It is generally agreed that the Woman Superior position is the ideal for first time ever intercourse. Here is why:
* The woman is in control of the attempt to penetrate
* She controls the position and placement of the penis
* She controls the pressure and duration against the hymen and/or into the vagina
* She contols the speed and depth of penetration
* She controls whether or not to back off and try again or continue with the pressure
* She contols the timing and rhythm of the initial strokes

As for you part in this, you can remain passive during the initial attempts to penetrate and let her be in control. Later once you are inside, you can do pelvic thrusts if you want in which you raise and extend your pelvis in an upward direction. You basically mirror her direction of movement. The pelvic thrusts do two things. The first is that you attempt to go deeper inside; second, the act of elevating your pelvis stimulates deep seated nerves and enhances your climb toward a climax.

What I do when my Fiancee is on top is to push my pelvis up and hold it - you need strong thigh muscles though. I prefer her riding as I feel the intimacy is better as you have both hands free to roam her body (and not trying to prop yourself up)

My boyfriend and I have tried this position a few times, and we can never seem to make it work.

Either his penis won't stay in while I'm moving or I don't know...it just never seems to work. We did manage at one time when instead of leaning forward over him I was sitting back...it worked for the most part. I didn't know if I was suppose to move up and down or do the 'rocking' motion.

In the rocking motion am I suppose to just move my hips back and forth or in a circular way? I really like being on top and I can tell he enjoys it, I'm just not sure of which way to move in the 'rocking' position.

Also...when he trust upward, is it with me or against me? You know, like if I'm going up and down and I go up, is he suppose tp thrust up then or thrust as I come back down? This is also another problem with me on top...if I'm going up and he's thrusting as I do it just seems really unblanaced and we just end up flipping over so he's on top.

Only one of you should thrust, try yourself going first, the position is all about the girl having control of the tempo. You should find if you move gently (try rocking back and forth) that you stay engaged easier. Once you're more used to it then try up and down. If he thrusts then you just go along for the ride - unless you can time your down motions with his up ones. It's a gentle motion you want.

okay, i was on top today and i tried the rocking motion but it just didnt seem to fit the mood so i tried going up and down. my guy kept trying to push my knees further back which was really uncomfortable bc of the surface we were on (carpet) and i leaned back, using his knees as props and was moving up and down and it just kept coming out!

what am i doing wrong?