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Hi people,
Please help. I'm new to this. My bf and I have been able to have sex twice but it's been really tough! I'm in a whole lot of pain. At first it was impossible we finally made it, but i'm still in so much pain. Yes I understand the hymen thing, thats not my problem. And yes I finally was able to get wet enough. But I'm just really sore and I think my vagina has gone into shock. I'm dreading trying again in alot of ways. It's pretty bad, cause i have a real high pain tolerance but this is hole nother mountian (if that makes any sense). It's mostly the fit that is so awkward. So my questions are these...How long before it gets better? Is anyone else having this problem? Anybody have any advice to make things less painfull? I think i would just like to hear that it is gonna get better-even good. All that media movie stuff is a bunch of bull! Sex is so frikkin tough. It dosn't just happen at least for me it hasn't. Alright folks if you have any comments i would love to hear them, thank you.
cheers, usachic
ok.. sounds to me he is alot larger fit than your hole.. correct me if im wrong but it sounds like it..
Basically when exactly does it hurt? when he goes in to far or just the whole tightness of the vagina?
if it is him going in to far, try being ontop and just not pushing down as far or tell him not to go in to deep because it hurts.
If it is the tightness then yes it should get better over time as the vagina will stretch and therefore get used to it.. though being a male i am not sure how long this could take, depends on the rate of the stretch i would say.
most vagina's will fit most penis's. just take it slow to start with and be patient.
I agree with Talie. Specifically, consider asking your bf to take it slow with the action. If he pounds at you for thrity minutes, you're going to be sore regardless of the size of anything! You can also try changing up the pace and level of penetration. He doesn't need to ram it all the way in with every thrust for it to feel good for either of you. Additionally, consider introducing lube into the mix...you make think you're plenty wet, but the lube can really make a difference--especially if you're having sex for extended periods of time. I don't know if any of this will help you because I don't know exactly how the sex is going...but...it may help somewhat! Good luck!
1. Ignore the posts here.
2. In google, search vaginismus. There are several threads here that you should read as well.
While Talie is correct, women suffering from vaginismus just cannot get in because of involuntary contraction of the muscles. Study up a bit and then we can answer moe=re questions.
With all due respect to Brandye, I think that ignoring the other suggestions posted here and jumping immediately to the conclusion that you have a medical condition would be hasty, considering 1) that you've only had sex all of 2 times in your life, and 2) Vaginismus is an uncommon condition, occurring in less than 2% of women in the US.
Try googling "Painful sexual intercourse" or "Dyspareunia" instead if you're looking for more information on possible cuases.
Medline is a pretty good resource. MedlinePlus brings together authoritative information from NLM, the National Institutes of Health (NIH), and other government agencies and health-related organizations.
Don't worry too much if it hurts the first couple times - mine was the same way. Fingering and taking it slow will really help make things easier. I was unable to have sex the 1st time, so we waited, and eventually it worked itseslf out! Relax yourself... it really helps!