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I had this problem at the beggining as well .It is not so easy to learn and you need strong leg muscles (or inner thight muscles, to be more precise).
First you can try to be on top and try to use your hand to rub his penis to your clit. Try to make yourself feel relaxed and comfortable, then insert it inside and slowly slowly try to lift your hips a bit and slowly sit down on him. That is the very basics, once you succeed in seeing how it goes, try to do it faster, from different angles. Ask him to hold your hips - that also helps a lot.

If you bounce in an up and down motion...yes that will tire out your legs...I prefer a more front to back grinding motion.

^ yes this is also an option which I guess gives more pleasure for a woman. But I found that guys really prefer up-down motion.

Not a dumb question, I definitely feel a little insecure with that position as well and it always holds me back!

Adding onto this question - I have had problems with my "men" (I use quotations as I am referring to past boyfriends, not multiple sex partners, although nothing wrong with that either) falling out. This happens mostly when going up and down... and it doesn't matter what size. Has happened whether they were big or or not, which is why I guess I have become so self-conscious - I must be doing something wrong! Also, with the grinding motion, same problem, I feel like it just isn't doing anything for them. Anyway to avoid the up-down problem? It just puts such a damper on things having to stop... and the grinding... I don't know, really maybe I am just not doing it right... I feel like the angles are all wrong....maybe? Is there anyway yall hold your bodies when you are grinding?)

Gonna check those sites posted above and I love the advice from the ladies, I get all that - but are there any guys on the board that could help shed some light to the issue? I don't think it's that I don't know what I am doing, but at the same time I don't think I am 100% correct.

actually - the last "click here" was great - thanks!

Damn, you are pretty stupid..how old are you ? 13? In my opinion, girls should do most of the work...I would prefer my gf to do all the work...its alot better..Anyway first you have to get him hard ..just use your hand or mouth or feet or whatever..Once he is nice and hard you just get on top of him and slowly sit down/slide down on his penis...make sure his penis is kinda wet or slippery also..that way it slide up your vaginal easier..Once it is inside..you have to "ride" it...basically just move back and forth, kinda grinding it..back and forth, you can do it fast and slow. Then you can change it up by going up and down, up and down and back and forth and just keep doing it until he can't take it anymore...

One thing I would recommend when you are on top is to find out what you like by going slowly. Find out what is most pleasurable with various techniques with your hips and legs. Simple up and down may not do it for you and may cause some slippage.

From my experiences...

One of my favorite techniques my girlfriend uses is she will basically put me in as deep as I can go and use all hips. She has very strong, thick legs so she can basically move my entire body with her hips in this position. Giving her this sort of power and letting her take it is a huge turn-on for me.

Another thing to remember is to get into it as much as you can. My girlfriend will always use her hands to grab my chest and arms when she is on top. When she is close to climaxing, she will lean in to kiss me. Also, put your breasts in your boyfriends face or tease him with them. Lean in like you are going to place your nipples on his mouth, then before he can get his lips on them, sit up and take them away. It's another form of control.

Another thing I suggest is reverse missionary. When you are on top, lean into him, get your bodies as close as you can and kiss him. If he begins to thrust in and out when you are on top, get into it with moans and signs of pleasure. If he doesn't thrust into you, slowly slide your vagina up and down with him inside you.

You have to also find out what kind of person you are sexually and what kind of person he is. From the sounds of it, you sound pretty submissive if you do not know what to do on top. Basically, the person on top has to be dominant. They have to take control because of the positioning they naturally have control anyway.

[QUOTE=asianguy32;179806]Damn, you are pretty stupid..how old are you ? 13? In my opinion, girls should do most of the work...I would prefer my gf to do all the work...its alot better..Anyway first you have to get him hard ..just use your hand or mouth or feet or whatever..Once he is nice and hard you just get on top of him and slowly sit down/slide down on his penis...make sure his penis is kinda wet or slippery also..that way it slide up your vaginal easier..Once it is inside..you have to "ride" it...basically just move back and forth, kinda grinding it..back and forth, you can do it fast and slow. Then you can change it up by going up and down, up and down and back and forth and just keep doing it until he can't take it anymore...[/QUOTE]

Don't listen to this kid, it's somewhat sound-and generic- advice (once you get past all the poor sentence structure) but sex is suppose to be fun and ideally both partners should put in as much effort as the other. Listen to more of the senior members here they won't put u down like he did.

^ Agreed.
Mr. Asianguy, you obviously never have been a woman, therefore I higkly doubt you can really understand where that difficulty for a girl being on top comes from. For a guy it's all natural, a girl has to learn.
If you can't relate, just be emphatic.

I'm sorry i'm usually a very good advice giver in this forum..but asian your an ass hole..don't treat her like that..you've either never got none or you sucked the first and only time don't treat her bad she's trying her best.

I feel you hunny trust me it gets easier..also if you want to excel try doing a circular motion using your hips they like that a fair bit..don't go too high up or his penis will most likely slide out and any strong excitement going on depending on the guy may stop for a bit..but if it happens and your comfortable enough and don't want to seem..forgive the word "stupid" just say ."I thought I would tease you a little"

simple.
<3 hope that helps..

also i'm sorry if I offended anyone about what I said to the asian but really no one deserves to be treated like that..this is simply from what i've gathered a huge advice forum.<3

I know girls who have problems with being on top because they don't feel comfortable or are afraid they'll do something wrong. What I usually tell them is to blindfold their partners so they don't feel so open or "vulnerable." If the guy can't watch you, you don't feel so exposed. If you don't have a blindfold handy, put a pillow over his face. This might help you be more at ease with bein the dominant partner, and it should get your partner more excited if he's anything like me. When you become more comfortable, let him watch you. Give him a show and play with your nipples, or use his hands to play with your nipples. Whatever. You're in control, so he has to play by your rules.

As far as movement, grinding works great, and if you ever get tired, lean down into reverse missionary, and your partner can actually do all the work in that position simply by raising his thighs and thrusting. You'd be surprised by the amount of leverage a guy can get in that position. Also, you can grind with him while he's thrusting too. If you can time your grinding hip movements with his thrusts, you'll be in for the ride of your life! You can try pushing your hips down when your partner retracts, and pulling your hips up when he thrusts upwards, or vice versa. However, you'll want to be careful to not seperate your hips too far away from his if you choose to move your hips opposite his or he may slide out.

hello... when I am on top its pretty easy just grind your hips back and forth its like dancing haha.. move forward and back rotate your hips.. another thins is reach back and massage his balls.. My boyfriend loves when I do that.. just experiment and see what he likes.. good luck

my wife used to like the missionary position until she discover being on top turns her on more. She can control the length of my penis in her and the depth that she likes. She can achieve orgasms much easier as she could also rub her clit on my pubic.

there are lots of things a girl can do when she's on top. like teasing her own nipples as she ride on his hardness. or even offering her nipples for him to suck n lick.

You just have to experiment and soon you will find your own comfort level.

My wife now likes to ge on top ......missionary is a thing in the past

I agree it is not a dumb question at all. I felt the same way you do when I first started having sex and experimenting with different positions. Now my favorite position is on top. I like it because i have more control of the motion and speed. Even though I am not a fan of porn necessarily you can watch a couple of Adult DVDs to get a little bit of a picture of what can be done on top. A little bit graphic but somewhat helpful at the same time.

Trust me once you are comfortable with sex, it will become your favorite position. Good Luck!:)