: why could she be so embarrassed about this?[/COLOR][/QUOTE]

You'll have to ask her. Perhaps because she does not have a fix for handling your ejaculate. There is much information to read.

It could be a taste thing. It could be a texture thing.

It could be a brain thing: some women, myself included, won't put his penis in her mouth after it's been inside her. I also have difficulty kissing him after cunnilingus. It's this mental block I have about putting my mouth on something that's been in or near my vagina. She may have a thing about her mouth touching fluids that come out of a penis--any penis. If that's the case, she may be afraid it will hurt your feelings, and wants to get past it to avoid you thinking she's grossed out by you. Because it's not a personal thing about the guy himself. It's about the concept.

I don't have trouble swallowing T's cum. But that's because I don't try. To be quite frank about it, I don't even take the shot in my mouth. I got past the mental thing a long time ago, I just can't take the taste. I bring him to climax and slip off just as the shot is about to hit daylight. He loves the blowjob itself so much he's never cared what happens to the shot. Although I will say that I never got good enough by hand alone, and so my mouth coming off causes a back off, and he ends up finishing the shot by his own hand.

Whether he's eating me or I'm sucking him, we've both always been of the opinion that the specifics of what goes on during that operation is up to the owner of the mouth.

Dear anaheimsk8er,
Allow me to shed another light on this situation.

About drama...
Everything that has been said is very true; mind-thing, taste-thing, technique, texture-thing, etc. I suggest that you two have a nice and relaxed chat about if any of the options mentionned above could be the trigger for her. Mind you; there's only a very tiny chance that she's being a "dramaqueen". Most likely (99,9%); something is really bothering her! Whatever you do; I would take her responses seriously and do not diminish them. Cause nothing could ruin this more than saying "hun, aren't you overreacting?". What she needs most understanding and patience.

Let me add that my advice would be to give it a rest for a while. Allow me to explain:

A negative spiral of both psychological and physical responses
Throwing up and gagging could sometimes become a negative spiral. And it seems to me like she's in one. She gagged once, maybe because of poor technique, some of it getting stuck in her throat, accidentally shooting up her trachea, etc. No matter what cause, her body has matched the taste and texture of semen with the respons of gagging. And there's a psychological aspect to it as well. She gags, she worries about gagging, she gags and throws up, she pushes herself because she wants to please and there she goes again, her body is now sure that this stuff is bad for her and even the slightest taste makes her gag, etc.

Example of the non-sexual gagging category; as a child I was ill a lot which went together with throwing up. When I had thrown up after or during eating something particular, I was bound to feel sick and start gagging the next time I ate it (even though the food wasn't really the cause of it). If I kept forcing myself to eat the specific product, it would get worse; I'd gag at the first taste. Or I would even start feeling sick at the mere smell of the product. The only remedy; patience. Just waiting a little while before I'd try again.

Why such reactions occure
This is about overreacting, but it is the kind without having control. And certainly not the kind that's about faking "drama". It's as amazing as it is terrible how easy your body develops such responses. It's not that weird; it's a natural defense mechanism that is supposed to protect you from eating anything poison. The body learns what is bad for it and being sick, gagging or nausea is a clear sign something is wrong. Adding the causality; your body simply adds what happened prior, so that must be it. They've tried this on labrats by giving them a shot of something to make them sick after some time, followed by food. The rats got sick after eating the food, though it didn't cause it. Next time; the rats refused the food (no shot prior).

As handy as this may be in nature to survive; it could really turn against you. Though there is some psychology to it, the above explains that it is NOT all in your head. And even the part that is; we all know how hard it can be to control that feeling of nervousness we do not want.

A bit of advice
If it sounds plausible your gf is experiencing a negative spiral like this, I would let it rest for now and avoid coming in her mouth. If that doesn't help and precum triggers her as well, you could abstain from bj's for a while. Or how about using a flavored condom? Some like it, some don't. But it will at least keep the taste of semen away. Let her try again when she feels it's time. Let her take the initiative and make very clear there is no pressure at all on your behalf. After all; sex is about sharing pleasure and having fun! :)

Some women have issues with swallowing a man's ejaculate and some do not but rather than trying to change her, which you should not even be attempting to do, ask yourself how important is her swallowing your ejaculate to you? Are you willing to leave her over this? Which matters more to you: her or your ejaculate being swallowed by her?

Instead of automatically assuming SHE has a PROBLEM because she doesn't enjoy swallowing ejaculate, consider that YOU have the PROBLEM of wanting her to swallow ejaculate.

We women get it out of you. Why worry about what we do with it?

Maybe I'm missing something, but I don't get the read from OP that he's putting pressure on her. From his first post it seems she's putting pressure on herself out of guilt.

>>>she really wants to do this for me bc she feels badly bc i eat her out on a regular basis and she says i do it really really well.

If I'm wrong, and OP is indeed placing any kind of pressure to change, I agree with EEK about his doing so, and with RR about backing off the conversation.

??? :confused:

Int, I didn't mean to say that the OP is pressuring her. I didn't see anything in his post that indicated such... She does not need any more pressure, that's for sure, hence the advice of patience and calm.

My comments on "drama" were to serve as a warning and inspired by DancingDoc's post in which the possibilities were brought up of her being a dramaqueen/the issue being all in her head/ her overreacting. This made me feel the opposite needed to be emphasized. There is a background to the issue and that shouldn't be diminished in any way! Cause I truly believe there are only very very few who "just" make an issue out of something and even do some gagging and throwing up for the purpose of drama. In fact; I'd worry more if the latter would be the case...

I didn't mean to say to back off the conversation, but backing off the actual act (coming in her mouth). I'm always very much in favor of a good conversation as it is the key to any healthy relationship :)

Sorry for any confusion I may have caused!

It was implied in the title. "girlfriend has big problems"
Excuse me? Her problem is stressing over him pleasing her and feeling this need to please him in return by doing something she feels..YUCK! perhaps because she feels that if she doesn't he will stop performing cunnilingus.
Maybe a part of this "I have to change/please him or else I'll lose him."

A woman in a secure loving relationship doesn't have this fear so what's really going on here?