Wel hi! i am jus new to this forum and its real kool! ok wel me and my g/f were going out for about 3 months..it was the perfect relationship! seriously it was sooooo goood! but the last 2/3 weeks of it sucked! so thts why we stopped going out..we stopped for lots of reasons like wel i dnt knw she just seemed to be soo different and nt her normal.(mutual break-up) She said it was coz 3rd year in skl was much more of a responsibility and it had a lot more work in it.. but those last 2/3 weeks she wasnt the same.
Ok we stopped going out and we didnt speek much coz i sed it was to hard 2 speak 2 hur wen i luvd hur sooo much and if i spoke 2 her i wud loath hur even more. she always tld me she luvd me and missed and i believed hur and i totally F*****n luvd hur and missed hur 2!!
i am writing this because i found out from a friend that she had done sexual stuf! and i was mesmerised, so i asked loads of people about it and was so puzzled as to why she couldnt have tld me coz we cld tell each other everything..and i mean everything.we new each other so F***** wel!
i found out from michael (not me! the guy tht shed supposed to have sucked off, his best friend) that it was true! i was soo upset and stil am,its not the fact that she did it 2 him,its the fact that she didnt tel me and that that could have affected the way she looks at things. i just thought i knew her so wel and tht she wld tel me about this stuf. i just wonder if she could have lied or kept other things from me 2! (i had known her for ages before we started going out,and i also knew her very wel back then 2)
She always tells me she luvs me and that she misses me, but she says we cant go out coz if it was like it was the last 2/3 weeks of our relationship, it wudnt be right! also most her friends make fun of me and rub it in that she gave him a b.j, they knw i get angry bout it so i dnt knw wat 2 do.
I stil love hur sooo bad but i want 2 move on with my life, i want 2 stop being so sad. there is this really nice girl called kaye that i really like and she really likes me so i was thinking of going out wif hur but she doesnt think i am over erin, which i am not.
I jus need advice 2 get over ppl!
I knw this isnt that sexual, i jus need help. whether i should move on or not or if i shud stil love hur and be sad! lol
i would greatly appreciate it if some1 cud reply to this! thank you soooo much!
thank u so much! i really appreciate ur advice and i am only 14 but i seriously knew hur so wel b4 we went out. we spoke 2 each other on the fone for hours, i can remember 1 time i was on the fone 2 hur frm 11pm to 5am...i knw that is intense but we seriously got on so wel 2gether but i am gona let hur go.... thanks soo much tho,for ur advice
Hello Mike!
First of all, sorry to see that you're so upset over this situation. I have to ask how old you are.. I'm not even sure that you're 16 or 17?? I'm wondering how well you know her, or knew her. I know that 3 months feels like a long time, maybe it was intense enough to feel like a year at your age, but you have a lot ahead of you.
It may not seem like it right now, but there are many women in your future that will be more loving and open and real with you than Erin was.
I know you think that you loved her, but there are many forms of love. You can feel lust and care about someone, and then there's an all-consuming love.. that's only two of many forms of love that are waiting to be experienced by you!!
Only you know what's best for you.. but I'd say let the past go. You shouldn't have to waste a second on someone who doesn't accept what you have to offer. It doesn't matter really that Erin did something with other guys, it wasn't working, no matter how good it felt in some ways.
The kind of love, trust, and intimacy that you miss are not far off! There are so many things ahead of you, I can't even begin to list them. Just have faith, stay strong and pity her for losing out on you.
Good luck!!